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If you have any kind of phobia - afraid of spiders, flying on an airplane, getting into an elevator (the list is almost endless) - then you probably realize the absurdity of your fears.
But you can’t help yourself. You break out in sticky sweat and panic at the thought of a spider or the need to fly. Why is it so hard to deal with yourself?
Because a very long time ago, when you were just a toddler, your beloved adult did not allow you to openly express feelings that are considered "bad": he did not allow you to be openly angry or cry out loudly about your childhood trouble.
And then your feelings, which you used to suppress, found another way out - they were transformed into vague anxiety. It is difficult to endure, sometimes unbearable. Therefore, the psyche is trying to help you - it is looking for a specific object to which fear can be directed.
Hello, fear of heights, enclosed spaces, cockroaches, clowns, darkness, etc.
Is it possible to get rid of a phobia?
Yes, if not to fight the symptoms, but to look for the root of this irrational fear: why are we afraid of this? What are we actually avoiding? And when a person realizes what is the essence of his inner conflict, learns to live his feelings and accepts himself as he is, the phobia will lose its strength and disappear.
But you can’t help yourself. You break out in sticky sweat and panic at the thought of a spider or the need to fly. Why is it so hard to deal with yourself?
Because a very long time ago, when you were just a toddler, your beloved adult did not allow you to openly express feelings that are considered "bad": he did not allow you to be openly angry or cry out loudly about your childhood trouble.
And then your feelings, which you used to suppress, found another way out - they were transformed into vague anxiety. It is difficult to endure, sometimes unbearable. Therefore, the psyche is trying to help you - it is looking for a specific object to which fear can be directed.
Hello, fear of heights, enclosed spaces, cockroaches, clowns, darkness, etc.
Is it possible to get rid of a phobia?
Yes, if not to fight the symptoms, but to look for the root of this irrational fear: why are we afraid of this? What are we actually avoiding? And when a person realizes what is the essence of his inner conflict, learns to live his feelings and accepts himself as he is, the phobia will lose its strength and disappear.
