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Since childhood, our parents have tried to instill in us the awareness of the fact that a person should always tell the truth. This is also what the proverbial Bible teaches us, which states in black and white in one of the commandments that lying is a great sin.
Folk wisdom does not lag behind God's and parents instructions. The sayings "Once you lie, who will believe you", "Better a bitter truth than a sweet lie" and similar ones have been going around the world for hundreds of years, being supplemented and somewhat transformed, but their essence does not change from this.
And it is not strange, because the essence is the same and it is painfully banal - it is not good to lie. Because they'll call you a liar later, because they won't believe you anymore, because it's a sin ... and because if you think about it carefully, there will be dozens of them.
And it is worth admitting that neither the representatives of the older generation, nor the holy scriptures, nor the people are wrong, and every sane person understands this perfectly well.
As Dr. House said from the TV series of the same name: "Everyone lies" - and as sad as it is to realize, he is absolutely right. I myself have repeatedly lied to people and I must admit I did it quite successfully (that's all, I will lick hot pans in hell). And all the people who surround me and meet me, I am convinced, have lied repeatedly. And even you, dear reader, have done this ignoble deed, and you will do it again and again. It doesn't matter what your reasons are, or what your excuses are.
You will lie because you need to lie, and also do it very convincingly, so that the interlocutor does not have even a little doubt about your dishonesty.
I present to your attention seven effective proven (I have already mentioned that I myself am quite good at lying) tips that will help transform the most desperate lies into the truth.
Folk wisdom does not lag behind God's and parents instructions. The sayings "Once you lie, who will believe you", "Better a bitter truth than a sweet lie" and similar ones have been going around the world for hundreds of years, being supplemented and somewhat transformed, but their essence does not change from this.
And it is not strange, because the essence is the same and it is painfully banal - it is not good to lie. Because they'll call you a liar later, because they won't believe you anymore, because it's a sin ... and because if you think about it carefully, there will be dozens of them.
And it is worth admitting that neither the representatives of the older generation, nor the holy scriptures, nor the people are wrong, and every sane person understands this perfectly well.
As Dr. House said from the TV series of the same name: "Everyone lies" - and as sad as it is to realize, he is absolutely right. I myself have repeatedly lied to people and I must admit I did it quite successfully (that's all, I will lick hot pans in hell). And all the people who surround me and meet me, I am convinced, have lied repeatedly. And even you, dear reader, have done this ignoble deed, and you will do it again and again. It doesn't matter what your reasons are, or what your excuses are.
You will lie because you need to lie, and also do it very convincingly, so that the interlocutor does not have even a little doubt about your dishonesty.
I present to your attention seven effective proven (I have already mentioned that I myself am quite good at lying) tips that will help transform the most desperate lies into the truth.
- Think through the details. Convincing lies are those who have previously thought out the storyline of their story in detail. In order not to get confused in your own lies, you can write off the details of the story from real prototypes. For example, if you need to describe a non – existent person, copy their portrait from a real character-your friend or distant relative, so as not to get confused in the details if you suddenly have to repeat the above.
- For the time being, believe your own lies. The human brain is designed in such a way that it can really be deceived. And autosuggestion plays a significant role in this process. Naturally, self-deception is a temporary thing, and our consciousness is able to distinguish grain from chaff, but it is quite possible to program it and for a certain period of time you must believe your own lies yourself, then it will be much easier to convince the other person in it and not be afraid of being discovered.
- Control your gestures. Of course, not every average citizen knows that certain gestures can give away a person who is telling a lie. And he certainly can't know exactly what these gestures are. But still, there is a risk of getting caught by a person who is savvy in this matter. In addition, some interlocutors, especially people with developed intuition, are able to subconsciously detect an imbalance between the speech and movements of a person who is telling a lie.
- Watch the movement and direction of your eyes. I think it's a lie that the person who's lying to you can't look you in the eye. Believe me, he can, and if he really wants you to believe him, then eye contact is not a problem. But the trick is that the liar does not look you in the eyes, but at a certain point, right above the eyes or as if through (spreading his gaze) and you only think that the person is drilling you with his gaze.
- For victims: Do you know why liars look you in the eye? This is how they try to define the line of how much more they need to say or not say to make you believe. Even a lie has its own measure. When there is too much of it, it will always overflow the bowl of truth.
- Don't smile. If the insincerity of words can still not be noticed, then almost everyone can distinguish a strained smile from a sincere and sincere one. A real smile is displayed both on the lips and in the eyes, while a fake one is displayed only on the lips, and even then they look tense.
- Remember what you've said. If you have already decided to lie, you need to play the role to the end. And to stay convincing, always remember in detail what exactly you lied to whom. Yes, this is not easy, so good liars usually have a very good memory, which, in turn, also needs to be developed.
- Control your intonation. Remember that what is said loudly is usually more convincing. Uncertainty, shyness, and lowering your tone can cause doubts about your veracity. And yet, sometimes a lie told under the guise of a lie (that's right, I'm still in my right mind) is perfectly perceived by people. You can smile or change your tone of voice so that it clearly looks like you lied, and that the person understands it. In this case, even if the lie is not hidden, the other person may take it for the truth just because he saw that you are not hiding anything.
