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When you ask a closed-ended question for which you expect to receive a "yes" or "no", but in response you hear an uncertain "well ..." followed by something unintelligible, then most likely they are trying to deceive you ...
Supervisor:
Subordinate:
The technique only works with closed questions.
If you ask an open-ended question like "What edits did you manage to make?" and the interlocutor will start the phrase with "well ...", it means that he is considering his answer. This is fine.
What not to do.
Let the other person finish the sentence so that he does not understand that you are checking him. Don't react immediately after you hear "well". If a person guesses about your intentions, then he will deliberately try to avoid the word "well". Failure or unwillingness to answer yes or no is not one hundred percent proof of deception. But this greatly increases its likelihood.
The truth is very simple and straightforward. The truth does not cause any difficulties.
What to do.
When the person has answered your question, just ask him: "Why should I believe you?"
Honest people will say, “Because I'm telling the truth,” or something like that. They simply respond with accurate information.
And liars, on the contrary, try to convince the interlocutor that what they said is the pure truth, focusing not on information, but on trying to make the other believe in their words.
A liar does not rely on facts. He tries to back up his words with verbose reasoning, which only gives the appearance of truth.
And this is already a "bell".
If answering the question posed, the person does not confirm that he is telling the truth, say that he did not answer your question. And repeat it: "Why should I believe you?" If you get an evasive answer again, then most likely you are being deceived.
Conclusions.
When communicating with people, especially on the Internet, use these simple and unobtrusive methods of checking the sincerity of the interlocutors. They act subtly, so the interlocutor is unlikely to guess that you are checking him.
If a direct question starts to answer you "well ..." - they want to deceive you.
The truth is straightforward. Lies are evasive.
Ask "Why should I believe you?" and follow the answer.
Supervisor:
Subordinate:
Then you can no longer listen. An indefinite "well" can be understood that the subordinate is ready to say what the manager does not want to hear.
The technique only works with closed questions.
If you ask an open-ended question like "What edits did you manage to make?" and the interlocutor will start the phrase with "well ...", it means that he is considering his answer. This is fine.
What not to do.
Let the other person finish the sentence so that he does not understand that you are checking him. Don't react immediately after you hear "well". If a person guesses about your intentions, then he will deliberately try to avoid the word "well". Failure or unwillingness to answer yes or no is not one hundred percent proof of deception. But this greatly increases its likelihood.
The truth is very simple and straightforward. The truth does not cause any difficulties.
What to do.
When the person has answered your question, just ask him: "Why should I believe you?"
Honest people will say, “Because I'm telling the truth,” or something like that. They simply respond with accurate information.
And liars, on the contrary, try to convince the interlocutor that what they said is the pure truth, focusing not on information, but on trying to make the other believe in their words.
A liar does not rely on facts. He tries to back up his words with verbose reasoning, which only gives the appearance of truth.
And this is already a "bell".
If answering the question posed, the person does not confirm that he is telling the truth, say that he did not answer your question. And repeat it: "Why should I believe you?" If you get an evasive answer again, then most likely you are being deceived.
Conclusions.
When communicating with people, especially on the Internet, use these simple and unobtrusive methods of checking the sincerity of the interlocutors. They act subtly, so the interlocutor is unlikely to guess that you are checking him.
If a direct question starts to answer you "well ..." - they want to deceive you.
The truth is straightforward. Lies are evasive.
Ask "Why should I believe you?" and follow the answer.
