NLP: The Change Model

[Brother]

Hello everyone, this is Stalilingus! Today I will tell you about the topic with which training begins in all NLP courses (I think that they talk about this in other educational programs).

This topic: Circle of Learning, also called the "Change Model"

In the figure, we see a Cartesian coordinate system with the axes of awareness and competence.

The intersection of these axes creates four sectors:

1. Unconscious incompetence / unconscious ignorance
2. Conscious incompetence / or conscious ignorance
3. Conscious competence / or conscious knowledge
4. Unconscious competence / unconscious knowledge

These are the four states in which we can be while studying something, and it does not matter whether it is a skill or knowledge.

Let's take a closer look further.

1. Unconscious incompetence. (unconscious ignorance). This is when a person is not aware that he does not know something. Simply put, that a person is not at all aware that there is such an area of knowledge. (similar to those who do not know the Learning Circle, and do not know what they are at all)

2. Conscious incompetence. (conscious ignorance). This is when a person is aware that he does not know something. For example, you are now in a state of conscious not knowing, you know that there is a Learning Circle, but what it is, you do not yet know.

3. Conscious competence. (conscious knowledge) I will say about it this way: Knowledge / Skill is already there, but in order to get it up, you need to focus your attention.

Example: I deliberately try new communication techniques. I'm collected when I'm learning a new move or a new movement.

4. Unconscious competence (unconscious knowledge). In a simple way, this is the skill that you can do without consciously. Or knowledge that you tell easily, as if you were born with it. (like poems that you remember from school)

We figured out the value of the sectors. It's time to figure out how we learn. Or, using the language of the learning circle model, how we move from sector to sector. From the first state to the fourth. The conscious path corresponds to three transitions: motivation, study, practice. To the unconscious, the fourth is suggestion, ie direct transition from unconscious incompetence to unconscious competence.

Skill suggestion

Here little depends on us. Only the choice of the person from whom we will learn. If he is not a professional in teaching, we will unconsciously drag the necessary skills from him by directly copying the behavior. This is how we learned from our parents. If he is an NLP trainer, the skill will be instilled in us regardless of our conscious effort.

There is only one practical recommendation here - try to regularly communicate only with those people whom you want to become like. And stop communicating with those whose aura you are afraid to get infected.

Motivation

The transition from unconscious incompetence to conscious. It is often called problematization, because it is the awareness of one's own ignorance and inability. This is often unpleasant, if not painful, but necessary. To solve a problem, you need to acknowledge its existence.

It is difficult to cope with fear if you are not aware of it. It is difficult to become a pleasant conversationalist for someone who does not notice when he is unpleasant. It is impossible to learn how to drive a car if you are sure that you already drive it perfectly.

Awareness of their incompetence often arises as a result of thinking about the causes of injustice in life. Why, for example, do some have a lot of money, while others have little? Why do they reach out to some - they drive others away?

The study

Moving from conscious incompetence to conscious competence. Actually, training. You watch who gets the results you want. You study their experience. You are trying. You are reading books. You go to courses and trainings. You are doing exercise.

And gradually you start getting your first results. Not so cool yet, but already their own! And this is very valuable. Yes, you are straining more than necessary. Yes, you worry from scratch. Yes, you need all your strength. But you do! Yourself! And you do it !!! Sometimes.

At this point, it is important to keep trying. At this stage, it is important to be attentive to any feedback. There is no need to expect too much of yourself.

Practice

Translation of skill into skill. Achieved by regular practice. At every opportunity. Whenever possible. Constantly. With the constant pleasure of growing qualifications.

Practice is all about getting real value out of your skill. The ability to walk allows you to get to the jam. My ability to speak brings me a good income. The ability to set goals correctly leads to the fulfillment of my desires.

You know that if you practice often enough, the skill becomes automatic, and we no longer need to spend so many resources on it. On the contrary, our actions become polished and elegant. And we can even do some other thing along the way. For example, learn another skill. But this is the next round.

Hope this knowledge helps you.

 

[Jollier]

Materials of NLP training by R. Bandler "States of Shamanism".​

The material is quite voluminous, so it is divided into six parts.
I want to greet you this morning. You must be very strange people if you signed up for a seminar with a similar title. It was a test to find out how to choose the most extraordinary from the whole mass of people around. Since I really get tired of being around people who constantly come up and ask me the same questions, for example, they say: "I want to become a business consultant" - in fact, now it is not customary to say that, you need to speak a coach; I don't know how this change made life better; but the term counselor was changed to coach, and the term consultant was changed to group coach, and so on and so forth. But whatever terms you use, there are people who are thinking about the situation related to how they are going to make money.

Yesterday I spoke with a man who wants to change the whole world. Quite a large project if you think about it. I'm trying to imagine if you can get at least a few people to change, and how long it will take. I do things on a smaller scale. I would like to give you a hint, because I am reading the brochure and I myself cannot understand what it is about, let me tell you about my plan.Over the years, people have asked me questions, because my goal is to learn to recognize things, because I started with that imitated people who were considered real magicians in the field of psychotherapy. One of the things I noticed was that even the few who were really successful had no idea what they were doing; they made beautiful descriptions that didn't make any sense. There were also people

I met a guy who is considered one of the leading authorities in Freud's psychotherapy - I'm surprised they called it that - this guy had such complex descriptions - he could describe in great detail and for at least an hour - any patient he ever accepted ; however, in his entire career - he was in his 60s when I met him - he never had a single recovered patient - at all. And he told me this - incredible for me! In fact, he could only describe how the person got worse over time. This, he believed, was a natural part of the psychotherapy process.

On the other hand, my life began in New Jersey - but I don't remember much, because I was quite young, then I moved to San Francisco and grew up in the Chinatown area, there were many very many strange people. There were healers and there were people who taught martial arts and those who treated with acupuncture - I started doing acupuncture when I was about 8 years old. But look, I didn't know it was extraordinary. There was no Kung Fu on TV, these things were not talked about - that was what everyone was doing. If something was wrong with you, you could go to the doctor and he would put you one big fucking needle - or you could go to one of their healers who made you drink something nasty and you would feel better.

One old man - he was a strange old man - did not speak English at all, his daughter was sitting at the entrance behind a small counter, you could come in and tell her that you are not feeling well - that you have the flu or a cold - or that you are sick. Sometimes you might come thinking that you have something like measles - I think I had measles once, but I'm not sure because I didn't go to the doctors. I walked in, she took just one look at me, there was a whole line of children with the same symptoms, you stick your hands through the drape curtain behind which this old man was, and he measures the Chinese pulse; the Chinese pulse is not similar to the Western one - they have 12 pulses - 6 are on the surface next to each other and 6 are deeper; moreover, they measure not only the intensity of all these pulses but also the kind, whether it is fibrous or whether it is a sharp bend, is there a downward trend. It requires a lot more sensory acuity than taking a stethoscope and checking for a heart. But, having devoted years to this occupation, the old man was such a master that he began to say something to his daughter, and then she told about all your ailments in order.

This is really impressive. True, at that age it was not impressive - because I did not know that it was supposed to impress, and the old man did it to everyone. But when I thought about it years later - I went back and found it, because now that I was 30 there were some problems. At that time, I did not have as many illnesses, but even when I was 4, he was able to determine that I had a broken collarbone. Moreover, he did it without speaking to me - only with the help of the pulses, and his daughter told me that I had a severe cough when I was little; I replied that I did not know about it. She continued when you were 4 years old, you broke your collarbone, I clearly remembered that, because my sister pushed me down the stairs. He told me about this - and some other things - that I had measles in school and I had mumps.

I remember this moment well, because the doctor kept telling me that there were no other cases of mumps in the district, and he kept asking me questions such as whether I had gone anywhere, but I really hadn't gone anywhere. I mean, I didn't go anywhere at all, but I lived in a city full of tourists; for some reason, it never occurred to the doctor that I might run into someone with mumps from another part of the world. I would say that at the time, 70% of San Francisco's economy was based on tourism - but for that doctor, it was just a myth. What I really liked was that he examined me so thoroughly that he contracted mumps himself. I was very proud of this because he was a local doctor that most people disliked.

There was another interesting guy, I was afraid of this guy. Because he was a Hindu, and there weren't many Hindus in San Francisco at that time. At least I was pretty sure he was Indian - he wore a turban but spoke very, very good English - better English than any of us. And he was a doctor - he studied Western medicine, went to medical school in San Francisco, but he also walked around the neighborhood and did business. There was one of the things that I saw him do and that even impressed me as a young man. The child had a terrible fever, from which he was all shaking, the doctor came, gave an injection, and said that now he needed to cope with the disease, the child was sweating, the mother was running and bringing him all the new cold clothes to put on; but here came this doctor - a Hindu, he examined the child from head to toe, then pulled away, sang something, threw something at him, walked around, put his hand on the child's head and started shouting something in a language that I did not understand. Suddenly the child sat down, stopped shaking - he was healthy. Cool - I thought. I was too young then, now that I looked back years later, I wish I could find this guy, although, you know, he probably went to medical school and doesn't do that anymore. He probably thought that everything worked out only because he believed then that it would be so. went to medical school and doesn't do that anymore. He probably thought that everything worked out only because he believed then that it would be so. went to medical school and doesn't do that anymore. He probably thought that everything worked out only because he believed then that it would be so. sang something, threw something at him, walked around, put his hand on the child's head and started shouting something in a language that I did not understand. Suddenly the child sat down, stopped shaking - he was healthy.

For several years I have been researching placebos (biologically neutral substances) - some of you have probably heard of them - I was amazed when I learned that all drugs are tested on placebos. We went into research, during which I learned a lot - for example, antibiotics are effective in some situations, but in others they simply do not work; there are also many examples where some people were given medicine, others similar, pacifiers, and everyone seemed to feel better. And in some cases, they gave a kind of new remedy for the disease, which in fact did not work. The people who took the placebo got better. For a long time no one could understand this - for me it is very important; I believe that it matters much more who gives you the medicine than what is inside.

Over the years, when I started doing something else besides psychotherapy - I saw there was something else in it. I have read hundreds of books by 15th century explorers such as Richard Burton, who traveled and found all these great cultures before they were touched by civilization and lived by their natural rights. I went to the area near New Orleans and found people who were doing - I don't know what to call it - Voodoo or something like that; these people practiced everything from the most exotic herbal medicine to summoning spirits. And for them it helped to cure the person.

Now I will say one thing that will be the rule for the next two days, I am not claiming that everything I say is actually true. Your own experience will need to figure this out. What I'm going to talk about is whether there is something in common between all these things and whether there are patterns. Because parts of what these people do fall into different categories. Some of these people were involved in treating people with herbs, which are considered drugs. Most of this we are forbidden to do here, and this is not our goal. We could all be arrested here. People use all these herbs because they see that some of them help to heal, others heal the soul, and still others make a person expand his consciousness. When I lived in the sixties in San Francisco, there were a lot of people there, carried away by the expansion of their consciousness. They read books by Timothy Leary; you can also name authors like Richard Alport, this ball is a barbarian guy, he talked about traveling to India and about becoming enlightened. I practically believed Timothy Leary, met with Baba Ramdas, even thought that he looked like a carefree leader, his whole life said "go there and be enlightened." He did not care about anything, he did nothing but move from place to place and give lectures. Now I see this inexplicable plus, there was something in this guy, I just didn't really like it. You know, enlightened people, I was among the Lamas - not animals, religious people - religious people seem to be lethargic. Although some of them really have energy, they look at you, and you suddenly feel like naked - but, you know, some of these yogis, you can also name authors like Richard Alport, this ball is a barbarian guy, he talked about traveling to India and about becoming enlightened. I practically believed Timothy Leary, met with Baba Ramdas, even thought that he looked like a carefree leader, his whole life said "go there and be enlightened." He did not care about anything, he did nothing but move from place to place and give lectures. Now I see this inexplicable plus, there was something in this guy, I just didn't really like it. You know, enlightened people, I was among the Lamas - not animals, religious people - religious people seem to be lethargic. Although some of them really have energy, they look at you, and you suddenly feel like naked - but, you know, some of these yogis, you can also name authors like Richard Alport, this ball is a barbarian guy, he talked about traveling to India and about becoming enlightened. I practically believed Timothy Leary, met with Baba Ramdas, even thought that he looked like a carefree leader, his whole life said "go there and be enlightened." He did not care about anything, he did nothing but move from place to place and give lectures. Now I see this inexplicable plus, there was something in this guy, I just didn't really like it. You know, enlightened people, I was among the Lamas - not animals, religious people - religious people seem to be lethargic. Although some of them really have energy, they look at you, and you suddenly feel like naked - but, you know, some of these yogis, he talked about traveling to India and about becoming enlightened. I practically believed Timothy Leary, met with Baba Ramdas, even thought that he looked like a carefree leader, his whole life said "go there and be enlightened." He did not care about anything, he did nothing but move from place to place and give lectures. Now I see this inexplicable plus, there was something in this guy, I just didn't really like it. You know, enlightened people, I was among the Lamas - not animals, religious people - religious people seem to be lethargic. Although some of them really have energy, they look at you, and you suddenly feel like naked - but, you know, some of these yogis, he talked about traveling to India and about becoming enlightened. I practically believed Timothy Leary, met with Baba Ramdas, even thought that he looked like a carefree leader, his whole life said "go there and be enlightened." He did not care about anything, he did nothing but move from place to place and give lectures. Now I see this inexplicable plus, there was something in this guy, I just didn't really like it. You know, enlightened people, I was among the Lamas - not animals, religious people - religious people seem to be lethargic. Although some of them really have energy, they look at you, and you suddenly feel like naked - but, you know, some of these yogis.

Virginia Satir brought me to this ashram outside San Francisco, and there was a guy she wanted me to meet with. I asked why I needed to see him, and she replied: "I think it will be very useful for you," and added, "you grew up in a non-religious environment." Most of the environment in which I grew up said that if you want to get something, peaceful means are useless, use a baseball bat. In addition, most of the religious leaders were constantly somewhere collecting cash. On the outskirts of San Francisco there is a place called Gleebe Memorial Church, it has a black manager who manages to get money from everyone in the city, this guy wears a $ 3000 suit,

I remember in my childhood there was a guy named Reverend Ike on television and I seemed to like him, his whole rap was in the phrase "if you feel bad, then you need some green", so God came up with money. This is a little different from being in India, where these beautiful temples are everywhere and you meet these very yogis - I met one young man, in fact, he came to an NLP seminar, it was cool
the guy, looking closely, it was clear that there is something special in him - you know, he was beaming, smiling - I just cannot imagine that the Dalai Lama would spread a smile in front of someone. But I can imagine how that guy does it, his name was simply Mr. Melow. One evening I saw him on TV with Ted Koppel, Ted and his team were playing aces, and that guy was sitting quietly, and it was impossible to tell if he was on central television or in a flower field.

On the other hand, I met Baba Ji - a man who hadn't spoken for 20 years - that was his way of reaching enlightenment. He wore a small black plaque around his neck, people would come up and ask him, "Master, we want to know the secret of life," and he wrote something on the plaques like - OK - because the blackboard was very small. Someone told me that he lived on two glasses of milk a day, that he meditated for 4 hours 3 times a day, and slept for 2 hours. I calculated all this, and it turned out that he spends 12/14 hours a day repeating "I'm hungry", "I'm so tired!" But this was his path to enlightenment.

I have found a lot of people doing different things. I have been to Indian residences in Canada and Mexico and South America and they do things that are nothing like what I would like to do. These Indians in South America pierce themselves with large hooks, tie ropes, and people swing them around these poles as if they were puppets, and the poles are 40 feet high. It looks unbearably painful, it must be so, but these people endure - the secret of pain control is that before you start, they give you something and tell you to drink! I drank a cup of this potion and was ready to be rocked on these hooks myself! Unfortunately for them, I did not have the same concentration as them - I wondered all the way to Arizona if I remember everything correctly. I thought, Shouldn't I go to a nicer place, because what these people were doing terrified me. There were people dressed in animal skins, they could suddenly start circling in front of you and shouting "AAAA-AAA"; at such moments you understand that your nerves are losing.

I have been to asylums for the mentally ill - there, I noticed that psychotherapy can be effective; I used a slightly strange approach (which, by the way, quite a few people know about), based on my theory - if a person does not perceive our reality, you just need to change reality. It's not that hard to do. If a person thinks that they are being pursued by the CIA, I would have done so that they would be pursued by the CIA. If a person thinks that evil spirits are coming to him, I would use holograms to imitate them. But there have been things that have been told to me, and I know that psychotherapy will never agree with this. As a physicist, I am not very sure about reality. Most physicists are not the kind of people who can answer a question with a confident voice!

The more we make discoveries, the more we send research ships into space, the more we understand that almost everything that was discovered earlier was incorrect, and we can safely say that all today's knowledge will become incorrect in 50-100 years. Our understanding of things - I mean, it used to be thought that there was no water anywhere except on Earth, but now they discovered that there is a frozen lake under the surface of the Moon. I think that on another planet too - the one where they are constantly trying to send something - Mars! Millions of dollars for exploration corbels one after the other - and as soon as they get close to Mars, they "bang" disappear. Very confusing - especially when you have a Hubble telescope, and you can't find it - not that it breaks - it just disappears - it ' s very difficult to explain to Congress the disappearance of the $ 354 million project. Eventually, they created what looked like a soccer ball and threw it onto the back of Mars. It didn't work, but it showed that we can reach the planet. Now we have managed to send Voyager to fly around all the planets and some moons of Jupiter, even reaching Neptune - paradoxically, but we cannot get to the nearest planet. Some people think the reason is that every time we send a ship, something on Mars that looks like a face knocks it down or something like that - saying, “Oh, a present from Earth - what is it? It looks like it is crammed with all kinds of electronics. Now we will analyze and see what it is - maybe something will come in handy. "they created what looked like a soccer ball and threw it onto the back of Mars. It didn't work, but it showed that we can reach the planet. Now we have managed to send Voyager to fly around all the planets and some moons of Jupiter, even reaching Neptune - paradoxically, but we cannot get to the nearest planet. Some people think the reason is that every time we send a ship, something on Mars that looks like a face knocks it down or something like that - saying, “Oh, a present from Earth - what is it? It looks like it is crammed with all kinds of electronics. Now we will analyze and see what it is - maybe something will come in handy. "they created what looked like a soccer ball and threw it onto the back of Mars. It didn't work, but it showed that we can reach the planet. Now we have managed to send Voyager to fly around all the planets and some moons of Jupiter, even reaching Neptune - paradoxically, but we cannot get to the nearest planet.

Now a little about the category of people talking about aliens and the like - once I brought an Indian healer - a healer from a tribe on the outskirts of Nevada, I met him in the Oasis. I rode a motorcycle and stopped in the desert, there were three or four other people with me; we were playing musical instruments in the Oasis when all of a sudden the Indians showed up and said it belonged to them. Then they said: your music is certainly good and interesting, but would you like to see something really interesting? We said: "Of course," they - "OK, eat a little of this", we - "Cool, what is this?", They - "It doesn't matter, just eat." Then we sat down, some Indians started playing flutes, others banging drums - most of us were musicians, so we also started banging drums, they smiled. The next thing I remember is that whatever it was, it started to work, the old man appeared on the hill, went down, looked at all of us and began to approach, put us on our backs and began to do strange things - to make sounds like the wind at the top of a dune. It's amazing that we didn't even know why he was doing all this, but who would find out in such a state. The old man did not hurt anyone, on the contrary, one guy had psoriasis on the skin of his hands, it was very embarrassing for him, and when we woke up the next morning, we had a terrible hangover, but his psoriasis went away, another guy had an ulcer and another - migraine. “Cool,” we thought, “maybe that old man did it,” now we had something to tell people. that we had no idea why he was doing all this, but who would find out in such a state. The old man did not hurt anyone, on the contrary, one guy had psoriasis on the skin of his hands, it was very embarrassing for him, and when we woke up the next morning, we had a terrible hangover, but his psoriasis went away, another guy had an ulcer and another - migraine. “Cool,” we thought, “maybe that old man did it,” now we had something to tell people. that we had no idea why he was doing all this, but who would find out in such a state. The old man did not hurt anyone, on the contrary, one guy had psoriasis on the skin of his hands, it was very embarrassing for him, and when we woke up the next morning, we had a terrible hangover, but his psoriasis went away , another guy had an ulcer and another - migraine. “Cool,” we thought, “maybe that old man did it,” now we had something to tell people. it was very embarrassing for him, and when we woke up the next morning, we had a terrible hangover, but his psoriasis went away, another guy had an ulcer and another - migraine.

Years later, I returned, found that Indian and took him to a mental hospital to see a guy who claimed he was cursed. He said that one gypsy put a curse on him, and I don't understand anything about gypsy curses, I've never come across this. I didn't know anything about gypsies and didn't understand this guy and his idea of gypsy curses. The psychiatrist said it was just a mental clouding, but when I explained it to the old Indian - he went to this guy with two or three friends, they danced around him, did something else and came out after about six hours (you know, they don't use fast methods). Then the Indian told me that the curse was lifted; I walked in and that guy was absolutely normal, as normal as a normal person can be. Before that, he was rather strange.

 

[Lord777]

NLP techniques for building a career​

It is good when a person has a goal and aspiration. For example, having entered a job, you do not want to be satisfied with what has already been achieved, you feel in yourself the potential of knowledge and strength that can lead you to higher positions. Career growth is a goal for you, the main thing remains - to find the right paths to it.
Not surprisingly, everyone sees their own individual path. Communicating with the outside world, a person receives the necessary knowledge and information in different ways. Some perceive the world around them through visual images (visuals), others - thanks to sensations (kinesthetics), the rest “pass” everything through their ears - audials. Thanks to research in this area, a new way has been found to turn dreams into reality. In the 70s, a young scientist in the field of mathematics and computing, Richard Bandler, together with the linguist John Grinder, created neurolinguistic programming, known to this day as NLP. The theory, although young, but with the help of its techniques, helped many to overcome the seemingly insurmountable.
Tatiana, 20 years old: “From childhood I was very shy, never believed in my strength. She chose the same profession as her friend - a clerk. I would have worked further ... if I had not gotten to the NLP training. Life literally turned upside down, I began to live anew ... Now I work as a deputy director of an enterprise”.

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The three foundations of NLP​

So, you have outlined a career path for yourself - NLP will become an excellent teacher for you. Why? Because the theory reveals the secrets of the processes occurring in the human head, and in the future, their reflection in speech. This makes it possible to draw, or rather program a successful activity. Indeed, often, in the promotion of work, the main role is played by:
1. Mutual understanding with the boss and others.
2. Overcoming problems quickly with maximum peace of mind.
3. Rationality in work, always good memory, ability to find new ideas.
In the 70s, a young scientist in the field of mathematics and computing, Richard Bandler, together with the linguist John Grinder, created neurolinguistic programming, known to this day as NLP.
In order to find a connecting thread of communication between you and your boss, the main thing is to determine the type of person. Who is he in the perception of the world around him? For example, the auditory will respond to the interlocutor's speech, emphasizing the auditory perception - "prompted", "hear", "listening", etc. If it is a visual, most likely, its "representations" will be heard in the speech. When you talk to a kinesthetic, there is only "sensation".
The second auxiliary observation of NLP is the rate of speech of the interlocutor. The audial's speech is a song that he also enjoys, the visual often has a high-pitched voice and speaks quickly without stopping. The kinesthetic has a chest voice, speech is slow and he utters words, as if telling the rules.
The third auxiliary observation of NLP is breathing rhythm, facial expressions, gestures, posture. If you are talking to a visual, he will try to avoid all kinds of touch, but a kinesthetic, on the contrary, will only do that to touch you, even trying to hug you. As for the audial, he is always an attentive and demanding listener, and God forbid, interrupt him with a word or movement. His reaction is a sharp resentment.
Conclusion: Having determined the character of your boss and the people around you who can play a big role in building a career, you will have a real picture of how you can competently build a conversation with them: what to focus on, what to tell in the first place, what to highlight.

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Three NLP exercises​

1. Mowgli's principle: "you and I are of the same blood"
To achieve the ultimate goal, you need to be sensitive to the situation, that is, when communicating, as it were, to reincarnate into another person with whom you are talking. Indeed, in fact, a person perceives another person by similarity. This happens on a subconscious level - the interlocutor begins to feel the "kinship of souls". Therefore, to always be "close" to the interlocutor and have a positive result, apply the following technique. How to play a "mirror". When communicating, try to repeat facial expressions, gestures and breathing rhythm of the interlocutor. Just do it not like in a zoo, when you tease a monkey, but carefully. Let's say the hand gesture is repeated with the hand, the rhythm of breathing - the rhythm of the body swaying.
2. Song in unison
What if your job involves talking on the phone? It is easier when you see the interlocutor and his behavior. NLP offers to find the necessary "connecting thread" in voice communication. Of course, this is the voice of a person “on the wire”. As you listen to the conversation, try to be clear about the tempo, tone, and pitch of the person speaking to you. Imagine a musical instrument that is closer to you and, as it were, play along with the interlocutor with your voice. Harmonious consonance is the code for the desired result.
3. We arrive in a good mood. Anchor to the water
Anchor, this is what NLP calls the opportunity to draw the attention of an important person to you. Also, the exercise "anchor" helps to always, everywhere and in any situations to be calm and balanced, which is important in a career. So, in order to "anchor" a person or a situation for yourself, find a "exciting" place. For example, when talking, when it comes to something very pleasant for the interlocutor, and his reactions to this - "smile", "funny emotions", try to touch him. Thus, the sensations of touch (at a good moment) will remain in the memory of the interlocutor, which means only pleasant memories associated with you.

 

[Father]

NLP: Breaking the Pattern​

With the proliferation of NLP techniques, the expression "pattern break" has become often used in colloquial speech, and the meaning that individual individuals put into it can be completely different. Breaking the pattern can be done under hypnosis, if you have an experienced NLP practitioner, you can use techniques to work on yourself alone, in a couple or group. Of course, working with the subconscious gives results, but! no more effective way to change anything in yourself has yet been invented than by purposeful actions.

This article is intended for the true practitioner whose desire to break patterns is urgent and firm, and for those who want to achieve maximum results in the shortest possible time.

What is a template?​

A pattern or pattern is an established in consciousness model of behavior and reactions to certain events. Irritation in response to rudeness from the conductor is a template. The fear of heights is a template. Inappropriate behavior in a stressful situation is a template, the habit of putting all relatives, friends and loved ones on your neck is a template, and so on ad infinitum. Any reaction that has been in your life more than once is an established pattern, and you are hostage to your own patterns and frameworks of behavior.

Why break templates?​

First, it releases a tremendous amount of energy that increases your productivity.

Secondly, the way of thinking changes, new ideas begin to appear, inspiration comes, creative thinking develops.

Third, you become free from routine and boring repetitions of events in your life.

How to break a template?​

It's very simple: choose the model you want to destroy and start acting in exactly the opposite (or any other) way. It will be even better if you do not start thinking in advance which patterns you want to break, but simply keep track of situations in which you usually act according to the pattern and deal with patterns on the spot, choosing a different way of reacting during the day, week, month.

To make it clearer, here are examples of pattern breaking in practice:

1. When leaving for work in the morning, change the route you usually take by car or change public transport. If there is only one bus to your destination, get off two stops early and take a walk.

2. During the month, visit only those coffee shops, eateries and restaurants that you have never been to in your life, avoiding repetitions.

3. Having received a scolding from your superiors, instead of eating a chocolate bar, calling and complaining to your mother, or smoking a cigarette with a colleague, discussing the character of the leader, look at photos of an exotic country you want to visit for 15 minutes, run the stairs up and down several times or think about themed party for friends.

4. If you always answer negatively to offers to meet on the street or in establishments, next time agree and give your phone number. If you usually get to know each other and easily give your contacts, refuse referring to your husband (wife).

5. Stop doing what you are doing and start doing what you don't do. For example, you enjoy bowling on Thursdays, going to the cinema on Fridays, and massage on Mondays. Either stop doing all of this, or choose a new day for your entertainment every week without creating habits. Spend the free time on diving training, yoga classes, marcame weaving, or participating in flash mobs.

The only advice that can be given to those who want to break the patterns - as soon as you understand that you are going to do "as always", because "I always do this, it is convenient" or "I am so used to it ", stop for a second and do everything differently ... Do not be afraid of change, everything new is great, conditionally we can say that those parts of your brain that were responsible for memorizing and maintaining patterns of behavior, after breaking the pattern, are released and begin to work for you, generating new ideas. You will see it yourself as soon as you try it.