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20 is an exciting age when you can do a lot, but you are still vulnerable. The first serious work, starting a business, owning a family - so much new things happen during this period between 20 and 30 years. Your happiness in the future directly depends on how you will live during this period, and here are some tips on how not to miss it.
1. Accept that people change.
This means that your friends will change, and you will change. So do not be surprised if your views or even life paths diverge - each has its own path.
You may suffer, you may be betrayed, or you will. So just go along with it without trying to pull on what's already over. If your roads diverge, just let go.
2. Give yourself a chance to fall in love
Serious relationships can be intimidating, because they threaten freedom, but does this really mean that you refuse to experience bright and fresh feelings?
Don't think about the past, don't think about the future. Just let yourself fall in love and get it out of your head by living a normal, interesting life. Falling in love will definitely come to you.
3. Don't pull poisonous relationships
If you see that a real relationship is killing you, constantly spoiling your mood and bringing nothing, it's time to end it, even if you are afraid of loneliness. Life is not as long as it seems at 20, and the sooner you get rid of what you have now, the more time you can spend with those people who will really be dear to you.
4. Hang out less
Sure, alcohol, a bunch of friends and loud music seems like a concentration of fun, but it gets boring quickly. There are so many different activities, interesting and unusual events in life that it is simply stupid to spend all weekend on constant parties according to the same scenario.
Plus, if you spend all your money in clubs, you will never have enough for other entertainment.
5. Find your passion
Every person, even the most unrepentant nihilist, needs a purpose in life, some meaning. This is how we are made. But the real goal is drawn only by what really impresses you, insanely pleases and fascinates you.
When a person has such a passion, it shows him the direction in life, supports him in difficult times. In my opinion, it is worth bothering for the sake of such advantages.
6. You are not your job.
If you've found your passion and made it your job, skip this step and move on to the next. If this is not the case, and work for you is just a stable income and a way to earn money in order to pursue your passion, you should not associate yourself with it.
Whatever your boss and senior staff say, don't change your personality in order to take a warm place or be respected. You're just going to kill yourself for money and prestige, are they worth it?
7. Travel
The most enjoyable and rewarding way to entertain yourself in your 20s and older. Travel as much as possible, whenever time and money permits. By the way, if you listen to point # 4, there will be more money left for travel, and you can go wherever your heart desires.
Many people think that traveling requires a lot of time and a lot of money, but this is not always the case. A little savings, cheap flights, last minute tours - if you have a dream of tourism, it will surely come true this year.
If finances are a little tough, you can go on a trip around your home country - how many beautiful places there are in which absolutely everything is different from your hometown, from nature to people.
When you see how huge the world is, and how many people live in it, who live in completely different ways, it will give you self-confidence and belief that you are living right (because there is no “wrong” as such).
8. Chat with your interests
Communicate only with those with whom you feel good. If you still have school pens about "cool" people, throw them in the nearest trash heap. The joy of communication is one of the greatest pleasures in life, so you should not destroy it with stereotypes.
9. Start a business now
If you have an idea that will change the world, start your own business right now. At this age, people have almost no experience, but they have passion and creativity, a desire for innovation and a belief that something can be changed in the world. There is no time to waste.
Even if you burn out, the experience is invaluable. As some American billionaire said, the first time you need to burn out before thirty.
10. Listen to yourself
For most of your life, all your childhood and adolescence, you listened to someone else: parents, teachers, senior comrades, first bosses. Now that you've gained some personal experience, it's time to start trusting him.
Stop looking back at others and wondering what they will say. Your experience will never lie to you, it is always true. Someone says it was fun and you were bored. It means that it was boring and this is the only truth, because your world is only what you feel and see. Now is the time to become yourself.
11. Success does not bring happiness
Happiness leads to success, not the other way around. This tip is probably the most important one, and it applies to everyone else. If you work in an unloved job for the sake of success and respect, thinking that having suffered now, you will get happiness, you are mistaken - there will be no happiness. There will be a short-term burst of pleasure, scratching behind the ear of your ego and new torment.
The greatest success in life can be considered the fact that you lived it happily.
So, to find out if you are a successful person, you just have to ask yourself: "Am I happy?" If not, seek and try, learn new things and strive for what the soul lies with.
1. Accept that people change.
This means that your friends will change, and you will change. So do not be surprised if your views or even life paths diverge - each has its own path.
You may suffer, you may be betrayed, or you will. So just go along with it without trying to pull on what's already over. If your roads diverge, just let go.
2. Give yourself a chance to fall in love
Serious relationships can be intimidating, because they threaten freedom, but does this really mean that you refuse to experience bright and fresh feelings?
Don't think about the past, don't think about the future. Just let yourself fall in love and get it out of your head by living a normal, interesting life. Falling in love will definitely come to you.
3. Don't pull poisonous relationships
If you see that a real relationship is killing you, constantly spoiling your mood and bringing nothing, it's time to end it, even if you are afraid of loneliness. Life is not as long as it seems at 20, and the sooner you get rid of what you have now, the more time you can spend with those people who will really be dear to you.
4. Hang out less
Sure, alcohol, a bunch of friends and loud music seems like a concentration of fun, but it gets boring quickly. There are so many different activities, interesting and unusual events in life that it is simply stupid to spend all weekend on constant parties according to the same scenario.
Plus, if you spend all your money in clubs, you will never have enough for other entertainment.
5. Find your passion
Every person, even the most unrepentant nihilist, needs a purpose in life, some meaning. This is how we are made. But the real goal is drawn only by what really impresses you, insanely pleases and fascinates you.
When a person has such a passion, it shows him the direction in life, supports him in difficult times. In my opinion, it is worth bothering for the sake of such advantages.
6. You are not your job.
If you've found your passion and made it your job, skip this step and move on to the next. If this is not the case, and work for you is just a stable income and a way to earn money in order to pursue your passion, you should not associate yourself with it.
Whatever your boss and senior staff say, don't change your personality in order to take a warm place or be respected. You're just going to kill yourself for money and prestige, are they worth it?
7. Travel
The most enjoyable and rewarding way to entertain yourself in your 20s and older. Travel as much as possible, whenever time and money permits. By the way, if you listen to point # 4, there will be more money left for travel, and you can go wherever your heart desires.
Many people think that traveling requires a lot of time and a lot of money, but this is not always the case. A little savings, cheap flights, last minute tours - if you have a dream of tourism, it will surely come true this year.
If finances are a little tough, you can go on a trip around your home country - how many beautiful places there are in which absolutely everything is different from your hometown, from nature to people.
When you see how huge the world is, and how many people live in it, who live in completely different ways, it will give you self-confidence and belief that you are living right (because there is no “wrong” as such).
8. Chat with your interests
Communicate only with those with whom you feel good. If you still have school pens about "cool" people, throw them in the nearest trash heap. The joy of communication is one of the greatest pleasures in life, so you should not destroy it with stereotypes.
9. Start a business now
If you have an idea that will change the world, start your own business right now. At this age, people have almost no experience, but they have passion and creativity, a desire for innovation and a belief that something can be changed in the world. There is no time to waste.
Even if you burn out, the experience is invaluable. As some American billionaire said, the first time you need to burn out before thirty.
10. Listen to yourself
For most of your life, all your childhood and adolescence, you listened to someone else: parents, teachers, senior comrades, first bosses. Now that you've gained some personal experience, it's time to start trusting him.
Stop looking back at others and wondering what they will say. Your experience will never lie to you, it is always true. Someone says it was fun and you were bored. It means that it was boring and this is the only truth, because your world is only what you feel and see. Now is the time to become yourself.
11. Success does not bring happiness
Happiness leads to success, not the other way around. This tip is probably the most important one, and it applies to everyone else. If you work in an unloved job for the sake of success and respect, thinking that having suffered now, you will get happiness, you are mistaken - there will be no happiness. There will be a short-term burst of pleasure, scratching behind the ear of your ego and new torment.
The greatest success in life can be considered the fact that you lived it happily.
So, to find out if you are a successful person, you just have to ask yourself: "Am I happy?" If not, seek and try, learn new things and strive for what the soul lies with.
