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Relationships with people do not always work out the way we would like. Imagine: you are standing nose to nose with a person who literally boils with anger and shouts at you; and all you want is to answer him in kind. But yelling back will not improve the situation in any way. How to pull yourself together and hold on? There are several solutions for this, and only one of them is correct.
1. Suppress your anger. Definitely a bad idea. In this case, you just say through clenched teeth: "It's okay" and try to keep doing business. You have hidden your outburst of anger from others, but what is going on in your head? And there is a real hurricane. You can't hold back anger.
2. Releasing anger at others. It is certainly possible to express your dissatisfaction constructively, but you should not dump anger at the interlocutor - your anger will grow like a snowball with every word you say. Curling up and venting anger only intensifies the emotional outburst.
3. Get distracted and reevaluate the situation. Yes, it is quite difficult to distract yourself when someone is screaming hysterically right in your face. However, there is one way.
Once again, we will present the situation in detail: someone is standing a few centimeters from you and yelling at you for nothing. You really want to answer in the same way, or even properly attach the "interlocutor" about something.
But what if I told you that this man lost his mother yesterday? Or is he going through a difficult divorce, and yesterday his rights to children were taken away from him? You probably wouldn't take his anger so personally, and perhaps even sympathize.
What changed? Never mind! It's just that the backstory you told yourself changed the way you look at the situation. As soon as you change your perception of the situation, the brain changes your emotions in relation to it.
Now the last step is to forgive. And you need it, not your interlocutor. Holding evil on someone is the same as drinking poison yourself, thinking that someone else will die.
1. Suppress your anger. Definitely a bad idea. In this case, you just say through clenched teeth: "It's okay" and try to keep doing business. You have hidden your outburst of anger from others, but what is going on in your head? And there is a real hurricane. You can't hold back anger.
2. Releasing anger at others. It is certainly possible to express your dissatisfaction constructively, but you should not dump anger at the interlocutor - your anger will grow like a snowball with every word you say. Curling up and venting anger only intensifies the emotional outburst.
3. Get distracted and reevaluate the situation. Yes, it is quite difficult to distract yourself when someone is screaming hysterically right in your face. However, there is one way.
Once again, we will present the situation in detail: someone is standing a few centimeters from you and yelling at you for nothing. You really want to answer in the same way, or even properly attach the "interlocutor" about something.
But what if I told you that this man lost his mother yesterday? Or is he going through a difficult divorce, and yesterday his rights to children were taken away from him? You probably wouldn't take his anger so personally, and perhaps even sympathize.
What changed? Never mind! It's just that the backstory you told yourself changed the way you look at the situation. As soon as you change your perception of the situation, the brain changes your emotions in relation to it.
Now the last step is to forgive. And you need it, not your interlocutor. Holding evil on someone is the same as drinking poison yourself, thinking that someone else will die.
