Tomcat
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Human life is always multifaceted. We have many different roles that we play depending on the circumstances of fate. There are such life turns when we have to subordinate people to ourselves or bend for the sake of other people's interests. In both the first and second cases, we must know the secret methods of psychological suppression, so that, if necessary, we can either “attack” or “defend.”
It should immediately be noted that there are a great many techniques for suppressing or, in other words, manipulating the opponent's consciousness, some of which we freely use in life without even realizing it, while others can be mastered only after long training.
False questioning technique.
The manipulative effect is that the manipulator pretends that he wants to clarify something in more detail for himself, for this purpose he asks the opponent again. However, he repeats his words only at the beginning, and then partially, skillfully changing the meaning of what the opponent said to please himself, that is, introducing a different semantic load of conclusions.
To resist, you need to listen extremely carefully to the words of the manipulator, and, having noticed a catch, correct what he said with your remarks. Moreover, this must be done even when the manipulator tries to move on to another issue, pretending that he does not notice the clarifications.
Deliberate topic jumping.
This technique is based on the fact that after voicing certain information, the manipulator immediately jumps to another topic, without giving the opponent the opportunity to “protest” the first one. Naturally, the opponent's attention is automatically reoriented to new data, thereby creating the opportunity for the primary “unprotested” information to enter the subconscious.
In psychology, there is an axiom that after information is in the subconscious, after some time it passes into consciousness, that is, it is realized by a person. This rule especially works when the information was presented vividly and emotionally.
In addition, deliberate haste allows the manipulator to touch on many topics at once, skillfully bypassing the “censorship” of the opponent's psyche. At the right moment, part of the unconscious information will influence the consciousness of the opponent in a way favorable to the manipulator.
Pseudo-inattention of the manipulator.
This technique is based on the manipulator's falsely indifferent perception of the opponent's words, thereby psychologically forcing the interlocutor to prove the significance of his beliefs. By managing the information coming from the opponent, the manipulator easily receives information that the opponent had not previously intended to post. A similar circumstance of an opponent's behavior is inherent in psychology, when a person, at all costs, must prove that he is right with the entire chain of facts available.
False love.
The manipulator plays out in front of his opponent a state of adoration, intense love, excessive veneration, thereby seeking from him incomparably more than would be the case if he openly asked for something.
To protect yourself, your opponent must always have a “cold mind” and not succumb to provocations, regardless of the feelings and behavior of the person in front of you.
Furious pressure.
This method becomes possible due to the fact that the person at whom someone's anger is directed intuitively tries to “calm down” the angry person. Thus, he subconsciously agrees to make concessions to the manipulator.
To protect yourself, you need to show the manipulator your complete calm and indifference to what is happening, thus confusing him. Or, on the contrary, seize the initiative by responding with verbal anger with an additional visual effect, that is, touching the manipulator's hand or shoulder.
Excessive suspicion.
A similar technique works when the manipulator acts out excessive suspicion in front of the interlocutor in any matter. Psychologically, the opponent tries to “justify himself,” thereby weakening the protective barrier of his psyche. At the right moment, the manipulator just has to “push” the desired attitudes into the interlocutor's subconscious.
An option for defense is strong-willed confrontation, one's own self-confidence.
Imaginary fatigue.
The manipulator pretends that he is very tired. He doesn't have the strength to carry on a conversation, listen to objections, or prove anything; he just needs rest, and the sooner the better. Naturally, the object of manipulation tries to end negotiations faster, often agreeing to the terms of the manipulator, who only needs this.
To protect yourself, you need to clearly understand the rule - do not give in to provocations!
A courtesy extended.
During the conversation, the manipulator, in a conspiratorial tone, supposedly “in a friendly way,” tells the opponent how best to act in the proposed situation. Naturally, the advice is the decision that he personally needs.
To protect yourself, you need to understand that for any decision you need to “pay the bills,” and therefore only your opponent needs to make it.
The particular factor is either from details to error.
The manipulator focuses the opponent's attention on one specific detail of the conversation, preventing him from focusing on the main thing. Based on this, the opponent's consciousness concludes that the detail is emphasized and there is no alternative meaning of what was said, although in fact, this is not true. This situation often occurs in life, when we judge something without having all the information in our hands, based on one fact.
In order not to become a simpleton, you need to strive for self-improvement and constantly update information on issues important for negotiations.
Manipulation with a grin.
At the very beginning of the conversation, the manipulator chooses an ironic tone, as if casting doubt on all the opponent's words. In this case, the opponent very quickly “loses his temper”, thereby, in a state of anger, he loses the ability to think critically and makes it difficult to “censor” his consciousness. During this process, consciousness easily misses information that was previously prohibited.
For effective defense, the opponent must, without losing composure, show complete indifference to the behavior of the manipulator.
Interruption as a way for thoughts to escape.
The manipulator does not give the opponent the opportunity to express his point of view, constantly interrupting him and directing his train of thought in a different direction that is beneficial to the provocateur.
As a counteraction, it is necessary either not to pay attention to the manipulator's remarks, or to openly ridicule his behavior.
Simulated bias.
At the beginning of the meeting, the manipulator hints to the opponent that he believes that he is unreasonably biased towards him. The opponent, trying to justify himself, that is, to prove the opposite, often follows the provoker's lead, agreeing to conditions that are not favorable to himself.
To protect yourself, it is necessary to critically evaluate the words of the manipulator.
Specific terminology or misleading information.
In his conversation, the manipulator deliberately uses an excessive number of specific terms, carefully selecting those that are little known to the opponent. The opponent, afraid of being caught in illiteracy, does not clarify what lies behind these concepts, thereby not grasping the full meaning of what is happening.
The way to counteract is to always clarify what is unclear.
Through humiliation to victory.
The manipulator discredits the opponent, introducing him into a state of altered consciousness by categorically accusing him of stupidity. Often the opponent “gets lost” and his thoughts are confused, thereby presenting the manipulator with an amazing opportunity to encode the psyche and impose his ideas.
To protect yourself, you need to learn to “turn off your brain” and not pay attention to the meaning of the words of the provocateur. You can pretend that you are carefully following the progress of the conversation, and either “think about your own” or focus on the details of the interior, the wardrobe of the negotiators, etc.
Wrong assumption.
During the conversation, the manipulator deliberately leaves the meaning unfinished, thereby forcing the opponent to second guess what he said. Often the opponent does not even notice that he is mistaken. If the deception is discovered, the opponent gets the impression that he himself misunderstood or misheard something and, due to his stupidity, fell into a trap.
To defend effectively, your opponent needs to make a decision based on the facts.
“Yes,” or the path to agreement.
The manipulator constructs the conversation in such a way that the opponent has to constantly respond to his remarks with his consent. After several agreements, the provocateur unobtrusively pushes his main idea, leading to the solution he needs.
To protect yourself, it is necessary to sharply “knock down” the direction of the conversation.
Blame on theory or perceived lack of practice.
The manipulator, having carefully listened to the opponent's conclusions, makes a “verdict” that all his words are correct only in theory, in practice everything will be completely different. Thus, making it clear that the opponent's thoughts “are not worth a damn,” therefore, there is no point in taking them seriously.
For effective defense, you need to be confident in yourself and not pay attention to the conjectures of the provocateur.
These methods will work on absolutely any person, because, despite the fact that each of us is individual, the components of the human psyche are structured the same way in everyone, with the few exceptions of small details.
It should immediately be noted that there are a great many techniques for suppressing or, in other words, manipulating the opponent's consciousness, some of which we freely use in life without even realizing it, while others can be mastered only after long training.
False questioning technique.
The manipulative effect is that the manipulator pretends that he wants to clarify something in more detail for himself, for this purpose he asks the opponent again. However, he repeats his words only at the beginning, and then partially, skillfully changing the meaning of what the opponent said to please himself, that is, introducing a different semantic load of conclusions.
To resist, you need to listen extremely carefully to the words of the manipulator, and, having noticed a catch, correct what he said with your remarks. Moreover, this must be done even when the manipulator tries to move on to another issue, pretending that he does not notice the clarifications.
Deliberate topic jumping.
This technique is based on the fact that after voicing certain information, the manipulator immediately jumps to another topic, without giving the opponent the opportunity to “protest” the first one. Naturally, the opponent's attention is automatically reoriented to new data, thereby creating the opportunity for the primary “unprotested” information to enter the subconscious.
In psychology, there is an axiom that after information is in the subconscious, after some time it passes into consciousness, that is, it is realized by a person. This rule especially works when the information was presented vividly and emotionally.
In addition, deliberate haste allows the manipulator to touch on many topics at once, skillfully bypassing the “censorship” of the opponent's psyche. At the right moment, part of the unconscious information will influence the consciousness of the opponent in a way favorable to the manipulator.
Pseudo-inattention of the manipulator.
This technique is based on the manipulator's falsely indifferent perception of the opponent's words, thereby psychologically forcing the interlocutor to prove the significance of his beliefs. By managing the information coming from the opponent, the manipulator easily receives information that the opponent had not previously intended to post. A similar circumstance of an opponent's behavior is inherent in psychology, when a person, at all costs, must prove that he is right with the entire chain of facts available.
False love.
The manipulator plays out in front of his opponent a state of adoration, intense love, excessive veneration, thereby seeking from him incomparably more than would be the case if he openly asked for something.
To protect yourself, your opponent must always have a “cold mind” and not succumb to provocations, regardless of the feelings and behavior of the person in front of you.
Furious pressure.
This method becomes possible due to the fact that the person at whom someone's anger is directed intuitively tries to “calm down” the angry person. Thus, he subconsciously agrees to make concessions to the manipulator.
To protect yourself, you need to show the manipulator your complete calm and indifference to what is happening, thus confusing him. Or, on the contrary, seize the initiative by responding with verbal anger with an additional visual effect, that is, touching the manipulator's hand or shoulder.
Excessive suspicion.
A similar technique works when the manipulator acts out excessive suspicion in front of the interlocutor in any matter. Psychologically, the opponent tries to “justify himself,” thereby weakening the protective barrier of his psyche. At the right moment, the manipulator just has to “push” the desired attitudes into the interlocutor's subconscious.
An option for defense is strong-willed confrontation, one's own self-confidence.
Imaginary fatigue.
The manipulator pretends that he is very tired. He doesn't have the strength to carry on a conversation, listen to objections, or prove anything; he just needs rest, and the sooner the better. Naturally, the object of manipulation tries to end negotiations faster, often agreeing to the terms of the manipulator, who only needs this.
To protect yourself, you need to clearly understand the rule - do not give in to provocations!
A courtesy extended.
During the conversation, the manipulator, in a conspiratorial tone, supposedly “in a friendly way,” tells the opponent how best to act in the proposed situation. Naturally, the advice is the decision that he personally needs.
To protect yourself, you need to understand that for any decision you need to “pay the bills,” and therefore only your opponent needs to make it.
The particular factor is either from details to error.
The manipulator focuses the opponent's attention on one specific detail of the conversation, preventing him from focusing on the main thing. Based on this, the opponent's consciousness concludes that the detail is emphasized and there is no alternative meaning of what was said, although in fact, this is not true. This situation often occurs in life, when we judge something without having all the information in our hands, based on one fact.
In order not to become a simpleton, you need to strive for self-improvement and constantly update information on issues important for negotiations.
Manipulation with a grin.
At the very beginning of the conversation, the manipulator chooses an ironic tone, as if casting doubt on all the opponent's words. In this case, the opponent very quickly “loses his temper”, thereby, in a state of anger, he loses the ability to think critically and makes it difficult to “censor” his consciousness. During this process, consciousness easily misses information that was previously prohibited.
For effective defense, the opponent must, without losing composure, show complete indifference to the behavior of the manipulator.
Interruption as a way for thoughts to escape.
The manipulator does not give the opponent the opportunity to express his point of view, constantly interrupting him and directing his train of thought in a different direction that is beneficial to the provocateur.
As a counteraction, it is necessary either not to pay attention to the manipulator's remarks, or to openly ridicule his behavior.
Simulated bias.
At the beginning of the meeting, the manipulator hints to the opponent that he believes that he is unreasonably biased towards him. The opponent, trying to justify himself, that is, to prove the opposite, often follows the provoker's lead, agreeing to conditions that are not favorable to himself.
To protect yourself, it is necessary to critically evaluate the words of the manipulator.
Specific terminology or misleading information.
In his conversation, the manipulator deliberately uses an excessive number of specific terms, carefully selecting those that are little known to the opponent. The opponent, afraid of being caught in illiteracy, does not clarify what lies behind these concepts, thereby not grasping the full meaning of what is happening.
The way to counteract is to always clarify what is unclear.
Through humiliation to victory.
The manipulator discredits the opponent, introducing him into a state of altered consciousness by categorically accusing him of stupidity. Often the opponent “gets lost” and his thoughts are confused, thereby presenting the manipulator with an amazing opportunity to encode the psyche and impose his ideas.
To protect yourself, you need to learn to “turn off your brain” and not pay attention to the meaning of the words of the provocateur. You can pretend that you are carefully following the progress of the conversation, and either “think about your own” or focus on the details of the interior, the wardrobe of the negotiators, etc.
Wrong assumption.
During the conversation, the manipulator deliberately leaves the meaning unfinished, thereby forcing the opponent to second guess what he said. Often the opponent does not even notice that he is mistaken. If the deception is discovered, the opponent gets the impression that he himself misunderstood or misheard something and, due to his stupidity, fell into a trap.
To defend effectively, your opponent needs to make a decision based on the facts.
“Yes,” or the path to agreement.
The manipulator constructs the conversation in such a way that the opponent has to constantly respond to his remarks with his consent. After several agreements, the provocateur unobtrusively pushes his main idea, leading to the solution he needs.
To protect yourself, it is necessary to sharply “knock down” the direction of the conversation.
Blame on theory or perceived lack of practice.
The manipulator, having carefully listened to the opponent's conclusions, makes a “verdict” that all his words are correct only in theory, in practice everything will be completely different. Thus, making it clear that the opponent's thoughts “are not worth a damn,” therefore, there is no point in taking them seriously.
For effective defense, you need to be confident in yourself and not pay attention to the conjectures of the provocateur.
These methods will work on absolutely any person, because, despite the fact that each of us is individual, the components of the human psyche are structured the same way in everyone, with the few exceptions of small details.
