“You will have 100% success with the device to work. During the interview, potential employers will listen to you breathlessly, even if you are talking nonsense. Your abilities will make them believe that you are the best candidate they need. Become the master of your life! Attract money! Become successful in everything! Become the chosen one! "You can get all these benefits by coming to study at an NLP center. Is it so? Let's figure it out ...
Back in 1973, two rebel revolutionaries gathered in the United States who do not recognize the framework and conventions, Richard Bandler and John Grinder; gathered in order to make a revolution in the minds of many people, using cybernetic-mathematical models to control the psyche. An absolutely innovative experiment based on the psychophysiological experiments of Pavlov, the philosophy of Korzybski, the cybernetic concepts of Pribram and George Miller, and on the works of Maslow, Rogers, Frank Farrelli and other humanistic psychologists, gained immense popularity and very soon grew into a whole current called NLP - neurolinguistic programming ... The name, of course, is rather complicated ... Here is what one of the founders, Grinder, says about it: “When we wrote the first book, we had to name something what we do, and we decided to call it “NLP”. We did not think that it would be of interest to anyone other than our students and a narrow circle of specialists. When we realized it, it was already too late to change something. "
Initially, NLP was concerned with identifying the constructive and successful features of the work of the consciousness and the unconscious of famous and advanced people, reducing them to the level of algorithms, and developing psychotechnics based on these algorithms. The idea is one hundred percent revolutionary and deserves a thunderous applause, since it helped to find harmony, success, moral and physical health, and change lives for the better for many people. The problem is that, like any popular movement, NLP over time began to grow overgrown with myths and implausible stories. Therefore, if you have not yet become a victim of such legends and do not plan to become one, let's figure out which information to trust and which not.
The goal, of course, is very noble, innovative and carries elements of genius (could the great grandfather Freud have thought that his brainchildren - Id, Ego and Superego - would someday be mercilessly dismembered and algorithmized ...?). And it was this attempt that helped, for example, replace standard mistakes in learning with more effective strategies for mastering new material. But there are some points in this all that are not as unequivocally optimistic as Grinder and Bandler would like. So, let's go through all the assumptions that became the basis for the creation of NLP in order.
1. A talented person differs from an ordinary person by the presence of unconscious mental strategies. In other words - good intuition, the ability to use the experience that has settled in the unconscious layer of the psyche.
Yes, indeed, feeling helps to achieve success or avoid troubles, while often ingenious discoveries are made intuitively. In general, everyone has intuition, it is an appeal to unconscious experience, bypassing logic; But remember that if you do not have good life experience or, at worst, a well-rooted theory, then your intuition simply will not have a database from which to get insights or spontaneous decisions that lead to success. On the other hand, each situation is individual - it has its own conditions, actors, states, moods, moral values; and the successful experience of Leonardo da Vinci in a similar but still different situation can lead to dire consequences. In this sense, someone else's, even algorithmized experience is unlikely to be better than unpolished, but its own ... The "plus" of this approach is that,
2. These strategies are not recognized by the talents themselves, but can be formalized by researchers. They can, of course, they can ... But here's the catch:
You can object to me: "All these characteristics can be copied and used to adjust to another person, in order to ... zombify him (see the section" Myths about NLP ")". Let's look at this with an example. Let's say you decided to make a gift to your nervous system and go to the store for a brand new Corsair H70 cooling system, but you only have enough money for the H50. What to do? Of course, ask for a discount. You enter the premises and automatically look for the seller with your eyes. Immediately you figure out ways to influence him, analyzing his leading representational system and the way of processing information received from outside. I will say in advance: if he is an iron logician, and you are a creative intuition (or vice versa), then there may be misunderstandings and a general lack of personal connection, so here adjustment and reflection will be very useful. And already at this stage, difficulties may arise: what to do if the seller has enviable logic and does not recognize emotions, and you live with aesthetic sensations, hope for intuition, and have never thought about the difference between "echo" and "print "(and cooling you you only need to silently brut the admin accounts of photo stocks)
? You can, of course, take it with your natural charm, however, it is not a fact that it will work. Okay, let's not talk about the bad, after all, you are a hacker, and your logic also deserves admiration. take it with your natural charm, however, it is not a fact that will work. Okay, let's not talk about the bad, after all, you are a hacker, and your logic also deserves admiration. take it with your natural charm, however, it is not a fact that will work. Okay, let's not talk about the bad, after all, you are a hacker, and your logic also deserves admiration.
The next stage is the impact on the subject: you adjust to his representative system and begin the attack with a word, more precisely, with logical arguments, because he will perceive them adequately. You need to clearly explain why he should give you cooling for less than the stated price. Suppose if he liked you (due to adjustment or just as a person), and he does not mind giving you the difference in price - consider that the job is done. But at this stage, snags are also possible: what for you can be indisputable proof, for him will turn out to be an insignificant fact from your life, in other words - he does not care about your map of the world, he has his own. This is a common problem of many convincing people: they forget that each person looks at the world in his own way, and in order to leave a dent in his worldview, you need to know in advance the features of this very worldview (or the map of the world, if it is more convenient for you). Now think about it: can you immediately navigate and pick up arguments that affect the specific beliefs of the seller?
But do not despair - not everything is so hopeless. First, if you successfully adjust, perhaps intuitively you will begin to think like him, and the seeds of your words will fall into the fertile soil of his attitude; secondly, in a dispute, whoever is more confident is right: if you are more confident in your position than he is in his own, he will yield. If confidence is at the same level - here is how it will turn out ... A good example is the dialogue between brothers and the seller (the book of Agota Christophe "The Fat Notebook"):
- We need these things, but we have no money.
- What? But ... you have to pay.
- We have no money, but we absolutely need these things.
...
We don't say anything else, we look at him. He also looks at us. Sweat beads on his forehead. After a minute he shouts:
- Don't look at me like that! Get out of here!
We are speaking:
- In exchange for these things, we are ready to do work for you: water your garden, for example ...
- I have no vegetable garden! I don't need you! And besides, you can't speak normally?
- We speak normally.
...
He throws our paper, pencils and notebook out the door and yells:
- Go away! Take everything and never come back!
We pick things carefully and say:
“However, we will have to return when the paper runs out and the pencils are finished.
Do you understand? The seller can be worn out, and when he realizes that his peace of mind is more expensive than the difference in price, perhaps you will receive the desired discount. If you analyze the situation, you will see that the success of the business depends on many factors: careful preparation, partly on luck, your ability to feel and influence the feelings (logic), mood, motivation and personal structure of the seller, his willingness to make concessions and the value of the thing, which he is ready to concede. But we are not talking about "zombifying with NLP techniques" here. These techniques can really help you get what you want if the circumstances are favorable, or mitigate those circumstances if they are unfavorable. But you are unlikely to be able to accomplish the unlikely with a couple of NLP techniques;
.
In fact, we are talking about the type of associations, and if at the moment of rosy experiences you take her by the wrist, be prepared for the fact that the association may go in the wrong direction, that is, she will notice it and think: “Some strange ... What does he want? ”, And the next time you touch your wrist, thoughts will be something like:“ Hmm… what does this remind me of? Ahh, I remembered! This is the same Vasya! What did he want from me then, strange ... "
In moments of despair, a person, on the contrary, loses integrity, and he needs moral support. Here you have much more chances: to be there at the right time, to cheer up or help in solving a problem. Thanks to you, she will restore the lost integrity, and as a result, you get the formula: she (in tears) + you (and your support) = integrity. If such cases happen regularly, it will become a habit, and this is what we have: integrity - you (and your support) = she (in tears). Here even some dependence turns out, and then it is not far from falling in love (especially if you are handsome). To check the effectiveness of the method, after all the adventures, talk about another girl, if you notice something like resentment or jealousy, consider the scheme worked. Anchoring is not necessary in this case, adjustment with mirroring is also not necessary.
Now about the zombie: if you think that with the help of some technique you can cleanly format the consciousness of another person and install your programs - perhaps you are right, but only if you are a talented psychotherapist with excellent command of hypnotic techniques, and the future zombie agrees to conduct over himself a similar experience. If you have passed only the first-second stage of "NLP-Practitioner" (at later stages the goal of "zombifying" is no longer so important), and your experimental does not want to become a zombie, then most likely you will face a harsh reality.
As I wrote above, elements of different sciences were used as the basis for neurolinguistic programming, but NLP is not officially considered an independent science. Almost all the techniques were borrowed either in other psychological movements, or in esotericism, the categorical apparatus is also not self-sufficient - if we translate the abstruse NLP terms into normal language, then “anchoring” will become “association”, “world map "-" worldview "," reframing "-" rethinking. "In general, scientific research, even if it is based on the theory and practice of other sciences, implies a versatile view of the object or phenomenon under study. NLP is based on the work of, as a rule, one or two scientists from each field (the exception is psychology). That is, the approach is one-sided, so it can be assumed that the creators could have missed a lot. Nowadays there are very few people who are really serious, with a scientific approach, engaged in NLP; These are mainly self-taught trainers or those who have completed 3-4 levels, teaching everyone who is able to pay for the course. And do not care at the same time on the peculiarities of the psyche, scientific approach, side effects and distorted information.
Well, and control in the head: science deals with patterns, evidence, research, measurements; combinatorics is only a part of some sciences.
In popular NLP, not a single technique gives a net result even by 70-80% (by net result I mean the result that the technique gave directly, while I do not take into account a successful combination of circumstances, influence in other ways, and the like), not to mention about the research side.
And finally, a few words about a competent approach, or how not to fall victim to the other side of the coin.
1.In pursuit of rapid efficiency, modern coaches forget that NLP is work with the psyche, one's own and another's. And the whole danger is that metaprogramming teaches how to work with the subconscious, but does not pay enough attention to how the subconscious itself and its pitfalls work. It is very rare among NLP fans to find real psychologists who have at least graduated from a university, not to mention the classic professional practice. But it is practice in the field (and not in trainings) that gives an understanding of the basics. By the way, a similar problem is now in Gestalt psychology (a direction that ascribes to the psyche the perception of the surrounding world as an integral structure, and not as separate solves) his problem, after which he receives a diploma and the right to "treat" others. After such hairdressers,
2. Obsessed with the desire to zombie everyone in a row, many "future" NLP'ers do not notice how they themselves turn into zombies: everything said by a charismatic is taken on faith, without even trying to critically analyze what he heard. .. And often an attempt to influence the consciousness of other people turns into self-deception, which, with prolonged exposure to the psyche of the practitioner himself, threatens with various mental disorders (depending on temperament and personality characteristics).
3. When choosing a teacher or institute, be careful and attentive: there are now very few people who are really advanced in NLP. As a rule, 90% of coaches are people like you, who have just completed 2-3 steps, and most of them are driven not by interest and craving for learning, but by the thirst for profit. Therefore, as soon as they finish the course, they immediately recruit new recruits and enthusiastically retell them the notes they wrote down a couple of months ago. Perhaps thanks to such instances, NLP has moved from the category of a hypothetically possible science to the category of sect-like MLM (multilevel marketing).
Summing up all that has been written, we can say that it is not the wonderful abbreviation NLP, but individual feeling, understanding and experience that gives success and effectiveness.
Richard generally liked to use various antisocial opportunities: alcohol, cocaine, physical abuse of his wife, ridiculous threats against his NLP colleagues (he promised to hire the mafia, weirdo). What are the trials connected with the murder of a prostitute (see block-box "The Corina Kristen Case") and the conquest of the right to be called the intellectual owner of NLP ... then new may be not only interest, but also a wild desire to resist accepted social norms.
Back in 1973, two rebel revolutionaries gathered in the United States who do not recognize the framework and conventions, Richard Bandler and John Grinder; gathered in order to make a revolution in the minds of many people, using cybernetic-mathematical models to control the psyche. An absolutely innovative experiment based on the psychophysiological experiments of Pavlov, the philosophy of Korzybski, the cybernetic concepts of Pribram and George Miller, and on the works of Maslow, Rogers, Frank Farrelli and other humanistic psychologists, gained immense popularity and very soon grew into a whole current called NLP - neurolinguistic programming ... The name, of course, is rather complicated ... Here is what one of the founders, Grinder, says about it: “When we wrote the first book, we had to name something what we do, and we decided to call it “NLP”. We did not think that it would be of interest to anyone other than our students and a narrow circle of specialists. When we realized it, it was already too late to change something. "
Initially, NLP was concerned with identifying the constructive and successful features of the work of the consciousness and the unconscious of famous and advanced people, reducing them to the level of algorithms, and developing psychotechnics based on these algorithms. The idea is one hundred percent revolutionary and deserves a thunderous applause, since it helped to find harmony, success, moral and physical health, and change lives for the better for many people. The problem is that, like any popular movement, NLP over time began to grow overgrown with myths and implausible stories. Therefore, if you have not yet become a victim of such legends and do not plan to become one, let's figure out which information to trust and which not.
The basics of NLP through the eyes of an outside observer, or a critical analysis of basic points
At one of the points of students-mathematicians-and-programmers-interested in psychology, the guys, being influenced by creative inspiration and fateful insights, put forward several assumptions that in the future formed the basis for the creation of NLP:- A talented person differs from a non-talented person by the presence of unconscious strategies of behavior and reactions to influencing external and internal circumstances;
- These strategies can be brought to a conscious level by mental researchers;
- These strategies can be taught to others and can be used to successfully achieve goals in all areas of life.
The goal, of course, is very noble, innovative and carries elements of genius (could the great grandfather Freud have thought that his brainchildren - Id, Ego and Superego - would someday be mercilessly dismembered and algorithmized ...?). And it was this attempt that helped, for example, replace standard mistakes in learning with more effective strategies for mastering new material. But there are some points in this all that are not as unequivocally optimistic as Grinder and Bandler would like. So, let's go through all the assumptions that became the basis for the creation of NLP in order.
1. A talented person differs from an ordinary person by the presence of unconscious mental strategies. In other words - good intuition, the ability to use the experience that has settled in the unconscious layer of the psyche.
Yes, indeed, feeling helps to achieve success or avoid troubles, while often ingenious discoveries are made intuitively. In general, everyone has intuition, it is an appeal to unconscious experience, bypassing logic; But remember that if you do not have good life experience or, at worst, a well-rooted theory, then your intuition simply will not have a database from which to get insights or spontaneous decisions that lead to success. On the other hand, each situation is individual - it has its own conditions, actors, states, moods, moral values; and the successful experience of Leonardo da Vinci in a similar but still different situation can lead to dire consequences. In this sense, someone else's, even algorithmized experience is unlikely to be better than unpolished, but its own ... The "plus" of this approach is that,
2. These strategies are not recognized by the talents themselves, but can be formalized by researchers. They can, of course, they can ... But here's the catch:
- Not all geniuses will allow themselves to be used as guinea pigs;
- If they do, it is not a fact that they will demonstrate all their unconscious (!!!) strategies of thinking and behavior;
- If they do, it is not a fact that the next time in a similar situation they will not spontaneously give out a completely different, no less successful strategy. Intuition is above all flexibility (which, by the way, is what all NLP'ers strive for), not a set of templates. Why, for example, a person with good intuition knows who can be approached to get acquainted with, and who is undesirable.
You can object to me: "All these characteristics can be copied and used to adjust to another person, in order to ... zombify him (see the section" Myths about NLP ")". Let's look at this with an example. Let's say you decided to make a gift to your nervous system and go to the store for a brand new Corsair H70 cooling system, but you only have enough money for the H50. What to do? Of course, ask for a discount. You enter the premises and automatically look for the seller with your eyes. Immediately you figure out ways to influence him, analyzing his leading representational system and the way of processing information received from outside. I will say in advance: if he is an iron logician, and you are a creative intuition (or vice versa), then there may be misunderstandings and a general lack of personal connection, so here adjustment and reflection will be very useful. And already at this stage, difficulties may arise: what to do if the seller has enviable logic and does not recognize emotions, and you live with aesthetic sensations, hope for intuition, and have never thought about the difference between "echo" and "print "(and cooling you you only need to silently brut the admin accounts of photo stocks)
? You can, of course, take it with your natural charm, however, it is not a fact that it will work. Okay, let's not talk about the bad, after all, you are a hacker, and your logic also deserves admiration. take it with your natural charm, however, it is not a fact that will work. Okay, let's not talk about the bad, after all, you are a hacker, and your logic also deserves admiration. take it with your natural charm, however, it is not a fact that will work. Okay, let's not talk about the bad, after all, you are a hacker, and your logic also deserves admiration.The next stage is the impact on the subject: you adjust to his representative system and begin the attack with a word, more precisely, with logical arguments, because he will perceive them adequately. You need to clearly explain why he should give you cooling for less than the stated price. Suppose if he liked you (due to adjustment or just as a person), and he does not mind giving you the difference in price - consider that the job is done. But at this stage, snags are also possible: what for you can be indisputable proof, for him will turn out to be an insignificant fact from your life, in other words - he does not care about your map of the world, he has his own. This is a common problem of many convincing people: they forget that each person looks at the world in his own way, and in order to leave a dent in his worldview, you need to know in advance the features of this very worldview (or the map of the world, if it is more convenient for you). Now think about it: can you immediately navigate and pick up arguments that affect the specific beliefs of the seller?
But do not despair - not everything is so hopeless. First, if you successfully adjust, perhaps intuitively you will begin to think like him, and the seeds of your words will fall into the fertile soil of his attitude; secondly, in a dispute, whoever is more confident is right: if you are more confident in your position than he is in his own, he will yield. If confidence is at the same level - here is how it will turn out ... A good example is the dialogue between brothers and the seller (the book of Agota Christophe "The Fat Notebook"):
- We need these things, but we have no money.
- What? But ... you have to pay.
- We have no money, but we absolutely need these things.
...
We don't say anything else, we look at him. He also looks at us. Sweat beads on his forehead. After a minute he shouts:
- Don't look at me like that! Get out of here!
We are speaking:
- In exchange for these things, we are ready to do work for you: water your garden, for example ...
- I have no vegetable garden! I don't need you! And besides, you can't speak normally?
- We speak normally.
...
He throws our paper, pencils and notebook out the door and yells:
- Go away! Take everything and never come back!
We pick things carefully and say:
“However, we will have to return when the paper runs out and the pencils are finished.
Do you understand? The seller can be worn out, and when he realizes that his peace of mind is more expensive than the difference in price, perhaps you will receive the desired discount. If you analyze the situation, you will see that the success of the business depends on many factors: careful preparation, partly on luck, your ability to feel and influence the feelings (logic), mood, motivation and personal structure of the seller, his willingness to make concessions and the value of the thing, which he is ready to concede. But we are not talking about "zombifying with NLP techniques" here. These techniques can really help you get what you want if the circumstances are favorable, or mitigate those circumstances if they are unfavorable. But you are unlikely to be able to accomplish the unlikely with a couple of NLP techniques;
Myths about NLP
I hope you haven't been disappointed as you contemplate the crumbling of the wonders of NLP? My goal today is to get you out of the state of NLP euphoria and drive you into a severe depression of reality. Therefore, I will probably play myth destroyer.Anchoring aka Magic Wand
During the preparation of the article, the editor asked the question: is it possible, using NLP techniques, for example, anchoring, to fall in love with the most beautiful girl in the world? As one of the most beautiful girls in the world, I will answer: "Ha ha ha!". As the author of an article about NLP, I will say: "Of course." As a psychologist, I can say: "It is possible, and not necessarily with the help of anchoring or in general NLP techniques." You already know that anchoring is carried out at the peak of an emotional experience, and it is believed that at the moment of experiencing positive emotions, positive anchoring occurs, with negative experiences - negative. But such a division is conditional, and this can be proved by the example of "falling in love with a beautiful girl." At the moment when a person is experiencing a peak of positive emotions, he is very self-sufficient, he already feels good, and who is nearby - you, someone else or no one at all - is not so important, as he is focused on the source of positivity. Besides, "anchoring" is a very clever word.In fact, we are talking about the type of associations, and if at the moment of rosy experiences you take her by the wrist, be prepared for the fact that the association may go in the wrong direction, that is, she will notice it and think: “Some strange ... What does he want? ”, And the next time you touch your wrist, thoughts will be something like:“ Hmm… what does this remind me of? Ahh, I remembered! This is the same Vasya! What did he want from me then, strange ... "
In moments of despair, a person, on the contrary, loses integrity, and he needs moral support. Here you have much more chances: to be there at the right time, to cheer up or help in solving a problem. Thanks to you, she will restore the lost integrity, and as a result, you get the formula: she (in tears) + you (and your support) = integrity. If such cases happen regularly, it will become a habit, and this is what we have: integrity - you (and your support) = she (in tears). Here even some dependence turns out, and then it is not far from falling in love (especially if you are handsome). To check the effectiveness of the method, after all the adventures, talk about another girl, if you notice something like resentment or jealousy, consider the scheme worked. Anchoring is not necessary in this case, adjustment with mirroring is also not necessary.
With the help of NLP, you can zombify a person or a group of people
The craving for spectacles is to blame for everything. In Soviet times, if you remember, "fabulousness" was sorely lacking; after the collapse of the USSR, a detachment of various hypnotists like Anatoly Kashpirovsky and Alan Chumak appeared, who compensated the frustrated people for all the lack of miracles in the form of miraculous healing, almost reviving the dead (here's the zombie for you). Our black-and-white or bad-color television screens were full of howling and roaring people with closed eyes, swaying to the beat of the music that accompanied the hypnotist's smugly directive speech. It was at this time that the phenomena of self-hypnosis and the placebo effect broke all records, while giving hope that you can make a person do what you need with a simple combination of words. And since there were only two Chumakov and Kashpirovsky, and they were incomparable, then NLP, offering to work the same miracles, only without an innate talent, had just the right time. The magical and incomprehensible words "reframing", "meta-model", "anchoring", "submodality", "calibration" have become an effective seasoning when creating a "miracle".
Now about the zombie: if you think that with the help of some technique you can cleanly format the consciousness of another person and install your programs - perhaps you are right, but only if you are a talented psychotherapist with excellent command of hypnotic techniques, and the future zombie agrees to conduct over himself a similar experience. If you have passed only the first-second stage of "NLP-Practitioner" (at later stages the goal of "zombifying" is no longer so important), and your experimental does not want to become a zombie, then most likely you will face a harsh reality.
NLP is a science
Professional psychotherapists grin sarcastically at this statement, based on which, in general, pickupers can be called scientific researchers.As I wrote above, elements of different sciences were used as the basis for neurolinguistic programming, but NLP is not officially considered an independent science. Almost all the techniques were borrowed either in other psychological movements, or in esotericism, the categorical apparatus is also not self-sufficient - if we translate the abstruse NLP terms into normal language, then “anchoring” will become “association”, “world map "-" worldview "," reframing "-" rethinking. "In general, scientific research, even if it is based on the theory and practice of other sciences, implies a versatile view of the object or phenomenon under study. NLP is based on the work of, as a rule, one or two scientists from each field (the exception is psychology). That is, the approach is one-sided, so it can be assumed that the creators could have missed a lot. Nowadays there are very few people who are really serious, with a scientific approach, engaged in NLP; These are mainly self-taught trainers or those who have completed 3-4 levels, teaching everyone who is able to pay for the course. And do not care at the same time on the peculiarities of the psyche, scientific approach, side effects and distorted information.
Well, and control in the head: science deals with patterns, evidence, research, measurements; combinatorics is only a part of some sciences.
In popular NLP, not a single technique gives a net result even by 70-80% (by net result I mean the result that the technique gave directly, while I do not take into account a successful combination of circumstances, influence in other ways, and the like), not to mention about the research side.
Caveats
Perhaps you are an open-minded person, and you understand that everything said above is just my "map of the world." And in this you are absolutely right. So, if you do decide to do NLP, that's great, because developing observation and memorizing difficult words is much better than aimlessly surfing social media sites. Yes, the techniques are really taken from other scientific and esoteric directions, and despite the fact that they do not always correspond to the declared results, nevertheless, a positive result with a competent approach is ensured.And finally, a few words about a competent approach, or how not to fall victim to the other side of the coin.
1.In pursuit of rapid efficiency, modern coaches forget that NLP is work with the psyche, one's own and another's. And the whole danger is that metaprogramming teaches how to work with the subconscious, but does not pay enough attention to how the subconscious itself and its pitfalls work. It is very rare among NLP fans to find real psychologists who have at least graduated from a university, not to mention the classic professional practice. But it is practice in the field (and not in trainings) that gives an understanding of the basics. By the way, a similar problem is now in Gestalt psychology (a direction that ascribes to the psyche the perception of the surrounding world as an integral structure, and not as separate solves) his problem, after which he receives a diploma and the right to "treat" others. After such hairdressers,
2. Obsessed with the desire to zombie everyone in a row, many "future" NLP'ers do not notice how they themselves turn into zombies: everything said by a charismatic is taken on faith, without even trying to critically analyze what he heard. .. And often an attempt to influence the consciousness of other people turns into self-deception, which, with prolonged exposure to the psyche of the practitioner himself, threatens with various mental disorders (depending on temperament and personality characteristics).
3. When choosing a teacher or institute, be careful and attentive: there are now very few people who are really advanced in NLP. As a rule, 90% of coaches are people like you, who have just completed 2-3 steps, and most of them are driven not by interest and craving for learning, but by the thirst for profit. Therefore, as soon as they finish the course, they immediately recruit new recruits and enthusiastically retell them the notes they wrote down a couple of months ago. Perhaps thanks to such instances, NLP has moved from the category of a hypothetically possible science to the category of sect-like MLM (multilevel marketing).
Summing up all that has been written, we can say that it is not the wonderful abbreviation NLP, but individual feeling, understanding and experience that gives success and effectiveness.
Hero or Rebel?
The dry biography of Richard Bandler is not interesting to retell. Much more interesting is the fact that one of the creators of NLP was a "rip and throw" personality: at the age of 10, he made the first attempt to murder his stepfather, bringing an electric wire to a wet rug; as a young man he was a rebel, starting his "career" with the hippie protest stream. He always had his own opinion on everything and fiercely defended it, even if it was about the smallest details, which drove the teachers to despair. If it was possible to break the rules, he certainly took this opportunity.Richard generally liked to use various antisocial opportunities: alcohol, cocaine, physical abuse of his wife, ridiculous threats against his NLP colleagues (he promised to hire the mafia, weirdo
). What are the trials connected with the murder of a prostitute (see block-box "The Corina Kristen Case") and the conquest of the right to be called the intellectual owner of NLP ... then new may be not only interest, but also a wild desire to resist accepted social norms.
