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Arthur Aron is a psychologist who conducted an amazing experiment 20 years ago. In his laboratory, he invited previously unknown man and woman, whom he offered to answer 36 questions. People had to speak sincerely, empathizing with each other. After discussing the issues, the couple looked into each other's eyes for 4 minutes. It's amazing what happened next - after six months, these people decided to get married!
The secret of this experience is that by answering such detailed, personal questions, people become open, vulnerable. The overall openness is very close. Having talked about such topics with a complete stranger and listened to him carefully, you will very quickly gain his trust. In addition, these questions can be used in relationship therapy. A couple drifting apart from each other will be able to quickly refresh their feelings with the help of a confidential conversation. Here is a list of these awesome questions:
1. Choosing from everyone in the world, who would you invite to dinner?
2. Would you like to be famous? What would you like to be famous for?
3. Before you make a phone call, do you ever practice what you are about to say? Why?
4. What is your ideal day?
5. When was the last time you sang alone with yourself? And for someone else?
6. What would you choose: to preserve the body or mind of yourself as a 30-year-old for the next 60 years of your life?
7. Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die?
8. Name three things you and your partner have in common.
9. For what in your life do you feel the greatest gratitude?
10. If you could change anything during your upbringing, what would it be?
11. In 4 minutes tell your partner your life story in as much detail as possible.
12. If you could wake up tomorrow, acquiring a certain quality or ability, which one?
13. If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about your life, the future, or anything else, what would you like to know?
14. Is there something that you have dreamed of doing for a long time? Why didn't you do it?
15. What is the greatest achievement in your life?
16. What do you value most in your friends?
17. What is your most cherished memory?
18. What was your worst memory?
19. If you knew that within one year you would suddenly die, would you change anything in your current life? Why?
20. What does friendship mean to you?
21. What role do love and affection play in your life?
22. Name the positive characteristics of your partner, about 5 points.
23. How close are your family members? Do you think your childhood was happier than most other people?
24. What do you think about your relationship with your mother?
25. Make up three truthful sentences starting with "we". For example, "We are both in this room thinking about ..."
26. Continue this phrase: "I would like to share with someone ..."
27. What should the partner with whom you want to become close friends know about you?
28. Tell your partner what you like the most about him. Try to be as honest as possible.
29. Share with your partner the most unpleasant moment in your life.
30. Remember when and from what you cried the last time.
31. What thing seems so serious to you that it is impossible to joke about it?
32. If you were to die this evening, what important would you like to say and to whom?
33. Your house with all your belongings was on fire. After rescuing loved ones, you have time to return to the house again and save one thing. What is this thing and why do you choose it?
34. The death of which family member would hurt you the most? Why?
35. Share your personal problem and ask your partner for advice on how to solve it.
36. Tell us about your first love.
As Erich Fromm argues in his book The Art of Love, love is not something easily accessible and random. Realizing their loneliness in this vast world, people strive to unite with someone who would understand and support them. These questions very well connect even completely dissimilar people, because thinking together about such important points means getting as close to each other as possible.
Conduct this experiment with your soul mate, and if she is not there, it doesn't matter. By discussing such issues, you can very quickly get close to someone you like. Psychology is a magical science, it can work wonders!
The secret of this experience is that by answering such detailed, personal questions, people become open, vulnerable. The overall openness is very close. Having talked about such topics with a complete stranger and listened to him carefully, you will very quickly gain his trust. In addition, these questions can be used in relationship therapy. A couple drifting apart from each other will be able to quickly refresh their feelings with the help of a confidential conversation. Here is a list of these awesome questions:
1. Choosing from everyone in the world, who would you invite to dinner?
2. Would you like to be famous? What would you like to be famous for?
3. Before you make a phone call, do you ever practice what you are about to say? Why?
4. What is your ideal day?
5. When was the last time you sang alone with yourself? And for someone else?
6. What would you choose: to preserve the body or mind of yourself as a 30-year-old for the next 60 years of your life?
7. Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die?
8. Name three things you and your partner have in common.
9. For what in your life do you feel the greatest gratitude?
10. If you could change anything during your upbringing, what would it be?
11. In 4 minutes tell your partner your life story in as much detail as possible.
12. If you could wake up tomorrow, acquiring a certain quality or ability, which one?
13. If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about your life, the future, or anything else, what would you like to know?
14. Is there something that you have dreamed of doing for a long time? Why didn't you do it?
15. What is the greatest achievement in your life?
16. What do you value most in your friends?
17. What is your most cherished memory?
18. What was your worst memory?
19. If you knew that within one year you would suddenly die, would you change anything in your current life? Why?
20. What does friendship mean to you?
21. What role do love and affection play in your life?
22. Name the positive characteristics of your partner, about 5 points.
23. How close are your family members? Do you think your childhood was happier than most other people?
24. What do you think about your relationship with your mother?
25. Make up three truthful sentences starting with "we". For example, "We are both in this room thinking about ..."
26. Continue this phrase: "I would like to share with someone ..."
27. What should the partner with whom you want to become close friends know about you?
28. Tell your partner what you like the most about him. Try to be as honest as possible.
29. Share with your partner the most unpleasant moment in your life.
30. Remember when and from what you cried the last time.
31. What thing seems so serious to you that it is impossible to joke about it?
32. If you were to die this evening, what important would you like to say and to whom?
33. Your house with all your belongings was on fire. After rescuing loved ones, you have time to return to the house again and save one thing. What is this thing and why do you choose it?
34. The death of which family member would hurt you the most? Why?
35. Share your personal problem and ask your partner for advice on how to solve it.
36. Tell us about your first love.
As Erich Fromm argues in his book The Art of Love, love is not something easily accessible and random. Realizing their loneliness in this vast world, people strive to unite with someone who would understand and support them. These questions very well connect even completely dissimilar people, because thinking together about such important points means getting as close to each other as possible.
Conduct this experiment with your soul mate, and if she is not there, it doesn't matter. By discussing such issues, you can very quickly get close to someone you like. Psychology is a magical science, it can work wonders!
