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Salute, for those who like to break someone else's account, without understanding body language, non-verbal signals, it is impossible to understand deception well.
It turns out that the person's manner of smoking can rightfully be attributed to these same non-verbal signals. To some, the information presented here will seem familiar from life practice, someone is already familiar with it, but for someone it will be new. In any case, this article will be useful both for smokers and in communication with them.
About smoking in general
If you yourself are sinful with this bad habit, then it will be easier to find material for diagnosis: smoke for yourself, and observe. Kind with healthy. It is more difficult if you are a supporter of a healthy lifestyle.
While a smoker selflessly harms his health, do not rush to criticize him, all the same, your good impulse will at best be assessed as boring.
Observe exactly how a person smokes, how he holds a cigarette, how he exhales smoke, etc. Why just breathe someone else's tobacco, joining the ranks of passive smokers? Get some benefit for yourself - draw some conclusions about the character of the person who smokes, maybe it will come in handy.
The smoking process itself is a habitual way for a person to relieve internal stress or anxiety. Being in similar stressful situations, a smoker will smoke, and a non-smoker will non-verbally demonstrate his state with the help of various gestures: biting nails, drumming with his fingers, fiddling with a button on his sleeve, scratching himself, twisting a ring on his finger, etc. However, in the smoking process itself, you can look out for some gestures that will help navigate the person's attitude to the situation. These gestures are quite standard and predictable, therefore, seeing them, you can easily guess what the person is thinking.
For those who smoke, smoking is a way to take time out of making a decision. In general, cigarette smokers make decisions faster than pipe smokers.
Characteristic signs and gestures
When you see that a person not only takes out a cigarette and lights it up, but performs additional actions with it, for example, taking out a cigarette, tapping it with the end of the table, kneading it with his fingers, putting it on the table and taking it again, and after inserting it into his mouth, slowly starts look for a lighter in his pockets, etc., then this suggests that he is pondering the situation and experiencing more internal stress than usual. This manipulation is designed to calm a person, as well as sucking on the ends of ballpoint pens and pencils.
The force with which tobacco smoke is released from the mouth also matters. The more the smoke is released, the sharper the person's feelings and attitude towards the situation. Accordingly, the more force the smoke goes up, the more positively he assesses the situation and the more confident he feels. It follows from this that the one who is positive and sincere speaks with pleasure, impulsively blowing smoke upwards. And on the contrary, the one who does not like what he hears, who is very critical of your words or actions, who clearly does not say something, will forcefully blow smoke down. And his negative attitude will be obvious to you, even despite his verbal assurances of agreement, understanding or friendly support.
If a smoker blows smoke up, then at the moment he is clearly not in a bad mood, he is satisfied with himself and the world around him. If a similar manner is observed constantly, then one can already judge certain character traits.
A powerful jet of smoke directed upward with the head thrown back is characteristic of a person who is used to dominating always and everywhere, in any case. In other words - before you is a clear leader with a strong character, not used to rejection under any circumstances. And one more thing: most likely, he is an inveterate egoist, who perceives all the events through the prism of his big I. Such a person can be very proud: the slightest threat to his clearly overestimated self-esteem can cause an attack of aggression towards the “offender”. Such a person does not forget grudges against him, and he may even consider an innocent, in your opinion, joke for an insult. By the way, such people have obvious problems with a sense of humor, they simply do not understand it, especially subtle or veiled humor. And if they do not understand,
A jet of smoke directed downward, if we talk about a momentary mood, indicates that a person is in a depressed mood or doubts something, decides what to do. If such blowing of smoke has become a habit, then most likely, the smoker belongs to the category of unsociable and indecisive people. He feels comfortable only in the company of one person - himself. He quickly gets tired of everyone else, and even if he communicates, it is solely because “it is necessary” to look “like everyone else”. This man is unlikely to pretend to be a leader. For this, he is too hesitant and too little of what is called the buzzword "charisma". Maybe he would even decide on some extraordinary act and have enough sense of humor and ingenuity in him, but, alas, at the same time a super-cautious inner voice leads his solo part: “Where are you climbing? You can't jump above your head. According to Senka and a hat. The quieter you go, the further you'll get. "Suppressed by such popular wisdom, a person habitually moves behind other people's backs.
Another very characteristic jet of tobacco smoke released from the corner of the mouth downward. As soon as you notice this, be careful: at best, the smoker is insincere with you, and at worst, he is your ill-wisher. This manner speaks of hidden negative emotions. Moreover, they are hidden not so much in order to maintain decency, but rather in order to carefully think over their next move. Also, a person who lies and does not track his non-verbal signals to hide the lie blows smoke in a similar manner.
True, to all of the above, there is one, but a very significant caveat: how exactly a person releases smoke when smoking may well be influenced by another simple, but not insignificant factor. Perhaps the person simply does not want to "smoke" the interlocutor, that is, you. And then the direction of the stream of cigarette smoke entirely depends on your position relative to the "object" under study. When diagnosing the character of a smoker, do not forget about this fact.
There is a habit of blowing smoke out through the nostrils, although this is rare. This is how arrogant, vain people smoke, but, to put it mildly, not burdened with excessive intelligence. People say about such people - a peacock. This manner is also typical for adolescents who are just starting to smoke and still flaunt this fact: here, they say, how cool I am. Sometimes the one who blows smoke through the nostrils, in addition to dropping his head down, is very angry. Keep in mind.
How to hold a cigarette
Some information can be learned from exactly how a person holds a cigarette.
The farther a lit cigarette is located from the palm, the more delicate and sensitive the person holding it is, the more inherent in him all the signs of creative nature, more based on the language of feelings and emotions than on reason and logic. Such a person perceives all those around him, rather, outwardly, focusing on that notorious "first sight", the very first impression. And since the intuition of such people is very well developed, the first impression is rarely deceiving. In front of such a smoker (holding a cigarette with the very tips of his fingers, that is, as far as possible from the palm of his hand), you can demonstrate the wonders of public speaking and the pearl of logical arguments. But if for some reason he didn't like your hair color, leg polish or the style of your jacket, and on top of that, you also smile somehow wrong and sit ugly, that bad first impression of you will stay with him for a long time. Such a person "reads" people intuitively, that is, mainly by non-verbal signals.
The smoker, clutching a cigarette between the index and thumb, as if hiding it in the palm of his hand (this gesture is purely masculine, you will hardly meet it with a smoking woman) knows very well what he wants from this life and knows how to defend his interests. True, this defense is not like the pressure of a leader, a person accustomed to commanding others, sweeping away everything in its path. It is, rather, about stubbornness, obstinacy in something specific, when a person with enviable persistence, day after day, in small steps, is moving, if not so great, but a cherished goal.
A smoker who holds a cigarette between his middle and forefinger close to his palm and brings his entire palm to his mouth with each puff is most likely an introvert. And not just an introvert, but a person who is afraid of any strong feelings and emotions. He can demonstrate coldness, detachment and even cynicism with all his behavior, but a characteristic gesture when smoking will give him away. This is how a person holding a cigarette with a very vulnerable soul, so vulnerable that he prefers to keep his distance from others, not letting anyone close, because once (most likely in childhood) taught by bitter experience, he realized: if you let someone get too close to the soul, then then it will be very painful. Such a sad experience ... And outwardly, I repeat, this person gives the impression of a detached and very arrogant subject who “does not need anyone”.
Cigars and pipes
A whole action can be played out with a pipe. Wanting to delay time, they begin to clean it, knock it out, stuff it with tobacco, mince it, set it on fire and light it for a long time. Do not think that this is all done just like that. In the course of all these manipulations, the smoker assesses the situation and ponders his further actions.
As for cigars, few people smoke them just like that. Cigars are usually smoked to demonstrate their social status. After all, it is known that smoking a cigar is not a cheap pleasure.
Therefore, a cigar is a kind of status accessory. The thicker the cigar, the more expensive it is. Usually, smokers buy cigars on the occasion of some significant event, such as a birthday, anniversary, wedding day, receiving an award, etc.
More often, cigars are presented to smokers for all sorts of holidays. Therefore, it is not surprising that people who smoke cigars experience positive emotions. And they blow the smoke up. There is another interesting point about smoking cigarettes.
Dominance gestures
If a smoker periodically emphasizes his words, directing the cigarette perpendicular to your face, as if "poking" it at you, know that either the person feels his own superiority over you, or wants to suppress you as an interlocutor. This trick is quite effective and works even more effectively with a cigar instead of a cigarette. If you want to use it, but you don't smoke, the same works with a pen or a marker, and indeed any phallic-shaped objects (just do not swing a real falloimitator where it is not appropriate).
Here are a few simple conclusions that you can draw from observing a person's smoking habits. It is not at all necessary to hang around in the smoking room all day - it is, indeed, unhealthy (provided that you do not smoke yourself). But observing the person you are interested in, how exactly he smokes, will be very useful in any other setting.
In practice, the knowledge gained can be very useful in communicating with smokers and smokers who want to give the "necessary" signals and control the situation.
It turns out that the person's manner of smoking can rightfully be attributed to these same non-verbal signals. To some, the information presented here will seem familiar from life practice, someone is already familiar with it, but for someone it will be new. In any case, this article will be useful both for smokers and in communication with them.
About smoking in general
If you yourself are sinful with this bad habit, then it will be easier to find material for diagnosis: smoke for yourself, and observe. Kind with healthy. It is more difficult if you are a supporter of a healthy lifestyle.
While a smoker selflessly harms his health, do not rush to criticize him, all the same, your good impulse will at best be assessed as boring.
Observe exactly how a person smokes, how he holds a cigarette, how he exhales smoke, etc. Why just breathe someone else's tobacco, joining the ranks of passive smokers? Get some benefit for yourself - draw some conclusions about the character of the person who smokes, maybe it will come in handy.
The smoking process itself is a habitual way for a person to relieve internal stress or anxiety. Being in similar stressful situations, a smoker will smoke, and a non-smoker will non-verbally demonstrate his state with the help of various gestures: biting nails, drumming with his fingers, fiddling with a button on his sleeve, scratching himself, twisting a ring on his finger, etc. However, in the smoking process itself, you can look out for some gestures that will help navigate the person's attitude to the situation. These gestures are quite standard and predictable, therefore, seeing them, you can easily guess what the person is thinking.
For those who smoke, smoking is a way to take time out of making a decision. In general, cigarette smokers make decisions faster than pipe smokers.
Characteristic signs and gestures
When you see that a person not only takes out a cigarette and lights it up, but performs additional actions with it, for example, taking out a cigarette, tapping it with the end of the table, kneading it with his fingers, putting it on the table and taking it again, and after inserting it into his mouth, slowly starts look for a lighter in his pockets, etc., then this suggests that he is pondering the situation and experiencing more internal stress than usual. This manipulation is designed to calm a person, as well as sucking on the ends of ballpoint pens and pencils.
The force with which tobacco smoke is released from the mouth also matters. The more the smoke is released, the sharper the person's feelings and attitude towards the situation. Accordingly, the more force the smoke goes up, the more positively he assesses the situation and the more confident he feels. It follows from this that the one who is positive and sincere speaks with pleasure, impulsively blowing smoke upwards. And on the contrary, the one who does not like what he hears, who is very critical of your words or actions, who clearly does not say something, will forcefully blow smoke down. And his negative attitude will be obvious to you, even despite his verbal assurances of agreement, understanding or friendly support.
If a smoker blows smoke up, then at the moment he is clearly not in a bad mood, he is satisfied with himself and the world around him. If a similar manner is observed constantly, then one can already judge certain character traits.
A powerful jet of smoke directed upward with the head thrown back is characteristic of a person who is used to dominating always and everywhere, in any case. In other words - before you is a clear leader with a strong character, not used to rejection under any circumstances. And one more thing: most likely, he is an inveterate egoist, who perceives all the events through the prism of his big I. Such a person can be very proud: the slightest threat to his clearly overestimated self-esteem can cause an attack of aggression towards the “offender”. Such a person does not forget grudges against him, and he may even consider an innocent, in your opinion, joke for an insult. By the way, such people have obvious problems with a sense of humor, they simply do not understand it, especially subtle or veiled humor. And if they do not understand,
A jet of smoke directed downward, if we talk about a momentary mood, indicates that a person is in a depressed mood or doubts something, decides what to do. If such blowing of smoke has become a habit, then most likely, the smoker belongs to the category of unsociable and indecisive people. He feels comfortable only in the company of one person - himself. He quickly gets tired of everyone else, and even if he communicates, it is solely because “it is necessary” to look “like everyone else”. This man is unlikely to pretend to be a leader. For this, he is too hesitant and too little of what is called the buzzword "charisma". Maybe he would even decide on some extraordinary act and have enough sense of humor and ingenuity in him, but, alas, at the same time a super-cautious inner voice leads his solo part: “Where are you climbing? You can't jump above your head. According to Senka and a hat. The quieter you go, the further you'll get. "Suppressed by such popular wisdom, a person habitually moves behind other people's backs.
Another very characteristic jet of tobacco smoke released from the corner of the mouth downward. As soon as you notice this, be careful: at best, the smoker is insincere with you, and at worst, he is your ill-wisher. This manner speaks of hidden negative emotions. Moreover, they are hidden not so much in order to maintain decency, but rather in order to carefully think over their next move. Also, a person who lies and does not track his non-verbal signals to hide the lie blows smoke in a similar manner.
True, to all of the above, there is one, but a very significant caveat: how exactly a person releases smoke when smoking may well be influenced by another simple, but not insignificant factor. Perhaps the person simply does not want to "smoke" the interlocutor, that is, you. And then the direction of the stream of cigarette smoke entirely depends on your position relative to the "object" under study. When diagnosing the character of a smoker, do not forget about this fact.
There is a habit of blowing smoke out through the nostrils, although this is rare. This is how arrogant, vain people smoke, but, to put it mildly, not burdened with excessive intelligence. People say about such people - a peacock. This manner is also typical for adolescents who are just starting to smoke and still flaunt this fact: here, they say, how cool I am. Sometimes the one who blows smoke through the nostrils, in addition to dropping his head down, is very angry. Keep in mind.
How to hold a cigarette
Some information can be learned from exactly how a person holds a cigarette.
The farther a lit cigarette is located from the palm, the more delicate and sensitive the person holding it is, the more inherent in him all the signs of creative nature, more based on the language of feelings and emotions than on reason and logic. Such a person perceives all those around him, rather, outwardly, focusing on that notorious "first sight", the very first impression. And since the intuition of such people is very well developed, the first impression is rarely deceiving. In front of such a smoker (holding a cigarette with the very tips of his fingers, that is, as far as possible from the palm of his hand), you can demonstrate the wonders of public speaking and the pearl of logical arguments. But if for some reason he didn't like your hair color, leg polish or the style of your jacket, and on top of that, you also smile somehow wrong and sit ugly, that bad first impression of you will stay with him for a long time. Such a person "reads" people intuitively, that is, mainly by non-verbal signals.
The smoker, clutching a cigarette between the index and thumb, as if hiding it in the palm of his hand (this gesture is purely masculine, you will hardly meet it with a smoking woman) knows very well what he wants from this life and knows how to defend his interests. True, this defense is not like the pressure of a leader, a person accustomed to commanding others, sweeping away everything in its path. It is, rather, about stubbornness, obstinacy in something specific, when a person with enviable persistence, day after day, in small steps, is moving, if not so great, but a cherished goal.
A smoker who holds a cigarette between his middle and forefinger close to his palm and brings his entire palm to his mouth with each puff is most likely an introvert. And not just an introvert, but a person who is afraid of any strong feelings and emotions. He can demonstrate coldness, detachment and even cynicism with all his behavior, but a characteristic gesture when smoking will give him away. This is how a person holding a cigarette with a very vulnerable soul, so vulnerable that he prefers to keep his distance from others, not letting anyone close, because once (most likely in childhood) taught by bitter experience, he realized: if you let someone get too close to the soul, then then it will be very painful. Such a sad experience ... And outwardly, I repeat, this person gives the impression of a detached and very arrogant subject who “does not need anyone”.
Cigars and pipes
A whole action can be played out with a pipe. Wanting to delay time, they begin to clean it, knock it out, stuff it with tobacco, mince it, set it on fire and light it for a long time. Do not think that this is all done just like that. In the course of all these manipulations, the smoker assesses the situation and ponders his further actions.
As for cigars, few people smoke them just like that. Cigars are usually smoked to demonstrate their social status. After all, it is known that smoking a cigar is not a cheap pleasure.
Therefore, a cigar is a kind of status accessory. The thicker the cigar, the more expensive it is. Usually, smokers buy cigars on the occasion of some significant event, such as a birthday, anniversary, wedding day, receiving an award, etc.
More often, cigars are presented to smokers for all sorts of holidays. Therefore, it is not surprising that people who smoke cigars experience positive emotions. And they blow the smoke up. There is another interesting point about smoking cigarettes.
Dominance gestures
If a smoker periodically emphasizes his words, directing the cigarette perpendicular to your face, as if "poking" it at you, know that either the person feels his own superiority over you, or wants to suppress you as an interlocutor. This trick is quite effective and works even more effectively with a cigar instead of a cigarette. If you want to use it, but you don't smoke, the same works with a pen or a marker, and indeed any phallic-shaped objects (just do not swing a real falloimitator where it is not appropriate).
Here are a few simple conclusions that you can draw from observing a person's smoking habits. It is not at all necessary to hang around in the smoking room all day - it is, indeed, unhealthy (provided that you do not smoke yourself). But observing the person you are interested in, how exactly he smokes, will be very useful in any other setting.
In practice, the knowledge gained can be very useful in communicating with smokers and smokers who want to give the "necessary" signals and control the situation.
