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The question "who do I want to become?" it's not too late to ask at any age. I am sure: if you do it seriously, then both the stooped teenager and the dignified adult will be confused almost equally.
The question "who do I want to become?" it's not too late to ask at any age. I am sure: if you do it seriously, then both the stooped teenager and the dignified adult will be confused almost equally. Unless the second will have a better chance of dismissing all this reasoning, a waste of time, because there is no time. And to the first, stuck in the swamp of his own insecurity; who has never received an SMS about the receipt of a salary in his life; who did not hear how for no reason they begin to turn to him for you, and sometimes by his patronymic; who did not accept sincere gratitude for some (albeit seemingly complete nonsense) result of his work; and so, the first - to brush it off if it succeeds, then only by hitting something that turns out to be more terrible than the uncomfortable itch of doubt and anxiety.
To illustrate, I will give an animated digression about the three states of matter (which, as you know, depend on temperature). Let the little child be gas. He fills any space with himself: he shouts, asks questions, is interested in the name of his uncle's grandfather; the dish his grandmother ate for breakfast; the reasons why the author of the sky chose this color for him and other significant and not very things.
The coldness of the adult world puts him in his place: I have no time, don't stick your hands here, are you a fool?
The child obediently cools down and somewhere in the first grade (plus or minus several years) humbly becomes a liquid that takes the form of a vessel in which it is located. If in his family (in the yard, at school, or somewhere) there are people who are at least interested in something, good marks will appear in his diary in the corresponding subject, and if not, then the energy will go to something more attractive to the school curriculum ...
By the 9-11 grade, the little man will harden. He will be admitted to an institute or somewhere else, where he will be imprisoned completely. The defense of the diploma is the necessary final roasting, and finally the detail is ready for service in the mechanism, the main feature of which is abstraction. World revolution, the happiness of a single people (or of all mankind), the well-being of someone's grandchildren - whatever. In order for the question "so by whom? .." to appear, one must drop out of this abstraction. It is completely incomprehensible why, but sometimes it still happens.
And then the line written by the 25-year-old forerunner of decadence, "And the years pass - all the best years!"
And how much, in fact, do you want to live? 70 - how did the ancient Greeks bequeathed? 26 - how is Lermontov? 37 - how is Pushkin?
44 - how is Chekhov? 55 - how is Brodsky? Still 70 - how is Pasternak? Or like Tolstoy - 82? I understand that, of course, God disposes, but man is a man for that, to at least assume.
The question is brewing. Deadly serious - to the point that you hear how the coolant gurgles inside the refrigerator, and the image of the future is that that pistachio is without a crack: you don't know which side to approach.
The psychologist will be surprised: what has become of the matter? Open the typology of Klimov's professions (which is compiled according to the objects of labor: "Man - man", "Man - technology", "Man - artistic image", "Man - nature", "Man - sign") or Holland (based on the division by type personalities: "Realistic", "Exploratory", "Artistic", "Social", "Entrepreneurial", "Conventional"), and the dark will clear up. No changes? Take a career guidance test, drive to a site with horoscopes, analyze ancient Greek mythology, who are you from the gods of Olympus?
I myself love typologies, but in this case they work rather with parts of the very mechanism where the details are inserted.
But what is a man to do?
Philosopher Merab Mamardashvili said "The devil plays with us when we do not think for sure." In the film Finding Bobby Fischer there is, in my opinion, an amazing episode that helps to master this idea. A teacher with a student near the chessboard. It is forbidden to touch the figures. The boy solves a problem (checkmate in four moves), peers at the location of the pieces, calculates possible combinations, and suddenly the teacher sweeps all the queens, kings and other militants to the floor. There remains a checkered piece of wood. Eight by eight. The student, using his imagination, restores the position of the pieces on the board, and then finally finds the right solution.
Come on. Shake your imagination. What will happen, say, in five years? It doesn't work outright. Let's go from the edge. What will end up there anyway? People, I guess. And what kind of people?
The dad of one of my friends, being an engineer, always asked the girls whom his son brought home, which is more: tg 45 ° or ctg (π / 4)? Few answered correctly.
One philological young lady confessed to me that if earlier she agreed to attention from any pretty representative of the opposite sex, then recently she began to ask new applicants: have they read The Divine Comedy at all?
And in a certain poetic get-together, the code word, the password, without which it was impossible to get into this circle, was the patronymic of the poet Khodasevich (and whose name not everyone will immediately remember, but in vain).
What are the people in your future? At home, at work, in a pub?
After all, as the actor, director and clown Vyacheslav Polunin remarkably remarked, “work only with those you want to hug. With those whom you don’t want to hug, nothing will work ”.
So which ones do you want? With the smart ones? With the beautiful ones? I am sure the likelihood of meeting them is directly proportional to the accuracy of the wording.
As proof, I will cite a cinematic digression. August forest. A group of tourists wanders along the path. The faces are exhausted and unhappy. Suddenly someone casually casts the word "mushrooms". Looking around and peering into the surroundings, someone notices an attentive squirrel, someone - ripe blueberries, someone - a hollow that resembles a human ear, after which everyone's gaze falls on the mushrooms. Mushrooms are everywhere; connoisseurs with expression clarify: this is white, and this is ... Having become interested, tourists stop and take out their own: who is a camera, who is a smartphone, who is a knife and a bag.
We can see only the named, which has its own name.
So why not already answer the simplest questions? What do you want to do hour after hour on weekdays? And on weekends? Which country to live in? In what city? In which House? What will your office look like? Who will your family be made of? How much do you want to earn per week? How long will the working day last? How will your weekend go? What about vacation?
While we are answering specific questions, restoring pieces on the chessboard and calculating possible combinations, many plots will disappear by themselves, while others, on the contrary, will arise. Because some specialties are incompatible with long trips, for others you need to master a foreign language, and in general it is better to study them not here, but there. About the third, you will have to learn something new - at least climb onto the job search site and see what is required of candidates for a position that fascinates you.
A clear schedule also helps: what time will you get up, what will you do, what tasks to solve, where you will visit, whom you will meet, how you will spend the evening. It would be nice to prescribe everything in as much detail as possible and not invent, not fill in the missing data with fantasies, but, for example, find them in the answers of people busy with your business, in biographical books, films (fortunately, the Internet is replete with collections a la films about journalists, films about artists, films about doctors).
The main thing is to tune in to look for answers to specific questions, to see what the life of a person who has chosen this or that path consists of. And then the specifics will win the confusion, and then, you see, you will want to build your own system. It seems to me that only it can be opposed to an abstract mechanism. What to place in it at the forefront, in what tournaments and what to fight for, what to devote your life and death to? The time will come - you will answer. Myself. But to say to yourself: “I want it to be so, and therefore it will be so” is better now. And step - like into the cool sea. One two Three!
The question "who do I want to become?" it's not too late to ask at any age. I am sure: if you do it seriously, then both the stooped teenager and the dignified adult will be confused almost equally. Unless the second will have a better chance of dismissing all this reasoning, a waste of time, because there is no time. And to the first, stuck in the swamp of his own insecurity; who has never received an SMS about the receipt of a salary in his life; who did not hear how for no reason they begin to turn to him for you, and sometimes by his patronymic; who did not accept sincere gratitude for some (albeit seemingly complete nonsense) result of his work; and so, the first - to brush it off if it succeeds, then only by hitting something that turns out to be more terrible than the uncomfortable itch of doubt and anxiety.
To illustrate, I will give an animated digression about the three states of matter (which, as you know, depend on temperature). Let the little child be gas. He fills any space with himself: he shouts, asks questions, is interested in the name of his uncle's grandfather; the dish his grandmother ate for breakfast; the reasons why the author of the sky chose this color for him and other significant and not very things.
The coldness of the adult world puts him in his place: I have no time, don't stick your hands here, are you a fool?
The child obediently cools down and somewhere in the first grade (plus or minus several years) humbly becomes a liquid that takes the form of a vessel in which it is located. If in his family (in the yard, at school, or somewhere) there are people who are at least interested in something, good marks will appear in his diary in the corresponding subject, and if not, then the energy will go to something more attractive to the school curriculum ...
By the 9-11 grade, the little man will harden. He will be admitted to an institute or somewhere else, where he will be imprisoned completely. The defense of the diploma is the necessary final roasting, and finally the detail is ready for service in the mechanism, the main feature of which is abstraction. World revolution, the happiness of a single people (or of all mankind), the well-being of someone's grandchildren - whatever. In order for the question "so by whom? .." to appear, one must drop out of this abstraction. It is completely incomprehensible why, but sometimes it still happens.
And then the line written by the 25-year-old forerunner of decadence, "And the years pass - all the best years!"
And how much, in fact, do you want to live? 70 - how did the ancient Greeks bequeathed? 26 - how is Lermontov? 37 - how is Pushkin?
44 - how is Chekhov? 55 - how is Brodsky? Still 70 - how is Pasternak? Or like Tolstoy - 82? I understand that, of course, God disposes, but man is a man for that, to at least assume.
The question is brewing. Deadly serious - to the point that you hear how the coolant gurgles inside the refrigerator, and the image of the future is that that pistachio is without a crack: you don't know which side to approach.
The psychologist will be surprised: what has become of the matter? Open the typology of Klimov's professions (which is compiled according to the objects of labor: "Man - man", "Man - technology", "Man - artistic image", "Man - nature", "Man - sign") or Holland (based on the division by type personalities: "Realistic", "Exploratory", "Artistic", "Social", "Entrepreneurial", "Conventional"), and the dark will clear up. No changes? Take a career guidance test, drive to a site with horoscopes, analyze ancient Greek mythology, who are you from the gods of Olympus?
I myself love typologies, but in this case they work rather with parts of the very mechanism where the details are inserted.
But what is a man to do?
Philosopher Merab Mamardashvili said "The devil plays with us when we do not think for sure." In the film Finding Bobby Fischer there is, in my opinion, an amazing episode that helps to master this idea. A teacher with a student near the chessboard. It is forbidden to touch the figures. The boy solves a problem (checkmate in four moves), peers at the location of the pieces, calculates possible combinations, and suddenly the teacher sweeps all the queens, kings and other militants to the floor. There remains a checkered piece of wood. Eight by eight. The student, using his imagination, restores the position of the pieces on the board, and then finally finds the right solution.
Come on. Shake your imagination. What will happen, say, in five years? It doesn't work outright. Let's go from the edge. What will end up there anyway? People, I guess. And what kind of people?
The dad of one of my friends, being an engineer, always asked the girls whom his son brought home, which is more: tg 45 ° or ctg (π / 4)? Few answered correctly.
One philological young lady confessed to me that if earlier she agreed to attention from any pretty representative of the opposite sex, then recently she began to ask new applicants: have they read The Divine Comedy at all?
And in a certain poetic get-together, the code word, the password, without which it was impossible to get into this circle, was the patronymic of the poet Khodasevich (and whose name not everyone will immediately remember, but in vain).
What are the people in your future? At home, at work, in a pub?
After all, as the actor, director and clown Vyacheslav Polunin remarkably remarked, “work only with those you want to hug. With those whom you don’t want to hug, nothing will work ”.
So which ones do you want? With the smart ones? With the beautiful ones? I am sure the likelihood of meeting them is directly proportional to the accuracy of the wording.
As proof, I will cite a cinematic digression. August forest. A group of tourists wanders along the path. The faces are exhausted and unhappy. Suddenly someone casually casts the word "mushrooms". Looking around and peering into the surroundings, someone notices an attentive squirrel, someone - ripe blueberries, someone - a hollow that resembles a human ear, after which everyone's gaze falls on the mushrooms. Mushrooms are everywhere; connoisseurs with expression clarify: this is white, and this is ... Having become interested, tourists stop and take out their own: who is a camera, who is a smartphone, who is a knife and a bag.
We can see only the named, which has its own name.
So why not already answer the simplest questions? What do you want to do hour after hour on weekdays? And on weekends? Which country to live in? In what city? In which House? What will your office look like? Who will your family be made of? How much do you want to earn per week? How long will the working day last? How will your weekend go? What about vacation?
While we are answering specific questions, restoring pieces on the chessboard and calculating possible combinations, many plots will disappear by themselves, while others, on the contrary, will arise. Because some specialties are incompatible with long trips, for others you need to master a foreign language, and in general it is better to study them not here, but there. About the third, you will have to learn something new - at least climb onto the job search site and see what is required of candidates for a position that fascinates you.
A clear schedule also helps: what time will you get up, what will you do, what tasks to solve, where you will visit, whom you will meet, how you will spend the evening. It would be nice to prescribe everything in as much detail as possible and not invent, not fill in the missing data with fantasies, but, for example, find them in the answers of people busy with your business, in biographical books, films (fortunately, the Internet is replete with collections a la films about journalists, films about artists, films about doctors).
The main thing is to tune in to look for answers to specific questions, to see what the life of a person who has chosen this or that path consists of. And then the specifics will win the confusion, and then, you see, you will want to build your own system. It seems to me that only it can be opposed to an abstract mechanism. What to place in it at the forefront, in what tournaments and what to fight for, what to devote your life and death to? The time will come - you will answer. Myself. But to say to yourself: “I want it to be so, and therefore it will be so” is better now. And step - like into the cool sea. One two Three!
