Achieving Carding Goals

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Many carders have already realized that in order to achieve a goal, especially a long-term one, it is not enough just to give yourself a word and decide to work with your teeth clenched. In the process, laziness and a lot of excuses will surely appear, old thoughts and beliefs will return. As a result, the case will be idle for weeks. What to do? You need to change dramatically and adhere to a step-by-step system for achieving goals, which we will talk about today.

Of course, there are people who know how to achieve everything they want. And they are very surprised that others cannot do this. They even write books about how easy it is. But most of these authors forget that a person is a very complex matter, that hundreds of various factors affect him. You need to work very seriously with your psyche and thinking, the desire to achieve the goal is not enough. At least because it may disappear the very next day.

Therefore, we will not only present a step-by-step plan for achieving goals, but also try to approach the issue comprehensively, realizing that a person always very passionately wants to return to the past state. It's very hard to change. Therefore, you need to carefully study yourself and adhere to some rules.

Let's start with the excuses in which nearly all of us are perfect.

What excuses are we making up for ourselves?​

Goals, especially long-term goals, make us feel very uncomfortable. For various reasons: we have not felt progress for a long time, the path seems endless and much more.

Therefore, we very often come up with excuses. It's our way of explaining to ourselves why we don't cling to every chance to succeed in life. Here are the most popular ones.

• I'm not educated enough.
• I do not have enough money.
• I have no time.
• I'm not confident enough in myself.
• I just don't have enough experience.
• I'm not ready yet.
• I don't know where to start.
• It's too complicated.
• I'm afraid to make a mistake.
• I'm afraid.
• It's too risky.

All these excuses keep us in one place for a long time. Therefore, before you can learn to set goals, you must work with yourself and make it clear that you no longer accept an apology.

Every time you catch yourself thinking these thoughts, instantly label them as excuses. You can immediately sit down and write about it in your diary. Consciousness in our business is extremely important.

Excuses are also generated by laziness, so we will consider it separately.

How to deal with laziness?​

Anyone who indulges laziness loses huge amounts of money, time, prospects and opportunities. Perhaps this is the key difference between a successful person and a failure. Great people are not afraid to work, and they do it smartly, while average people look for excuses and stop thinking as soon as they leave the office.

To get rid of laziness, you need to take four important steps:

Determine why laziness occurs

Think of all the possible reasons you fall into the trap of laziness and ask yourself:

• Why do I indulge my laziness?
• Am I bored, am I tired, lack of inspiration?
• Am I scared of getting things done and am I using laziness as my avoidance mechanism?
• What exactly am I afraid of and trying to avoid?

Examine the long-term consequences

We often indulge our laziness because we are not causing ourselves enough pain. It turns out that it is better not to achieve the goal than to achieve it.

Therefore, you must convince yourself that if you are lazy, it will lead to tremendous pain in the future. List all the long-term effects.

Challenge yourself

When you challenge yourself, you feel like you are alive. Ask yourself the question: "Am I really weak?".

Remind yourself every day that only by setting a serious goal can you build character and become a truly strong personality.

Take action immediately

It is dangerous to engage in self-reflection for a long time without action. There is a risk to stay in oneself for a long time, to withdraw: then the study of personality will only be harmful.

Study and get to know yourself, but already in the process of achieving goals. Take small steps, develop your personality and learn along the way.

Step-by-step system for achieving goals​

The process of achieving goals must be broken down into several sequential steps, that is, create a system.

Step one: build your system​

To do this, go through the five required steps.

Be clear about what you want

The goal you set is limited solely by your imagination. Therefore, it is necessary to allocate enough time for this stage, without getting off with the banal: "I already know what I want, what next?"

The goals can be different: career, family, financial, as well as in the field of health, self-development, public service.

In this case, the goal itself, in fact, does not matter. It is only a product of your true desires. Answer three questions:

• What exactly do I want?
• Why do I want this?
• When do I want it?

These questions will help you not to concentrate on the goal, but to look, first of all, inside yourself. It may turn out that many desires were not real and did not reflect the real state of things in your soul.

People don't achieve goals because they don't answer these questions. And they are very important because they allow you to draw motivation for every day. For example, today you desperately wanted to learn how to play chess. This desire is sincere. But in a few days it will disappear and time will be lost. Better ask yourself why this is needed.

And of course, set deadlines. Without this, you will not create a sense of urgency within. Without a deadline, you will not push yourself, become lazy and eventually give up on the goal.

Decide if the goal fits with your personality

To understand what kind of person you are, you need to understand what it consists of: values, standards, beliefs, lifestyle and priorities.

We know that this sounds rather dull. But don't go to the next section, because this one is also incredibly important. Many people simply do not pay attention to who they are. They set great goals for themselves and even start to go towards them, but in the end they give up. These goals simply did not correspond to the key characteristics of their personality.

There is a concept of congruence in psychology. This is the consistency of speech, ideas and beliefs among themselves. In a broad sense - the integrity, self-consistency of the individual.

You've probably had periods when you did everything right and felt unhappy. Have you ever wondered why? The psyche feels the discrepancy between actions and personality parameters, therefore it transmits this information with the help of a bad mood and the feeling that you are “out of place”.

Knowing yourself is a long process. But you can start it with simple but correct questions:

• Is this goal consistent with my core values?
• Do I sincerely believe that I will achieve this goal?
• Is this goal in line with my lifestyle?
• Can an internal conflict arise here?
• Perhaps I need to adjust my priorities to make room for this purpose?
• Does this goal conflict with my other goals?
• How can this contradiction be resolved?
• Once I have achieved my goal, will I become the person I am trying to become?

The reality is that if your core values, beliefs, and priorities are not in harmony with the goal, then there is little hope of outcome. But if you take a little time and set the right goal, then everything will go like clockwork: you yourself will feel that you are doing everything right.

Consider external consequences

When we set a goal, we think about how it will affect our life, personality and the amount of time. But we rarely analyze what will happen to the environment and other people. And this can lead to big problems and conflicts.

Each goal you set has a number of consequences, both good and bad. Ask yourself the following questions:

• Who could potentially be affected?
• How exactly?

Don't be overconfident to think that you will easily deal with future conflicts or that this is not something to look out for. Such ignorance can be costly. Better take steps to minimize damage. After all, if you choose to go to the gym every day, you will spend less time with loved ones. It will inevitably affect your life in one way or another. Therefore, consider a wide variety of scenarios.

Ask yourself the following questions:

• What good is my current situation?
• Having achieved this goal, will I be able to keep all the good that is now?

Now you have a lot of time to spend with your children. But if you start to work harder, then it will not be enough. How will this affect the family? It is not necessary to give up your dream, but it is important to understand that the consequences will inevitably be.

Ask yourself:

• What sacrifices will I need to make in order to achieve this goal?
• Can I really make these sacrifices?

This is the price of success. To make the right decision, consider the following:

• What are the consequences of giving up this goal?
• What's at stake?
• What can I miss or lose?
• How will I feel?

Now you can see that even though you spend less time with your family, in the end it will only lead to better things. You will be able to earn more money, provide your children with a good education. As a result of the described analysis, you may well understand that it is worth choosing a completely different goal for yourself.

There will be many questions:

• What do I get if I achieve this goal?
• What will my loved ones get if I achieve this goal?
• How will this change me as a person?
• How will I feel?

You probably counted on some simple five-step system that you can write down on a piece of paper or study in 10 minutes. But we propose to begin with learning a lot about yourself, as well as learning how to predict the consequences. With this approach, the chances of achieving the goal will be significantly increased.

Sketch your plan

It's time to make a plan to achieve your goals. It will help you understand what obstacles you may face. It is also helpful to think about the resources you might need.

First, let's think about the obstacles. They can take many forms in the form of people, events, circumstances, fears, limited beliefs, lack of experience or knowledge. You may not prepare for everything, but remember that you always choose your reaction. Ask yourself:

• What potential obstacles might stand in my way?
• How can they hinder my progress?
• What should I do to successfully deal with them?

Resources can be represented in the form of tools, skills, knowledge, acquaintances, and more. It may take a little time to get the information you need.

Every obstacle you run into is nothing more than a challenge that can be dealt with with creative thinking, the right resources, and resourcefulness.

To learn how to plan for the future, ask yourself:

• What resources do I have?
• What resources might I need?
• How can I get them?

Remember, too, that you don't have to have all the skills and knowledge. Other people may come in handy for this. This means that you must learn to find useful connections.

Take a piece of paper and start creating a rough outline. Consider all your previous answers.

Make a plan of action

Many time management experts argue about whether the action plan should be overly detailed. Here's the answer: try both.

And best of all, create two plans at once. The first is detailed, and the second is in general terms, which only indicates the right direction. After a month, you can figure out which one is better. Or perhaps you realize that both are good and in harmony with each other.

An action plan is a step-by-step instruction on how you are going to achieve your goal. A simple example: you want to join a gym. And one attempt has already been made, but in the end they gave up after two weeks. Action plan:

1. Earn money for a subscription.
2. Get an additional job (which you can then quit to free up time).
3. Purchase several books on sports and fitness.
4. Buy a subscription and sportswear.
5. Create sports affirmations to keep your motivation at the highest level.
6. Meet like-minded people.
7. Create a new diet.

Step two: use a visualization technique​

Visualization technique helps to get a solid amount of motivation every day. Each of us was faced with the fact that, upon waking up, he has no desire to achieve his long-term goal. This state is discouraging.

Sit in a quiet place where no one can disturb you. Begin to imagine your goal. Throw yourself into the future and feel that everything worked out. How are you feeling? Who is there? What are the thoughts in your head?

Now think about the last action you took to achieve such an outstanding result. Next, move in the opposite direction: the penultimate action, and so on.

"Find yourself" in the present. Now you know how to reach your goal. Moreover, we mentally survived all the difficulties and coped with them.

Step three: create your morning schedule​

Everything is decided in the morning: it is worth giving yourself some indulgence, and in a few hours you will feel laziness of such strength that it will kill all desire and enthusiasm. Create the right mood with some repetitive actions.

Immediately after waking up

No matter how difficult it is, smile immediately. Probably nothing special will happen after this action. And this is normal, because no one promised a magic pill. But a start has been made.

Ask yourself a few good questions while lying in bed:

• What am I proud of?
• What am I happy with?
• What am I grateful for?
• What do I expect from today?
• What am I going to do today?

Drink a glass of water. This simple step will help make up for the lack of water formed overnight.

20 minutes after waking up

Practice meditation. Set aside at least 5-10 minutes for this. With this exercise, you will put your brain in order.

Take a journal and write down your goals for the day. If they are already there, just revisit. It will only cost you a few seconds, but it will allow you to tune in.

Read an inspiring book. It can be about self-development, about achieving goals, about dreams. The point of all this is to get enough motivation. Without her, it will be very unpleasant to get down to business.

Use Brian Tracy's Technique​

If everything above seems too complicated, then try something simple that you can use right now.

Brian Tracy does so much consulting work to achieve goals that you can try this technique:

1. Arouse a burning desire in yourself.
2. Trust in yourself.
3. Write down your goal.
4. Analyze your starting point.
5. Determine why you want to excel in this area.
6. Set a deadline.
7. Identify obstacles.
8. Determine what additional knowledge you may need.
9. Determine what kind of people you might need.
10. Make a plan.
11. Visualize.
12. Never give up.

Books​

If you think that the methods and tips presented in the article are not enough, there is always the opportunity to read several additional books on this topic. Reading large amounts of information helps the brain get used to (and it will resist) to the fact that very soon there will be a change. Here is a list of books to get you started. Just do not forget that the main thing is action.

• "Achievements of goals. Step-by-step system "Marilyn Atkinson, Rae T. Choyce.
• “Whole life. Key Skills to Achieve Your Goals Les Hewitt, Jack Canfield, Mark Victor Hansen.
• "This year I ..." MJ Ryan.
• How to Get Things Done by David Allen.
• "Focus. Achieving Priority Goals ”Stephen Covey.
• "52 Mondays. How to achieve any goals in a year "Vic Johnson.
• "Try it - it will work!" Seth Godin.
• The Psychology of Achievement by Heidi Grant Halsworson.
• The Habit to Achieve by Bernard Ross.