How to manipulate people? Brief guide.

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I think everyone in the depths of his soul, at least once in his life, thought about the ability to manipulate people.
In our article, you will learn how to manipulate people constructively without harming yourself and other people.
Undoubtedly, this desire cannot but be called selfish, and it is unlikely that it will help make these people more successful or successful, because manipulation itself is a deliberate strategy that, according to the manipulator, raises his position in life and self-esteem in the face of those whom he manipulates.

How to manipulate people - ways of manipulation
Manipulation, or in other words a way of managing people, has long been common in every human sphere of life: from family relations to politics.
Manipulation is expressed in almost everything: parents, teachers, work relationships, media, marketing, advertising, politics and diplomats, and so on, ad infinitum.
You can manipulate people openly, but you can also covertly, destructively and constructively, consciously and unconsciously, in the form of positive and negative psychological methods.
People tend to manipulate others: men want to know how to manage a woman, women, on the contrary, a man; some dream of controlling a person, influencing his decision, in their favor.

Human manipulation technique - verbal and non-verbal manipulation
Consider the technique of manipulating people, which is often used in NLP (neurolinguistic programming) techniques.

Verbal adjustment during manipulation
In order to start manipulating a person, initially, a verbal adjustment to him is required, because correct communication is a step towards success.

What is necessary in this case:

• Observation of a person: for intonation, his manner of communication, sentences and words, timbre of his voice;
• Try to synchronize the rhythm of your communication with the rhythm of your interlocutor;
• Speak convincingly and ambiguously;
• Monitor the reaction of the interlocutor;
• In your speech, you need to use only "permissive" words, in no case do not use command words (for example: "must not", "must" or "must");
• Repeat the words of your counterpart (this will create the appearance that you understand and support him). Do not overuse this as this may soon bother the interlocutor;
• Conduct the conversation in a calm, relaxed manner;
• It is advisable to pretend that you are looking into the eyes of the interlocutor, while at the same time, try to blink as little as possible and direct your gaze, as it were, through him. Try to focus your gaze about 30 centimeters behind your interlocutor.

Non-verbal adjustment during manipulation
In order for the manipulation of a person to act more effectively, non-verbal adjustment is used, that is, the language of gestures, facial expressions and body. This method uses copying of the interlocutor's behavior, his gestures, facial expressions and body coordination.
After trying this several times in practice, you will understand how you can manipulate people using both verbal and non-verbal adjustments.
Adjusting to your interlocutor relieves stress from him, helps to remove all psychological barriers, relaxes him, thereby making him open to suggestion, influence, persuasion, as well as other manipulations.

The scheme for manipulating people is pretty simple:
verbal adjustment + non-verbal adjustment - manipulation, and again - non-verbal adjustment + verbal adjustment - manipulation, and so on, until you get the desired results.

 

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How to manipulate people 2021​

It is said that influence is the most important of the arts.

After all, it can give a person power over other people. The art of influence is one of the most important skills of successful people. Here are the basic principles of influencing a person.

Mutual exchange

Since ancient times, before the invention of currency, mankind has used barter. A lot of time has passed, but the scheme of barter or mutual exchange has been deposited in the mind of a person. There is an unspoken rule that if one person gave something to another, then the latter, in turn, must give something in return. Anthropologists believe that it was this principle of mutual exchange that turned the humanoid ape into a social being, and society has a very negative attitude towards people who do not follow the principle of mutual exchange. Therefore, a person does everything in order not to be ungrateful and ignorant. Should someone put pressure on the feeling of guilt or duty, then we can assume that this person will feel obligated, which means that the mechanism of manipulation has been launched. Shops and supermarkets, who arrange free promotions are perfectly familiar with human psychology. A good-natured smile, a free product and a person is already buying the product he needs.

A game of pride

Most people strive to follow the stated principles and actions in society. The well-known psychologist F. Haider called this behavior the theory of balance, that is, almost any person wants to have similar views with those whom he likes, but common with those who are absolutely indifferent to him or causes hostility. To arouse the sympathy of a person, it is believed that you need to have somewhat similar views with him, common hobbies, tastes. Marketers use this principle to attract genuine interest to their products by hiring actors and heroes of cult TV series, so beloved by the viewer, to advertise. For example, a beauty is used to advertise nicotine, and politicians, promoting their candidacy, can spend hours talking about family and spirituality, thus creating cognitive dissonance, lulling a person's vigilance. The principle of hidden request and the rule of triple consent. The principle of triple agreement is that if a person has agreed with someone twice, then he will answer with consent a third time. For example, to get a person to help with a service, you need to ask him a question with a hidden request. For example, if someone wants to borrow money from a friend, you need to ask, purely hypothetically, whether the person is ready to help with a request, whether he thinks that a close friend always needs help, and the third time to voice the request itself. The mechanism in this case works flawlessly, a person who has agreed with an opponent twice will agree a third time. you need to ask him a question with a hidden request. For example, if someone wants to borrow money from a friend, you need to ask, purely hypothetically, whether the person is ready to help with a request, whether he thinks that a close friend always needs help, and the third time to voice the request itself. The mechanism in this case works flawlessly, a person who has agreed with an opponent twice will agree a third time. you need to ask him a question with a hidden request. For example, if someone wants to borrow money from a friend, you need to ask, purely hypothetically, whether the person is ready to help with a request, whether he thinks that a close friend always needs help, and the third time to voice the request itself. The mechanism in this case works flawlessly, a person who has agreed with an opponent twice will agree a third time.

Flattery

Flattery is one of the best ways to manipulate. Here it works according to the following scheme, when someone praises someone, the latter, in turn, begins to try to be better, otherwise he will not live up to expectations. After all, subconsciously, such a person partially feels obligated and is afraid to break other people's expectations and hopes.