How to protect yourself from psychological pressure?

[Brother]

It would seem that there is something special here - to go to the boss with his opinion, and go out with the opinion of the boss. Or talk in a raised voice with your spouse and go out to do something wrong. Negotiate and then find yourself making unnecessary commitments. And cursing yourself, start doing what you don't want to do at all. At the same time, not everyone understands that they have become a victim of psychological pressure. And that they were simply skillfully manipulated, causing the necessary motivation. Next, we will talk about what methods of psychological pressure you can face and how to deal with it.

Guilt manipulation.

You need to understand that truth is subjective, the line between truth and falsehood is very vague. The same event can be perceived by different people in completely different ways. This is the basis of the reception of pressure through feelings of guilt. By artificially causing a person to feel guilty, he can be manipulated. Having created the necessary motivation for the manipulator. How to deal with this? First, play along with the manipulator so that he does not increase the pressure. Secondly, do not take on any obligations. You can use any of the ways to say no. As a result, the manipulator can be driven into a dead end - the opponent is crushed and crushed (he thinks so), admits guilt, but does not want to do anything and avoids answering as much as possible.

Psychological pressure using rhetorical questions.

Rhetorical questions are very effective for manipulation. For example, "do you understand how you set us up", "do you even think what you are doing", "how you can be such an idiot" Answering them is useless, and keeping silent means showing disrespect to the interlocutor or admitting your guilt. I sometimes manage to deal with it in only one way. I continue with the question and suggest any favorable option. For example: "you generally think what you are doing" - "yes, I made a decision based on ... agreed it ... expected to get the following results ... now I expect ..." As a result, sometimes it is possible to drag the interlocutor into an argument, albeit emotional, but constructive. Earlier I tried to be silent, but to the direct question "why are you silent" I said "

Massive psychological attack.

If the previous techniques are most often used for pressure from top to bottom, then this is more suitable for the opposite situation. Once we needed the last signature of an official. All approvals have been received, procedures have been followed. But he didn't want to sign. And he didn't take money and didn't give a clear answer why he didn't sign. He answered vaguely like "I will consider" or "I will think", and when asked "when" he snapped back. Then all subordinates were given the task of collecting information about his acquaintances. Since the position is high, a lot of data was received, and among his acquaintances were ours. We asked everyone to help. And the calls began.

He received calls from his institute and army friends, colleagues from previous jobs, officials from related departments. There were even a couple of calls from his superiors with puzzled questions. And in the waiting room our man was constantly sitting and tugging at him every time he saw. He did not last long. Then I was told that for several months he flinched at the mention of our company.

This technique is very often used in sales when making calls to a decision maker. Sometimes it is possible to get enough of a person that he is ready to do anything to get behind. Collectors do the same when they call all the friends, colleagues and relatives of the debtor.

This also applies when negotiating a wage increase. When, before going to ask, there is a preliminary processing of the boss. When several people tell him that it is time for Ivanov to raise his salary, the conversation with Ivanov can be much more effective.

It is worth mentioning that when using this technique, there is a risk that a person will bite. That is, he will be offended and will do it out of spite. Honestly, this was not the case in my practice.

How to protect yourself from a massive psychological attack? There are only two ways. Hold on and politely explain to all agents of influence that they are not meddling in their own business. Or go out to negotiations with the one who puts pressure on you, and defend your position.

Psychological pressure through direct threat.

Most often I came across this immediately after the crisis. When negotiating with creditors. And many used extremely dumb tactics - they threatened. In principle, there is a psychological basis for this, usually the threat is worse than its execution. But this is only true for those who don't know that bullshit dogs rarely bite. Almost always, a direct threat is an indicator that they want to negotiate with you. If people are capable of decisive action, they will act, not threaten. Therefore, it is best to ignore threats and negotiate in a normal manner.

Let me give you an example. Some said that they would sue, that they had connections with the police and that they would ruin us if we did not agree to their terms. Others politely offered their terms. In the meantime, we were thinking, one of my subordinates was smashed in the head, and the other was put on a train and asked not to appear in the city again. That is, some pressed psychologically, while others acted - they transferred the game to their field.

General methods of protection from psychological pressure.

In moments when you are under severe pressure, it is not always possible to think calmly, analyze what is happening and control the conversation. Emotions are distracting. To neutralize them, there are some simple psychological tricks on how to resist manipulation.

1. The use of closed poses - crossed arms and legs, a glance, etc. This is a subconscious protection of the throat, heart and groin. In this position, the person is closed to perception.

2. Placement between oneself and the opponent of natural obstacles - tables, chairs, interior details. You can take an object such as a vase, cup, or ashtray and raise it to eye level to cover your face.

3. Creation of mental obstacles between yourself and your opponent. You can imagine a wall of fire, glass, or water. You can mentally enclose yourself in a spacesuit or a force field. You need to try several options, one will work better than the others. Sometimes for a mental wall or cocoon it is advised to choose the element under the sign of the zodiac.

4. Mental withdrawal of the opponent from the image. You can imagine him naked, in only underwear or in funny clothes. Any option will do in which the psychological pressure from him will not be taken seriously.

5. Distraction. Any method is possible that will prevent the opponent from concentrating. I tried to take a glossy magazine and open it on a page with a bright advertisement. Men can be distracted by a lightly dressed beauty, women by stylish clothes or jewelry. Some women sit down so that their dress lifts or bends over to showcase their lingerie. It is very difficult to put pressure on them in such a situation.

In conclusion, I will share how to check how easy it is to manipulate and pressure you psychologically. Pay attention to phrases like "it is useless to argue with you", "you cannot be asked for anything" or "you cannot agree on anything." Usually they are spoken by unlucky manipulators.