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Susan Forward identifies the following main tools as a professional blackmailer:
? Demagoguery
According to the author, "emotional blackmailers are real political strategists, skillful masters to create a halo around their own characters and motives, and to question ours or even splash with mud."
Blackmailers present a conflict situation as if it arose through our fault, because of our delusions and imbalances, and they themselves are wise and acting out of good intentions. The essence of this technique can be described in a few words: "I am good and you are bad." We tend to believe in demagoguery because we cannot question the belief that loved ones can behave with us insensitively and wish for harm.
We want to trust them. Effective demagogic influence makes the victim doubt his righteousness and beliefs, feel ashamed of himself and feel his inferiority. If such a demagogic influence is applied during the maturation of the personality, then in the future the person will suffer from low self-esteem and lack of self-confidence.
"The labels of blackmailers are so different from our natural ones that we soon stop trusting our labels and begin to adopt a blackmailer's position regarding our perception, character, merits, attractiveness and values."
? Accusations of inferiority
Many blackmailers use another painful technique - they interpret the resistance of their victim as her inferiority and inferiority. The author notes that in psychiatry this is called pathologization. "Pathologization is a way to make us seem sick if we disagree with the demands of the blackmailers." This technique is especially effective if it is used by an authoritative figure for us - a doctor, teacher, lawyer or psychotherapist. Often, being an expert instills confidence in people that their opinions and actions are impeccable.
? Attracting allies
If the blackmailer feels that he cannot break the victim alone, he can call for reinforcements from family and friends. And if they are not authoritative enough to use the scriptures and various authoritative sources, pulling quotes out of context in a way that is beneficial to themselves. Blackmailers can attract those who are respected and loved by a victim who will have a hard time coping with such superiority.
? Negative comparisons
To sow seeds of doubt in us and convince us that we are right, blackmailers resort to comparisons. They compare us to the ideal, and the comparison is certainly not in our favor.
“Why can't you be like ...” - such a phrase can often be heard from a blackmailer. “Negative comparisons make us feel inadequate. We are not as good, not as loyal, not as hardworking as this and that, and therefore we immediately feel anxiety and our guilt. "
? Demagoguery
According to the author, "emotional blackmailers are real political strategists, skillful masters to create a halo around their own characters and motives, and to question ours or even splash with mud."
Blackmailers present a conflict situation as if it arose through our fault, because of our delusions and imbalances, and they themselves are wise and acting out of good intentions. The essence of this technique can be described in a few words: "I am good and you are bad." We tend to believe in demagoguery because we cannot question the belief that loved ones can behave with us insensitively and wish for harm.
We want to trust them. Effective demagogic influence makes the victim doubt his righteousness and beliefs, feel ashamed of himself and feel his inferiority. If such a demagogic influence is applied during the maturation of the personality, then in the future the person will suffer from low self-esteem and lack of self-confidence.
"The labels of blackmailers are so different from our natural ones that we soon stop trusting our labels and begin to adopt a blackmailer's position regarding our perception, character, merits, attractiveness and values."
? Accusations of inferiority
Many blackmailers use another painful technique - they interpret the resistance of their victim as her inferiority and inferiority. The author notes that in psychiatry this is called pathologization. "Pathologization is a way to make us seem sick if we disagree with the demands of the blackmailers." This technique is especially effective if it is used by an authoritative figure for us - a doctor, teacher, lawyer or psychotherapist. Often, being an expert instills confidence in people that their opinions and actions are impeccable.
? Attracting allies
If the blackmailer feels that he cannot break the victim alone, he can call for reinforcements from family and friends. And if they are not authoritative enough to use the scriptures and various authoritative sources, pulling quotes out of context in a way that is beneficial to themselves. Blackmailers can attract those who are respected and loved by a victim who will have a hard time coping with such superiority.
? Negative comparisons
To sow seeds of doubt in us and convince us that we are right, blackmailers resort to comparisons. They compare us to the ideal, and the comparison is certainly not in our favor.
“Why can't you be like ...” - such a phrase can often be heard from a blackmailer. “Negative comparisons make us feel inadequate. We are not as good, not as loyal, not as hardworking as this and that, and therefore we immediately feel anxiety and our guilt. "
