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This is one of the most common traps that people over the age of 30 fall into.
Instead of living in the present day, a person recalls the past with nostalgic longing, dreaming of returning the “golden days of childhood”, first love, friends, the lost feeling of lightness and carelessness of being, etc.
As a result, he has a feeling that “all the best is over”, that he will never be so happy, and other thoughts of this kind.
Living in the past, a person not only wastes his emotional energy on nostalgic experiences, but also programs himself that "he will never feel so good again." It is quite natural that under such conditions he has neither the strength nor the desire to look for positive experiences in real life, in the events taking place at the moment.
The countermeasure may be not selectively positive memories of the past, but fuller memories, in which good coexists with bad, pleasant with unpleasant. This will help to understand that childhood or youth, like life at the moment, in addition to pleasant experiences, was also filled with problems and conflicts.
Instead of living in the present day, a person recalls the past with nostalgic longing, dreaming of returning the “golden days of childhood”, first love, friends, the lost feeling of lightness and carelessness of being, etc.
As a result, he has a feeling that “all the best is over”, that he will never be so happy, and other thoughts of this kind.
Living in the past, a person not only wastes his emotional energy on nostalgic experiences, but also programs himself that "he will never feel so good again." It is quite natural that under such conditions he has neither the strength nor the desire to look for positive experiences in real life, in the events taking place at the moment.
The countermeasure may be not selectively positive memories of the past, but fuller memories, in which good coexists with bad, pleasant with unpleasant. This will help to understand that childhood or youth, like life at the moment, in addition to pleasant experiences, was also filled with problems and conflicts.
