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Salute, carders, the first impression is something that you will never repeat again first you create an impression, then the impression and reputation work for you.
When a person thinks about himself, "happiness hormones" are produced in his brain, the production of which occurs, for example, when experiencing pleasure from eating delicious food or receiving a large fee for work performed.
Just don't overdo it! It is enough to make do with generalized phrases: "Yes, you had a hard day!" or "This is necessary, so unlucky!". And if a person, on the contrary, boasts about their achievements, also use template phrases:
"It's just great that you're doing so well!" or "I'm glad you're doing so well."
Example: a person tells how they worked tirelessly to finish a project on time.
In response, tell him: "You are very hardworking, you have a huge willpower, only a professional can perform this work in such a short time!"
Psychologists are sure that to arouse sympathy, you need not to do a favor, but to make a request yourself.
This will catch as many as three birds with one stone! First, the person will feel more confident, secondly, he will communicate as freely as possible, and thirdly, he will subconsciously grant himself the moral right to make a mistake in a conversation with you.
As a result, you will draw the necessary conclusions for yourself, without arousing the other person's antipathy and without dropping your own dignity.
To make the other person like you, you need to be genuinely interested in them and their problems. Even Carnegie claims that you can make several times more friends in three months if you listen to people's problems with genuine interest than in three years if you try to get people interested in your problems.
When a person thinks about himself, "happiness hormones" are produced in his brain, the production of which occurs, for example, when experiencing pleasure from eating delicious food or receiving a large fee for work performed.
Anyone likes someone else's attention and sympathy. It is important for a person that he is not alone in his judgments. When the other person is sure that his emotions are approved, he subconsciously begins to feel more sympathy for you.
Just don't overdo it! It is enough to make do with generalized phrases: "Yes, you had a hard day!" or "This is necessary, so unlucky!". And if a person, on the contrary, boasts about their achievements, also use template phrases:
"It's just great that you're doing so well!" or "I'm glad you're doing so well."
If you make a direct compliment, it will sound too intrusive. Therefore, try to compliment the other person in the third person. For example, you need to ask a colleague for a favor, say: "Could you help me .... By the way, our boss considers you the most promising employee!" It is not necessary to praise professionalism, you can also mention personal qualities.
There is only a fine line between compliments and flattery. You need to try to make the other person start admiring themselves.
Example: a person tells how they worked tirelessly to finish a project on time.
In response, tell him: "You are very hardworking, you have a huge willpower, only a professional can perform this work in such a short time!"
Remember the well-known saying: "A person will be more inclined to you if he does you good than if you do him a similar service." Showing kindness makes a person "grow" in their own eyes.
Psychologists are sure that to arouse sympathy, you need not to do a favor, but to make a request yourself.
In the process of communication, make a mistake specifically, for example, in the pronunciation of a phrase or word. Make sure that the other person pays attention to it and corrects you. In response, be confused, thank them, and correct yourself.
This will catch as many as three birds with one stone! First, the person will feel more confident, secondly, he will communicate as freely as possible, and thirdly, he will subconsciously grant himself the moral right to make a mistake in a conversation with you.
As a result, you will draw the necessary conclusions for yourself, without arousing the other person's antipathy and without dropping your own dignity.
