Lord777
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Every carder strives for his own dream. And everything would be fine, but at the same time we tend to place certain expectations on any actions and (or) people around us. In our view, a multidimensional picture of the goal is being formed. The very process of achieving the desired dream is based on our perception of our role and the role of the people around us in its implementation. But often not all expectations are able to be fully realized, and sometimes reality does not correspond at all to imaginary constructions.
The dream itself is a good motivational moment in achieving a life goal. At the same time, there are real and illusory goals. The difference between them denotes a person's ability to critically assess his capabilities or the qualities of the people around him, since it is the human factor that will be the main criterion for determining the feasibility of the plans.
It is important to take into account the fact that everyone has their own idea of the importance and validity of certain actions and everyone is free to react to them in their own way. Therefore, consciously interacting with other people, one must, first of all, have the courage to voice their priorities and vision of the situation as a whole, as well as listen to the opinions of other people on issues of interest to us. This is the only correct way to avoid unpleasant surprises and destructive disappointments later.
Overestimated expectations are most often manifested in the relationship between parents and children, married (as well as in love) couples, business colleagues, as well as in the level of assessing their own capabilities. Of course, the list of situations and interpersonal relationships in which inflated expectations are manifested is wider. However, the main thing is to clearly realize that no matter what levels of human interaction with the people around him or with himself this does not concern, the most important condition to avoid possible disappointments will be understanding the reality of his expectations.
In psychology, there is a well-founded claim that the syndrome of high expectations is formed in early childhood. As a rule, the parents themselves set unrealistic goals for the child, thereby striving to sublimate their unrealized plans and impose their own dreams on their children. In turn, children either try their best to meet the aspirations of their parents, or at some stage begin to rebel against parental demands. The danger lies in the fact that growing up, such children are faced with the problem of unreality of some of the tasks that their parents put before them. As a result, disappointment arises in life, low self-esteem is formed, which, at the "best" case, leads to depression. Similar situations arise when communicating with friends, partners, colleagues. Overestimated requirements can manifest themselves to oneself, which leads to perfectionism.
How to deal with the syndrome of high expectations? First of all, you need to realize it and stop thinking all the time that everything could be much better. Otherwise, suffering will be inevitable, since there is no limit to perfection. You can ask yourself the question of why the expectations did not come true? Was this influenced by external reasons, or were they your own wrong decisions? It is necessary to reflect on how you can implement your own plans in other ways in the future. Such introspection will help you again become an active person in your own life and look more confidently into the future.
In addition, it is important to remember that life is not an easy thing and it is not enough to behave as it seems to us right, so that it is always fair to us. And the world is not always the way we want it to be. Realizing this, a person will strive for a healthy desire to improve his life and the lives of those around him.
The dream itself is a good motivational moment in achieving a life goal. At the same time, there are real and illusory goals. The difference between them denotes a person's ability to critically assess his capabilities or the qualities of the people around him, since it is the human factor that will be the main criterion for determining the feasibility of the plans.
It is important to take into account the fact that everyone has their own idea of the importance and validity of certain actions and everyone is free to react to them in their own way. Therefore, consciously interacting with other people, one must, first of all, have the courage to voice their priorities and vision of the situation as a whole, as well as listen to the opinions of other people on issues of interest to us. This is the only correct way to avoid unpleasant surprises and destructive disappointments later.
Overestimated expectations are most often manifested in the relationship between parents and children, married (as well as in love) couples, business colleagues, as well as in the level of assessing their own capabilities. Of course, the list of situations and interpersonal relationships in which inflated expectations are manifested is wider. However, the main thing is to clearly realize that no matter what levels of human interaction with the people around him or with himself this does not concern, the most important condition to avoid possible disappointments will be understanding the reality of his expectations.
In psychology, there is a well-founded claim that the syndrome of high expectations is formed in early childhood. As a rule, the parents themselves set unrealistic goals for the child, thereby striving to sublimate their unrealized plans and impose their own dreams on their children. In turn, children either try their best to meet the aspirations of their parents, or at some stage begin to rebel against parental demands. The danger lies in the fact that growing up, such children are faced with the problem of unreality of some of the tasks that their parents put before them. As a result, disappointment arises in life, low self-esteem is formed, which, at the "best" case, leads to depression. Similar situations arise when communicating with friends, partners, colleagues. Overestimated requirements can manifest themselves to oneself, which leads to perfectionism.
How to deal with the syndrome of high expectations? First of all, you need to realize it and stop thinking all the time that everything could be much better. Otherwise, suffering will be inevitable, since there is no limit to perfection. You can ask yourself the question of why the expectations did not come true? Was this influenced by external reasons, or were they your own wrong decisions? It is necessary to reflect on how you can implement your own plans in other ways in the future. Such introspection will help you again become an active person in your own life and look more confidently into the future.
In addition, it is important to remember that life is not an easy thing and it is not enough to behave as it seems to us right, so that it is always fair to us. And the world is not always the way we want it to be. Realizing this, a person will strive for a healthy desire to improve his life and the lives of those around him.
