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I will be frank with you. In this article I will tell you about a mistake that I, in my life, made about twenty billion times. These are rough estimates. The error is plus or minus one hundred thousand times.
Most of the time, I didn’t achieve my personal goals. Halfway through, I lost interest and turned off the road. It was a rake that I stepped on over and over again. Each time I was surprised at the bruises on my forehead, but my mind did not become any more.
I was completely unaware of the ineffective behavior that prevented me from completing what I started. And so it was for many years. Until I conducted myself a session of psychotechnics, which is called Pure Space.
During the session, I discovered an unconscious stereotypical behavior that nullified all my endeavors. A little later, I noticed that this behavior is typical for most people.
I will not speak for everyone. There are people who are well aware of this error and act correctly. And they pursue personal goals. They finish what they started.
“Everyone has personal goals”
Lose weight. Learn English. Create a computer game. Learn to play guitar. To go to gym. Write a book. Run every morning. Master the blind typing method. Travel. Photograph. Start business. Produce podcasts or have a personal blog.
All of the above relates to the area of personal goals.
Every time I set a new personal goal, I shared this news with friends, parents, and work colleagues. I told them I was going to do this and that. Or he said that he had already started doing it.
"By the way, I'm going to write a novel"
"My friends and I are writing a computer game"
"I'm going to start my own business"
When I announced my intentions, in 95% of cases, I did not finish what I started. The goal ceased to be desired or the path to it turned out to be long and did not bring joy.
Also, I noticed that I often achieved goals that I did not tell anyone about.
"Interesting experiment"
I decided to search the Internet and it turned out that I rediscovered America! German psychology professor Peter Gollwitzer has been studying this phenomenon for over 15 years. He once conducted an interesting experiment.
As experimental mice, Gollwitzer selected a group of law students. The purpose of the experiment: to find out whether public statements about their intentions affect the achievement of personal goals.
To do this, Gollwitzer compiled a list of statements like: “I am going to take as much as possible from legal education,” “I am going to become a successful lawyer,” and so on. Students had to rate each of the statements on a scale from “Strongly agree” to “Strongly disagree”.
The survey was conducted anonymously. If desired, you could write your name. Also, in the questionnaires, students were asked to list three specific things they are going to do in order to become a successful lawyer.
Typical responses were “I intend to read legal periodicals regularly” or something like that.
When the students submitted the questionnaires, Peter Gollwitzer found that most of the students answered the questions and signed their names. Some did not complete the questionnaires at all and kept their intentions a secret.
"Those who have kept their intentions a secret ..."
The students did not suspect that their intentions would be tested in practice. They handed in their profiles and forgot about it. But the researchers, led by Peter Gollwitzer, are up to something ...
Psychologists waited some time, and then artificially created a situation to test the respondents “for lice.” They asked students to help them in a project that required the analysis of twenty criminal cases.
The students were told that they should work as hard as they can. At the same time, everyone has the right to “score” for help and leave at any time.
The criminal cases were not easy. They demanded that the brains be turned on to the fullest and perseverance.
The results of the experiment were unambiguous. Everyone who publicly announced their intentions for the future in the questionnaire has “merged” from work. They shied away from achieving their goal. And this despite the dedication to the idea of building a career in the field of jurisprudence!
Only those who kept their hopes to themselves were able to really do the hard work and get what they started to finish.
"Why do people tell others about their intentions?"
Gollwitzer believes it has to do with a sense of identity and wholeness.
We all want to be perfect people. But declaring our intentions to work hard and hard is often a purely symbolic act. It just helps us to define ourselves with our role. For example: “I am a lawyer”, “I am a writer”, “I am a photographer”, “I am a programmer”.
But the insatiable Peter Gollwitzer did another experiment to further convince himself that he was right.
The students were shown five photographs of the Supreme Court. The photographs differed in size. Very small to very large. The subjects were asked, "How do you feel like a great lawyer now?"
Subjects were asked to rate their coolness and answer the question by choosing one of five photographs. The larger the photo you choose, the more complete you will feel.
No one was surprised when students who had previously stated their goals and failed in practice were inclined to choose a larger photo. Even just announcing their plans to become a good lawyer made them feel like they were already good lawyers.
This increased their egos, paradoxically reducing their ability to do hard work. They became legends in their imaginations. And legends don't do dusty and dirty work
Most of the time, I didn’t achieve my personal goals. Halfway through, I lost interest and turned off the road. It was a rake that I stepped on over and over again. Each time I was surprised at the bruises on my forehead, but my mind did not become any more.
I was completely unaware of the ineffective behavior that prevented me from completing what I started. And so it was for many years. Until I conducted myself a session of psychotechnics, which is called Pure Space.
During the session, I discovered an unconscious stereotypical behavior that nullified all my endeavors. A little later, I noticed that this behavior is typical for most people.
I will not speak for everyone. There are people who are well aware of this error and act correctly. And they pursue personal goals. They finish what they started.
“Everyone has personal goals”
Lose weight. Learn English. Create a computer game. Learn to play guitar. To go to gym. Write a book. Run every morning. Master the blind typing method. Travel. Photograph. Start business. Produce podcasts or have a personal blog.
All of the above relates to the area of personal goals.
Every time I set a new personal goal, I shared this news with friends, parents, and work colleagues. I told them I was going to do this and that. Or he said that he had already started doing it.
"By the way, I'm going to write a novel"
"My friends and I are writing a computer game"
"I'm going to start my own business"
When I announced my intentions, in 95% of cases, I did not finish what I started. The goal ceased to be desired or the path to it turned out to be long and did not bring joy.
Also, I noticed that I often achieved goals that I did not tell anyone about.
"Interesting experiment"
I decided to search the Internet and it turned out that I rediscovered America! German psychology professor Peter Gollwitzer has been studying this phenomenon for over 15 years. He once conducted an interesting experiment.
As experimental mice, Gollwitzer selected a group of law students. The purpose of the experiment: to find out whether public statements about their intentions affect the achievement of personal goals.
To do this, Gollwitzer compiled a list of statements like: “I am going to take as much as possible from legal education,” “I am going to become a successful lawyer,” and so on. Students had to rate each of the statements on a scale from “Strongly agree” to “Strongly disagree”.
The survey was conducted anonymously. If desired, you could write your name. Also, in the questionnaires, students were asked to list three specific things they are going to do in order to become a successful lawyer.
Typical responses were “I intend to read legal periodicals regularly” or something like that.
When the students submitted the questionnaires, Peter Gollwitzer found that most of the students answered the questions and signed their names. Some did not complete the questionnaires at all and kept their intentions a secret.
"Those who have kept their intentions a secret ..."
The students did not suspect that their intentions would be tested in practice. They handed in their profiles and forgot about it. But the researchers, led by Peter Gollwitzer, are up to something ...
Psychologists waited some time, and then artificially created a situation to test the respondents “for lice.” They asked students to help them in a project that required the analysis of twenty criminal cases.
The students were told that they should work as hard as they can. At the same time, everyone has the right to “score” for help and leave at any time.
The criminal cases were not easy. They demanded that the brains be turned on to the fullest and perseverance.
The results of the experiment were unambiguous. Everyone who publicly announced their intentions for the future in the questionnaire has “merged” from work. They shied away from achieving their goal. And this despite the dedication to the idea of building a career in the field of jurisprudence!
Only those who kept their hopes to themselves were able to really do the hard work and get what they started to finish.
"Why do people tell others about their intentions?"
Gollwitzer believes it has to do with a sense of identity and wholeness.
We all want to be perfect people. But declaring our intentions to work hard and hard is often a purely symbolic act. It just helps us to define ourselves with our role. For example: “I am a lawyer”, “I am a writer”, “I am a photographer”, “I am a programmer”.
But the insatiable Peter Gollwitzer did another experiment to further convince himself that he was right.
The students were shown five photographs of the Supreme Court. The photographs differed in size. Very small to very large. The subjects were asked, "How do you feel like a great lawyer now?"
Subjects were asked to rate their coolness and answer the question by choosing one of five photographs. The larger the photo you choose, the more complete you will feel.
No one was surprised when students who had previously stated their goals and failed in practice were inclined to choose a larger photo. Even just announcing their plans to become a good lawyer made them feel like they were already good lawyers.
This increased their egos, paradoxically reducing their ability to do hard work. They became legends in their imaginations. And legends don't do dusty and dirty work
