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Since childhood, I have been very sensitive to the opinions of others. As a child, I thought that if the teacher praised me, then I would be on top of the world. And if it yells, it would be better for me not to exist at all.
I didn't have any internal assessment of everything that was happening. The culture in which I grew up was this: if society does not value a person, then he is useless, and therefore does not exist.
I chose sport as a way to prove my "usefulness". When I achieved good results in competitions, I felt like a full-fledged member of this society. I felt alive and powerful. But when something didn't work out for me, I felt like homeless. As if I had no right to exist specifically in my place. Anywhere, but not here.
How wrong I was.
Clarification
I was thirty. I had the flu and lay at home all weekend. The voices of my wife and two daughters could be heard behind the wall. By Sunday evening I felt better and decided to spend time with them.
When I went to their room, I felt that the general mood in the room had risen. It was something that I had never experienced before. My family was inspired just by my appearance. I spent the whole evening with them, and my condition improved markedly.
It was on that evening that it dawned on me: I am valuable only because I give my attention.
I was just myself. I existed and supported my family. And that's why it was valuable.
I thought: what would happen if I suddenly disappeared? If we consider only the psychological effect of my absence. It turned out that I am a bit boring, but sincere and funny guy with a good sense of humor, I charged everyone with positive energy.
I've always been like that, I just didn't think until this weekend.
I thought about this for a long time and as a result realized that I have every right to be here on Earth. And this is an innate right, I should not earn it. I am not a guest, I am the host.
So I began to draw self-confidence from the depths of my soul. Other people's opinions gradually ceased to influence me, because now I knew that I had something significant for others, albeit intangible. This was my energy.
So I started looking for the same thing in others. I realized that everyone has some unique trait or ability. It's like a picture from jigsaw puzzles: each has its own piece, or maybe several, it doesn't matter. The main thing is to collect the big picture, and each person brings his part into it.
Realizing my own worth, my life began to change for the better. I spent time with other people, feeling that I was giving them my energy and that they were giving me theirs. This is completely different than just communicating unconsciously.
Understand that you exist for a reason. Your quirks, your personality traits, the traits that make you unique are all part of your life purpose. And all the things that you do will have a result that only you could provoke, without even knowing it. It's like a butterfly effect.
You don't know, but suddenly the person with whom you were just riding in the same compartment and talking about "The Lord of the Rings" became an ardent Tolkienist. Then he charged another person with his enthusiasm, who was so inspired that he himself wrote a work that is now read by millions. Do you understand what effect a simple conversation on the train had? And if you sat in silence, there might not have been a new world bestseller.
No one can guess the result of these everyday quirks. It's just that you are, your uniqueness is there, and it's worth sharing.
We are all unique, therefore we are valuable in this society. And the better we realize this, the deeper we feel the meaning of each day. Your self-awareness is the key to a happy life. Go ahead, use this key! It will open many doors.
I didn't have any internal assessment of everything that was happening. The culture in which I grew up was this: if society does not value a person, then he is useless, and therefore does not exist.
I chose sport as a way to prove my "usefulness". When I achieved good results in competitions, I felt like a full-fledged member of this society. I felt alive and powerful. But when something didn't work out for me, I felt like homeless. As if I had no right to exist specifically in my place. Anywhere, but not here.
How wrong I was.
Clarification
I was thirty. I had the flu and lay at home all weekend. The voices of my wife and two daughters could be heard behind the wall. By Sunday evening I felt better and decided to spend time with them.
When I went to their room, I felt that the general mood in the room had risen. It was something that I had never experienced before. My family was inspired just by my appearance. I spent the whole evening with them, and my condition improved markedly.
It was on that evening that it dawned on me: I am valuable only because I give my attention.
I was just myself. I existed and supported my family. And that's why it was valuable.
I thought: what would happen if I suddenly disappeared? If we consider only the psychological effect of my absence. It turned out that I am a bit boring, but sincere and funny guy with a good sense of humor, I charged everyone with positive energy.
I've always been like that, I just didn't think until this weekend.
I thought about this for a long time and as a result realized that I have every right to be here on Earth. And this is an innate right, I should not earn it. I am not a guest, I am the host.
So I began to draw self-confidence from the depths of my soul. Other people's opinions gradually ceased to influence me, because now I knew that I had something significant for others, albeit intangible. This was my energy.
So I started looking for the same thing in others. I realized that everyone has some unique trait or ability. It's like a picture from jigsaw puzzles: each has its own piece, or maybe several, it doesn't matter. The main thing is to collect the big picture, and each person brings his part into it.
Realizing my own worth, my life began to change for the better. I spent time with other people, feeling that I was giving them my energy and that they were giving me theirs. This is completely different than just communicating unconsciously.
Understand that you exist for a reason. Your quirks, your personality traits, the traits that make you unique are all part of your life purpose. And all the things that you do will have a result that only you could provoke, without even knowing it. It's like a butterfly effect.
You don't know, but suddenly the person with whom you were just riding in the same compartment and talking about "The Lord of the Rings" became an ardent Tolkienist. Then he charged another person with his enthusiasm, who was so inspired that he himself wrote a work that is now read by millions. Do you understand what effect a simple conversation on the train had? And if you sat in silence, there might not have been a new world bestseller.
No one can guess the result of these everyday quirks. It's just that you are, your uniqueness is there, and it's worth sharing.
We are all unique, therefore we are valuable in this society. And the better we realize this, the deeper we feel the meaning of each day. Your self-awareness is the key to a happy life. Go ahead, use this key! It will open many doors.
