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Everyone who works on themselves has to face such a stage in life when the old environment begins to become a kind of burden. And then there is an obvious choice that everyone feels, but few people dare to make a decision: give up and go further or hold on and stand still?
When you realize that it would be good to leave past people in the past, you start to remember how good it was with them, what you did, what you went through together. And it's the past that keeps you going. But in the present, you no longer have much in common, and communication for the sake of communication appears. When you don't feel any interest, you may even feel some kind of futility in the process, but you can't break that connection either. Because, well, how is it to break?
In this case, I often advise you not to resort to drastic measures. Understand that life will always be a little more complicated than it is written somewhere. Doing the right thing is easy only in theory. If you can't refuse — don't refuse. Yes, there is a parable about a bucket of crabs. Yes, this environment won't do you any good. But if breaking the connection with them undermines your emotional state, it will also lead to nothing good. It's just the other extreme.
To resolve this issue painlessly, just start gradually distancing yourself and devote more time not to communication for the sake of communication, but to your interests. Instead of having a party that you no longer enjoy, go about your own business. If you don't like any of the suggestions, then refuse honestly stating the reason. This way you won't feel guilty. And friends will fall off by themselves, because they will also become uninterested in you.
Understand that until you are free of the old, you will always be closed to the new. Having abandoned some old acquaintances, communication with whom was not based on anything at all (neither on common views, nor on common interests), I acquired new friends with whom I am much more interesting.
And this approach is neither selfish nor mercantile. I am very careful about male friendships and I love my friends very much. But I will definitely not allow people who have accidentally become my acquaintances to interfere with my plans and stand in my way. And this is exactly the same approach I advise you to take. Because after you realize that you have long lost contact with those who pull you down, you will at least not notice the difference, at most, you will only become better. But you definitely won't lose anything.
When you realize that it would be good to leave past people in the past, you start to remember how good it was with them, what you did, what you went through together. And it's the past that keeps you going. But in the present, you no longer have much in common, and communication for the sake of communication appears. When you don't feel any interest, you may even feel some kind of futility in the process, but you can't break that connection either. Because, well, how is it to break?
In this case, I often advise you not to resort to drastic measures. Understand that life will always be a little more complicated than it is written somewhere. Doing the right thing is easy only in theory. If you can't refuse — don't refuse. Yes, there is a parable about a bucket of crabs. Yes, this environment won't do you any good. But if breaking the connection with them undermines your emotional state, it will also lead to nothing good. It's just the other extreme.
To resolve this issue painlessly, just start gradually distancing yourself and devote more time not to communication for the sake of communication, but to your interests. Instead of having a party that you no longer enjoy, go about your own business. If you don't like any of the suggestions, then refuse honestly stating the reason. This way you won't feel guilty. And friends will fall off by themselves, because they will also become uninterested in you.
Understand that until you are free of the old, you will always be closed to the new. Having abandoned some old acquaintances, communication with whom was not based on anything at all (neither on common views, nor on common interests), I acquired new friends with whom I am much more interesting.
And this approach is neither selfish nor mercantile. I am very careful about male friendships and I love my friends very much. But I will definitely not allow people who have accidentally become my acquaintances to interfere with my plans and stand in my way. And this is exactly the same approach I advise you to take. Because after you realize that you have long lost contact with those who pull you down, you will at least not notice the difference, at most, you will only become better. But you definitely won't lose anything.
