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We will not urge you not to quarrel - it is a thankless task to suppress your emotions, it risks ending in a grand scandal and burning bridges. Here are 5 conditions for a "correct" quarrel.
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? 1. Watch out for words
Keep in mind that each of our "you always ...", "you again ...", "why are you ..." evokes an unambiguous reaction from the partner - to put up a defense, to start defending, to attack in response. Replace "you" with "me": "it upsets me ...", "it hurts when ...".
️ 2. Remember what the conflict is about
In the midst of a quarrel, it is easy to slip into memories of all the sins of a partner, his friends and parents. Don't do that, close the topic with which you started the conversation.
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? 3. Do not start a fight before bed
First, the day's fatigue will only add irritation to both. Secondly, you will not give each other time to calm down and normal sleep will also go to hell. This means that tomorrow it will be even more difficult to communicate. The morning is wiser than the evening, reschedule the conversation.
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? 4. Not eye to eye
Do not start a difficult conversation in an eye-to-eye position - it is aggressive, so the conflict in the process can intensify. Option - talk on a walk when walking side by side.
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? 5. Learn to apologize
This will reduce the intensity of your partner's emotions, and you will show yourself to be a wise person who cares about this relationship. If it is difficult to say the word "sorry", say, for example: "I am so sorry that we are at war with you."
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? 1. Watch out for words
Keep in mind that each of our "you always ...", "you again ...", "why are you ..." evokes an unambiguous reaction from the partner - to put up a defense, to start defending, to attack in response. Replace "you" with "me": "it upsets me ...", "it hurts when ...".
️ 2. Remember what the conflict is aboutIn the midst of a quarrel, it is easy to slip into memories of all the sins of a partner, his friends and parents. Don't do that, close the topic with which you started the conversation.
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? 3. Do not start a fight before bed
First, the day's fatigue will only add irritation to both. Secondly, you will not give each other time to calm down and normal sleep will also go to hell. This means that tomorrow it will be even more difficult to communicate. The morning is wiser than the evening, reschedule the conversation.
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? 4. Not eye to eye
Do not start a difficult conversation in an eye-to-eye position - it is aggressive, so the conflict in the process can intensify. Option - talk on a walk when walking side by side.
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? 5. Learn to apologize
This will reduce the intensity of your partner's emotions, and you will show yourself to be a wise person who cares about this relationship. If it is difficult to say the word "sorry", say, for example: "I am so sorry that we are at war with you."
