What is an NLP imprint?

[Teacher]

What is an NLP imprint and a few specific examples of how an imprint manifests itself in a person's life. (Educational program of NLP)

In the literature on NLP such words are often found - "imprinting", "imprinting-ing" and, accordingly - "re-imprinting". What does this all mean?

Let's figure it out - the topic is very interesting ...

The term imprint came to the science of psychology after Konrad Lorenz's experiments with newborn ducklings ...

Here is how it was. Konrad Lorenz observed one-day-old ducks that had just hatched from an egg. As the scientist found out, on the very first day of their life, young ducks were absorbed in one thing - finding their mother, whom they would follow. Or, more precisely, by the search for a “mother's image”.

It also turned out that in order to isolate "their mother" from the surrounding world, the ducklings were looking for only one thing: the one who MOVED.

All the mother duck had to do (according to the day-old ducklings) was to move.

Therefore, the very first moving object they saw in their young life, they took for a mother and no longer cheated on him.

On the second day, the "mother's imprint" for the ducks was completed. And when they were shown their real mother duck, they remained indifferent to her ...

Some of the hatched ducklings saw their mother in the scientist himself - Konrad Lorenz and followed him around the yard ...

As an experiment, one duckling was slipped the next moving object - an inflated balloon ...

And now comes the fun part ...

When this duckling grew up and turned into an adult drake, he began to look for a "girlfriend" to create a duck pair. But he was not interested in ducks - he made attempts to get acquainted exclusively with all kinds of round objects - which reminded him of the balloon of his childhood ...

Such is the sad story ...

After analyzing this story, scientists made the following conclusion: the mother's imprint is also transferred to her friend.

Everything that is relevant for the behavior of ducks turned out to be relevant for people as well - in terms of the formation of an imprint.

Now let's move on to people.

First, let's give a scientific (NLPish) definition of what

what is an imprint.

An imprint is the experience of the past, which is of paramount importance for a person and forms in him a set of certain “beliefs”.

The imprint manifests itself in the fact that a person begins to engage in unconscious role modeling (or simplifying: stupidly copies behavior in certain situations) of people who were significant to him in a past situation.

And now I will bring

a few specific examples (or scenarios) of how an imprint manifests itself in a person's life.

Example (scenario) First: “Stunned! Give - two! "

As a child, the father used to assault (or was simply rude) towards his daughter or towards her mother - towards his wife.

What imprint does a daughter receive when she grows up and becomes relevant for her - finding a partner?

This young woman will develop the best relationships only with those men who will treat her roughly, show strong aggression towards her.

She will “look out” from the crowd of men only those who (in her opinion) are capable of aggression towards her.

By her persistent provocative behavior, this young woman will “breed” a non-aggressive partner to aggression - and if she achieves her goal, she will experience pleasure and, possibly, “love” him, having discovered a “man” in him ...

Poet-bard Elena Bushueva described a woman with such an imprint incredibly accurately in her song:

I see my destiny - to jump on the lion's back
And drag by the tail and ruffle by the mane
And look in the eyes and scratch behind the ear
You are all about the game. Good toys!

Where to play here - when a full exhalation
When every day is full of grievances
When the sky suddenly stopped dreaming
Oh, God forbid you to marry me.

You would have to become a terrible filibuster
Get me out of forgotten towers
Rescue me from passing ships
Lead me away from my minute friends.

Wean me off cheap boredom
Getting me from someone else's arms
And look for me in big hotels
Get me out of other people's beds

And slap me on the cheeks shameless
My eyes are genuinely red
And scare me with a filibuster word
And love me every hour - again ...

Example (scenario) Two: Identification with the aggressor

We have analyzed the imprint of the boy-girl relationship. There is one more model: "Parent - child".

The girl's mother was aggressive towards her daughter in her childhood ... What does a daughter do when she grows up, has a child and starts playing the "raising a child" scenario?

No matter how self-educated and self-educated she is, unfortunately, the grown daughter, becoming a mother herself, begins to play the deep role models of these relationships.

She begins to treat her child rudely, she hates herself for this behavior and she cannot understand why she is doing this!

In a situation similar to the iprint, people tend to copy the behavior of their offenders, that is, only those offenders who seemed to them SIGNIFICANT PEOPLE in a similar story.

This is the famous - Generic Scenario. You can jump out of it. People "jumped out" of such a bad infinity, even before the era of NLP (in particular) and psychotherapy (in general).

Many, feeling that they are obsessed with the imprint of the "formidable father", do not have partners who can be "brought" to marriage. Why would they be beaten with a frying pan? They perfectly understand their fate.

Many, feeling that they are obsessed with the "crazy mother dog" imprint, do not have children. Why would they want their children to be beaten with a frying pan?

Many decide to have both spouses and children, but they try their best to control themselves and feel at the celebration of life like an alcoholic who is stuck but not sewn up at a friendly banquet with an abundance of vodka ...

And only a few decide to turn to special psychological literature (or to live and highly professional specialists) to be taught "to drink, but not get drunk and not go into a two-month binge after the first drink ..."

Two more specific examples of imprint manifestation in human life. Both examples are united by the fact that adults retain a kind of "loyalty to the family", because other scenarios are "how to live?" their subconscious simply does not ...

Fidelity to Rod: Social Career Imprint

Psychologists often cite an example of how people from the "lower social classes" cannot

a) still get a diploma of higher education,

b) take a leadership position,

c) allow yourself to make a lot of money

solely because their parents and their parents' parents did not have it all.

To "jump out" beyond the generic scenario for them is tantamount to "betraying their ancestors" and finding themselves without a compass in the vastness of the ocean.

It's like the song says:

“I consider myself an urban now,

Here is my work, here are my friends.

But I still dream of the village at night.

My homeland does not want to let me go ”.

This imprint is not observed in all cases. It arises only when children receive a constant unspoken message from their parents: “They (those with education, money, bosses) are bad,“ not our ”people” ...

If parents sincerely and with all their might push their children "into the people", having no claims to the world of those who have what they do not have, then the children will not have the imprint "I have no right to be better than my ancestors. "..

Fidelity to Rod: Imprint of Diseases

But this story is worse ... And by the way, only such a story could have prompted psychotherapists to think - how to help people, how to get them out of their own "Ferris wheel"?

It was the great NLPist, Robert Dilts, who did psychotherapy with his own mother when she was sick with cancer.

Robert Dilts's mother had a classic imprint in her subconscious: "How can I be better than all those people who serve as my model and are my spiritual mentors?"

The imprint was complicated by the fact that her own mother and her own older sister (respectively, the grandmother and aunt of Robert Dilts) suffered from oncology and died of oncology ...

When did the imprint take effect, when the woman fell ill?

And this happened just at the very moment when she found herself in a situation "without a compass on the high seas" ...

Her five children grew up and the last - the youngest son, left home. The woman was left alone, she could no longer live in the archetype of a "caring mother" and she had nothing to do. To put it simply, she lost her identity, which she had long been associated only with the role of a "caring mother" ...

And then her ancestors "found" an "occupation" for her ...

Robert Dilts worked long and unsuccessfully with his mother, until finally a brilliant phrase came to him. I'll quote it exactly:

“Instead of looking into the past and seeing your mother and sister there, to find out your identity and how you should be, turn to the future - to your daughter, who is also looking at you to find out how to be her!”

That line drove the generic script out of Dilts's mother's head once and for all. She “made a decision” that it was on her that this bad infinity would end, so that it would be better for her children ...

In this subsequent phrase, generations of psychotherapists and their patients draw a resource in order to destroy their imprint.

This is reimprinting. What is an NLP imprint and a few specific examples of how an imprint manifests itself in a person's life. (Educational program of NLP)

In the literature on NLP such words are often found - "imprinting", "imprinting-ing" and, accordingly - "re-imprinting". What does this all mean?

Let's figure it out - the topic is very interesting ...

The term imprint came to the science of psychology after Konrad Lorenz's experiments with newborn ducklings ...

Here is how it was. Konrad Lorenz observed one-day-old ducks that had just hatched from an egg. As the scientist found out, on the very first day of their life, young ducks were absorbed in one thing - finding their mother, whom they would follow. Or, more precisely, by the search for a “mother's image”.

It also turned out that in order to isolate "their mother" from the surrounding world, the ducklings were looking for only one thing: the one who MOVED.

All the mother duck had to do (according to the day-old ducklings) was to move.

Therefore, the very first moving object they saw in their young life, they took for a mother and no longer cheated on him.

On the second day, the "mother's imprint" for the ducks was completed. And when they were shown their real mother duck, they remained indifferent to her ...

Some of the hatched ducklings saw their mother in the scientist himself - Konrad Lorenz and followed him around the yard ...

As an experiment, one duckling was slipped the next moving object - an inflated balloon ...

And now comes the fun part ...

When this duckling grew up and turned into an adult drake, he began to look for a "girlfriend" to create a duck pair. But he was not interested in ducks - he made attempts to get acquainted exclusively with all kinds of round objects - which reminded him of the balloon of his childhood ...

Such is the sad story ...

After analyzing this story, scientists made the following conclusion: the mother's imprint is also transferred to her friend.

Everything that is relevant for the behavior of ducks turned out to be relevant for people as well - in terms of the formation of an imprint.

Now let's move on to people.

First, let's give a scientific (NLPish) definition of what

what is an imprint.

An imprint is the experience of the past, which is of paramount importance for a person and forms in him a set of certain “beliefs”.

The imprint manifests itself in the fact that a person begins to engage in unconscious role modeling (or simplifying: stupidly copies behavior in certain situations) of people who were significant to him in a past situation.

And now I will bring

a few specific examples (or scenarios) of how an imprint manifests itself in a person's life.

Example (scenario) First: “Stunned! Give - two! "

As a child, the father used to assault (or was simply rude) towards his daughter or towards her mother - towards his wife.

What imprint does a daughter receive when she grows up and becomes relevant for her - finding a partner?

This young woman will develop the best relationships only with those men who will treat her roughly, show strong aggression towards her.

She will “look out” from the crowd of men only those who (in her opinion) are capable of aggression towards her.

By her persistent provocative behavior, this young woman will “breed” a non-aggressive partner to aggression - and if she achieves her goal, she will experience pleasure and, possibly, “love” him, having discovered a “man” in him ...

Poet-bard Elena Bushueva described a woman with such an imprint incredibly accurately in her song:

I see my destiny - to jump on the lion's back
And drag by the tail and ruffle by the mane
And look in the eyes and scratch behind the ear
You are all about the game. Good toys!

Where to play here - when a full exhalation
When every day is full of grievances
When the sky suddenly stopped dreaming
Oh, God forbid you to marry me.

You would have to become a terrible filibuster
Get me out of forgotten towers
Rescue me from passing ships
Lead me away from my minute friends.

Wean me off cheap boredom
Getting me from someone else's arms
And look for me in big hotels
Get me out of other people's beds

And slap me on the cheeks shameless
My eyes are genuinely red
And scare me with a filibuster word
And love me every hour - again ...

Example (scenario) Two: Identification with the aggressor

We have analyzed the imprint of the boy-girl relationship. There is one more model: "Parent - child".

The girl's mother was aggressive towards her daughter in her childhood ... What does a daughter do when she grows up, has a child and starts playing the "raising a child" scenario?

No matter how self-educated and self-educated she is, unfortunately, the grown daughter, becoming a mother herself, begins to play the deep role models of these relationships.

She begins to treat her child rudely, she hates herself for this behavior and she cannot understand why she is doing this!

In a situation similar to the iprint, people tend to copy the behavior of their offenders, that is, only those offenders who seemed to them SIGNIFICANT PEOPLE in a similar story.

This is the famous - Generic Scenario. You can jump out of it. People "jumped out" of such a bad infinity, even before the era of NLP (in particular) and psychotherapy (in general).

Many, feeling that they are obsessed with the imprint of the "formidable father", do not have partners who can be "brought" to marriage. Why would they be beaten with a frying pan? They perfectly understand their fate.

Many, feeling that they are obsessed with the "crazy mother dog" imprint, do not have children. Why would they want their children to be beaten with a frying pan?

Many decide to have both spouses and children, but they try their best to control themselves and feel at the celebration of life like an alcoholic who is stuck but not sewn up at a friendly banquet with an abundance of vodka ...

And only a few decide to turn to special psychological literature (or to live and highly professional specialists) to be taught "to drink, but not get drunk and not go into a two-month binge after the first drink ..."

Two more specific examples of imprint manifestation in human life. Both examples are united by the fact that adults retain a kind of "loyalty to the family", because other scenarios are "how to live?" their subconscious simply does not ...

Fidelity to Rod: Social Career Imprint

Psychologists often cite an example of how people from the "lower social classes" cannot

a) still get a diploma of higher education,

b) take a leadership position,

c) allow yourself to make a lot of money

solely because their parents and their parents' parents did not have it all.

To "jump out" beyond the generic scenario for them is tantamount to "betraying their ancestors" and finding themselves without a compass in the vastness of the ocean.

It's like the song says:

“I consider myself an urban now,

Here is my work, here are my friends.

But I still dream of the village at night.

My homeland does not want to let me go ”.

This imprint is not observed in all cases. It arises only when children receive a constant unspoken message from their parents: “They (those with education, money, bosses) are bad,“ not our ”people” ...

If parents sincerely and with all their might push their children "into the people", having no claims to the world of those who have what they do not have, then the children will not have the imprint "I have no right to be better than my ancestors." ..

Fidelity to Rod: Imprint of Diseases

But this story is worse ... And by the way, only such a story could have prompted psychotherapists to think - how to help people, how to get them out of their own "Ferris wheel"?

It was the great NLPist, Robert Dilts, who did psychotherapy with his own mother when she was sick with cancer.

Robert Dilts's mother had a classic imprint in her subconscious: "How can I be better than all those people who serve as my model and are my spiritual mentors?"

The imprint was complicated by the fact that her own mother and her own older sister (respectively, the grandmother and aunt of Robert Dilts) suffered from oncology and died of oncology ...

When did the imprint take effect, when the woman fell ill?

And this happened just at the very moment when she found herself in a situation "without a compass on the high seas" ...

Her five children grew up and the last - the youngest son, left home. The woman was left alone, she could no longer live in the archetype of a "caring mother" and she had nothing to do. To put it simply, she lost her identity, which she had long been associated only with the role of a "caring mother" ...

And then her ancestors "found" an "occupation" for her ...

Robert Dilts worked long and unsuccessfully with his mother, until finally a brilliant phrase came to him. I'll quote it exactly:

“Instead of looking into the past and seeing your mother and sister there, to find out your identity and how you should be, turn to the future - to your daughter, who is also looking at you to find out how to be her!”

That line drove the generic script out of Dilts's mother's head once and for all. She “made a decision” that it was on her that this bad infinity would end, so that it would be better for her children ...

In this subsequent phrase, generations of psychotherapists and their patients draw a resource in order to destroy their imprint.

This is reimprinting.

 

[Tomcat]

NLP: The Golden Ball Technique​

Greetings to all, this is Stalilingus
Today I want to share with you a technique of very powerful establishment of a report (successful communication and interconnection)
I will say right away that it takes a lot of practice to start working. I trained for 2 weeks before seeing the first result. Someone might say that this is a long time for one technique, but believe me, the result is so powerful that you will not regret it. At the same time, the technique is quite difficult.
The technique is based on all sorts of theta waves of our brain, the energy of esotericism, etc.
This technique was reworked into a human form by Philip Bogachev, for which we bow to him. And the original source is Elroy Carter.

And so we went:
1. Identify the person with whom you want to establish rapport.
2. Remember the state that arises from the presence of an old friend next to you, who supports you during your actions. This emotional background will be very helpful for this exercise.
3. Restore in all details the image of the person with whom you want to establish rapport. What's his pose? What is he wearing? How does he move? Or is he motionless? The more detailed this image is, the more powerful the rapport you can establish.
4. Looking at the image of this person, create the maximum possible adjustment, that is, make your body similar to the image - by body position, breathing, movements.
5. Now imagine how you leave (or float) out of your body, and penetrate into this person, as if dissolving in him. Let yourself get used to the new body and look at yourself from the side, from the body of another person. Just feel how comfortable you are with yourself, and if something is wrong, you can change your body until a state of complete comfort arises.
6. Note that there is a state of comfort and it completely suits you / you. And pay attention to where in your physical body there is an indicator of the comfort of your state. It usually has the shape of a sphere or ball and is located in the solar plexus area. This ball has a double connection: when you are more comfortable, it increases in size, and if you mentally increase it in size, the comfort of communication will greatly increase.
7. Make sure that the ball works, that is, play with its size and pay attention to your sensations in the body. Things are good? Great, the technique is working, return to your body and feel free to date this person. You cannot even imagine how much more comfortable it will be for you to communicate when you meet. This technique can be done even in the presence of a girl, if, for example, you are sitting at different tables in a bar. After a good performance of the ball, the girl may clearly show signs of sexual arousal, and then it's time to come up to her and start a conversation. And I highly recommend that you practice the Golden Ball technique as often as possible in order to teach your unconscious to establish a rapport of unprecedented power automatically.

I will give personal recommendations:

• I worked mainly in clubs and at private parties with friends in huts. With as little or no acquaintances as possible.
• If you know about a meeting with a person, make the technique at home in advance. And when you meet, rewind her in your head.

Do-do-do and then trample.

 

[Brother]

NLP: Protecting Personal Boundaries​

Personal space is the territorial boundaries of both your personality and your body.
The desire to achieve compliance with the boundaries of their personality always, in everything and from everyone has become mainstream.
All who grasped what the trick was, began to insist on not violating their personal space, to take into account their interests always and everywhere and unswervingly observe their boundaries. But these same people sometimes quite harshly and naturally violate the boundaries of others. Therefore, both those who easily handle their boundaries and those who anxiously value them, like a panama on the beach, have the same questions: what can be considered the norm, where it is important to defend the boundaries, and where your huge ego can be and you need to squeeze. And this is quite difficult to figure out. But we'll try.

Personal space is the territorial boundaries of both your personality and your body - a set of principles and rules that you consider to be the norm for yourself, based on your cultural and moral principles, and which may be constant for you, but not always constant for those around you.
Speaking about personal boundaries, of course, it is important to understand that the primary for many are the boundaries of personal space, which are considered to be bodily. Yes, many people find it difficult to tolerate the close presence of strangers, try to leave or move away, avoid cramped rooms and large crowds. But even in this seemingly very individual desire, there are a lot of cultural layers.

Take small but densely populated Japan. It is enough to find a video on YouTube of how people are shoved into the Tokyo subway to understand: a person with rigid personal boundaries will have a hard time there. However, the Japanese somehow cope with this. But huge America with its highways and incredibly huge cars, with detached houses and private toilets for each family member - there is enough room to allow personal space to grow, defining the culture of an entire country as a culture of respect for this space. Nevertheless, in a personal conversation, a Japanese and an American will probably feel extremely embarrassed: one will be annoyed by the other's desire to move away from the conversation, which he, most likely, will perceive as neglect. And the other will be annoyed that the interlocutor breathes into his face with a freshly eaten cutlet.

The violation of our personal boundaries is carried out by other people, as a rule, in two cases: with a desire for intimacy and with explicit or latent aggression. In the first case, a person can be quite friendly, but this does not mean that the other is ready for this intimacy and will not perceive it as aggression. Therefore, people who have a subtle sense of others try to get closer gradually, observing the conditional rules of rapprochement. After all, it will look strange if you, having just met a person, will crawl to him with arms, although there are a lot of people who badly feel other people's boundaries. And it is important to know that such an intervention, even quite friendly, can be perceived as aggression, but it can be exactly that.

Often manipulators and rapists of all stripes use such psychological "tricks" when they try to unbalance the victim: they touch a person, place their things in his conditional space, move objects closer, put their clothes on him.

In fact, it is not so difficult to determine a person's personal physical space: when crossing his conditional "border", you will feel that the person first froze, and then moved away from you. If you do not want to cause discomfort to the person in this case, stop, otherwise there will be no dialogue.
But in addition to bodily space, a person surrounds himself with a set of habits, moral attitudes, views, ethical norms and principles. We not only realize our bodily separateness, but also understand the separateness of our "I", which implies the separation of our desires from others, our feelings - from the feelings of other people, what annoys us, from what brings pleasure. Although there are enough people in the world who take other people's feelings for their own, and attribute their own to other people.

The boundaries of personality, although more difficult to define at the physical level, are very easy to feel when they are violated.

Here two girlfriends meet, and one of them famously evaluates the figure, hairstyle, clothes or looks of the other: "What kind of stupid dress you have?", "You still haven't married him?", "Are you going to give birth or are you going to mess with your dogs? "Usually, in such a situation, a person wants to disappear, evaporate and never see this monster again, who, by some wonderful accident, considers himself your friend. Trampling on the concepts of elementary ethics and all conceivable boundaries, a person arrogates to himself the right to decide what is good for you and what is bad for you, how you dress, look and when to make vital decisions. But communication with such a friend can be avoided, turned off from everyday life. And what to do with those who lives with us under the same roof or works in the same office? It is these people who unceremoniously chew the sandwich we brought, use our cup, read our magazine first, throw socks around, and leave their hair in the bathroom, driving our minds and senses into a frenzy.

Somerset Maugham has a short story, "On the Edge of an Empire," in which he describes a situation between two missionaries. One - Mr. Warburton - is a pedant and a snob, receiving newspapers from the mainland once a month in a whole pack, reads them exactly one a day, in exactly the same order in which they are published in England. This is a very important daily ritual for him and even an event: he reverently opens each newspaper with a paper knife, anticipating the events that he is now the first to learn about. But one day his assistant, Mr. Cooper, immediately opens the latest newspaper to find out the latest news, which plunged Mr. Warburton into an extraordinary rage. The story described is a vivid example of how a person can react to violation of their boundaries, their usual way of life, habits and the pace of life in which they feel comfortable. By the way, Mr. Cooper finished badly. Because the constant violation of our boundaries, which we have to endure, tends to accumulate, and at one point a critical mass of our discomfort breaks out, demolishing everything in its path, especially when we are not able to say "no" in time ...

In general, the ability to say a firm "no" to everything that brings us inconvenience, and to everyone who gives us discomfort, is an important component of mental health. Most often, the inability to say "no" hides the fear of losing love and the location of important people: relatives, friends, bosses. People without borders are ready to spend their personal time, energy and resources on those who are able to cause this fear in them, who become more important for this person himself. And our "no" is a warning to another that we are able to take responsibility for our life without merging with the personality of another.

By the way, the ability not to merge with the parent is also an important moment in the process of separating a child, separating him from his parents. This is especially acute in adolescence in the form of negativism, protest reactions, resistance to the will of the parents. This is a necessary period in order to form your desires and needs, to separate the alien from your own, trying different, including negative, roles, experiencing the whole gamut of feelings, gaining personal experience.

Often, in a fit of boundless love for a child, parents violate the process of forming personal boundaries in children, justifying this by the fact that they know better what the child needs. But in fact, they simply do not take into account his needs and desires, showing the emerging personality an example of ignoring boundaries, consolidating this pattern for life. It is very difficult for a child whose feelings were neglected by his parents to form his own boundaries later: he does not believe in himself, has low self-esteem, gets used to living according to the scenarios of other people. In another version, such a child can turn into a tough manipulator who himself violates other people's boundaries: he hits others, forces them to do what he wants, feeding on the destructive energy that such behavior brings,

For the correct formation of boundaries, it is important to learn how to declare them, to conclude an agreement with others about what is important to you. It can also be an unspoken agreement, which is implied in the context of ethical norms and rules: do not criticize, do not give advice and do not interfere in affairs, do not offer help if you do not ask for it. But this may be a very specific list of prohibitions that is important to voice to those who are a constant violator of your boundaries: "I ask you not to come to my house without an invitation", "I ask you not to bother me on work issues on weekends","II ask you not to buy me anything without my request"," I ask you to come to meetings with me on time."

Think of the representatives of "Canadian wholesale companies" who unceremoniously forced us unnecessary purchases and services that we did not need. Are there any among your loved ones who also invade your space with their own rules and advice? And even if these are your close relatives, you have the right to say a firm "no" to them. But saying this "no", it is important to remember that the desire to take care of loved ones is a natural desire of a loving person, and therefore our "no" should not contain devaluation, criticism, accusations and offenses, which are just part of our intervention in someone else's space.

And yet, in my opinion, the concept of personal space and personal boundaries is rather a phenomenon of modern culture, in which neurotic reactions have become a sign of a healthy personality, ready not only to defend their boundaries, but also to recognize the boundaries of another person. This means that the main criteria for healthy personal boundaries are their flexibility and the ability of a person to compromise with himself.

 

[Tomcat]

Building a time line. NLP Technique.​

Building a timeline is a visual representation by a person of his memories of different time periods in the space around him. In this concept, two philosophical categories collide - time and space. It turns out that all memories and ideas about the future are encoded by a person in a very specific way using submodalities, and the coding sequence can have both diagnostic and therapeutic value.

From a diagnostic point of view, we may be interested in which periods of a person's life are most important and which, for one reason or another, he tries not to notice and even to remove. What period of time - past, present or future - is it more focused on and much more. For therapeutic purposes, this technique is successfully applied when a person has problems with planning, short memory, repetitive mistakes ("again stepped on the same rake"), there is ambiguity, fuzziness of the future, the inability to remember the past and other requests that one or another are otherwise related to the category of time.
It is especially interesting to use the time line to create false memories, with the help of which you can rid a person of true memories. This technique is rarely used and will not be covered in this guide.

Description of the technique

1. Invite the person to find an action or event that happens on a daily basis and does not have an emotional connotation: washing, brushing teeth, opening a door, taking an elevator, and much more. Another important condition is the recurrence of events for a long time and the continuation of its recurrence in the future, also for a long time. Suppose a person chooses to brush their teeth.

2. Ask him to remember how he brushed his teeth this morning. Specify where the image of this memory appeared, in what place in space, at what distance from the person. Ask to describe this picture, its modality.

3. Ask the patient to recall (or imagine) how he brushed his teeth yesterday. Find out the submodalities of the arisen image. Next, ask questions about how he brushed his teeth two days ago, a week, a month, three months, six months, a year, three years, five years, ten, and so on - how long the person will have the ability to remember. At the same time, do not forget to define the submodalities of images.

4. Ask the question: "How will he brush his teeth tomorrow?" Define the emerging image according to the same submodalities that emerged for the past. Then start asking how he will brush his teeth in two days, a week, two weeks, a month, and so on, using approximately the same time intervals with which you shifted into the past. Each time ask to compare the submodality of the appearing image with the previous one.

5. Ask how he imagines this process at the moment. First of all, pay attention to the presence of an associated or dissociated state.

6. Connect the resulting images with the intended line. This will be the timeline of the person.

The main point of the technique is the manifestation of the patient's temporary connections in the surrounding space. Having identified them, we can make assumptions about a person's thought patterns, on the basis of which he imagines his life, recalls the past and predicts the future.

Difficulties

Sometimes the patient says that his ideas are limited to the walls of the room in which he is. Therefore, for the convenience and reliability of the material obtained, invite the person to mentally go beyond the room and use all possible space that he can only imagine.

In some cases, patients show their aesthetic inclinations and begin to hang images like paintings in a museum. This must be foreseen, so ask the question more clearly: "Where did this image originate?" At the same time, carefully follow the direction of the gaze that arises in response to your offer to remember or imagine the next time period. If at first the gaze is directed to one place, and then the person begins to turn his eyes to the walls, ceiling or to another place in space, specify exactly where the image originated. Sometimes this is due to the fact that the patient wants to appear better to the therapist, to strive to earn his respect, but does not know how to do this, because he does not understand the conditions of the game. And then he sets his own conditions, his own rules.

Do not be surprised if a number of images appear behind the patient's back - this really can be.

It is interesting to trace the location of the lines. Most often, timelines tend to the English letter V; for right-handers, the past stretches to the left and up, and the future - to the right and up, and the closer to the present day, the larger, brighter, and clearer these pictures. As a rule, the submodalities of the past and the future are significantly different. This is also combined with the material that we receive from the study of oculomotor patterns. Recall that visual images of memory appear from the top left, and visual constructions (images of the future) - above and to the right. However, a clear letter V rarely appears, more often the lines have a different direction, sometimes radically different from the typical one. For example, a straight line is defined as a time line, which includes a person.

There is a fairly simple way to analyze the timeline. What falls into the direct field of view of a person is of interest to him and is the basis of his life. What goes beyond the direct field, goes to the periphery or even behind the back, where he cannot see them, usually indicates that the given moment is of no interest to a person, and sometimes even unpleasant to him: this is a way of pushing unpleasant memories out of life. ... Therefore, if a sharp jump to the side appears on the line, this usually indicates that some unpleasant experiences have been caused. And vice versa, when the line suddenly bends closer to the middle, we can say that this period was pleasant and interesting to him. This usually happens with early childhood memories. For example, a person remembers how he brushed his teeth. We are leading the line, and suddenly a real memory appears: the day when he, a five-year-old child, learned to brush his teeth and smeared himself with toothpaste, the weather was bright and sunny. And this picture differs sharply in submodalities from all previous ones and very often is directly in front of a person, although the logic of movement and development of submodalities was completely different. This suggests that the patient's emotional outlook has changed our line. Therefore, when we ask a person to find some kind of memory, on the basis of which we begin to build a line, we ask to find exactly the unemotional state.

An interesting version of the line, when the lines of the past and the future go side by side, close to each other. Moreover, their submodalities are similar, and it is difficult for the patient to understand where is the image of the past, where is the image of the future. Very often, when talking with him about his life, you understand that a person seems to be in one day, all days are similar to one another, and he hardly distinguishes between them, poorly navigating where the past and the future are. Alcoholics may have such lines.

For some individuals, the timeline cannot be distinguished. This is extremely rare, and if we discard the errors in the execution of the technique, there can be only one explanation. It is as follows. Linear time is typical for civilized countries with Western culture. There it is important for a person what happened yesterday, what will happen tomorrow, people clearly plan their time, knowing in advance what event will happen. But there is another organization of time - the so-called Arab time, when a person is not affected by civilization and the nature around him, the world around him affects him much more than he himself. Desires to plan are alien to him, he even hardly remembers when and what happened to him. An example is various facts from the life of low-civilized peoples. Suffice it to recall the film about Crocodile Dundee. The hero of the film asked the leader when he was born, and the leader answered: "In the autumn." This is the only existing timing. Usually, the absence of a calendar is a symbol of such non-linear time and means that there is no need to structure it. One of these patients came to our appointment and was unable to create his own timeline. Each time he was associated with any time that was offered to him, and in response to a direct question from the therapist: "What would be the time line if time could be turned into a line?", He answered with outstretched hands: " Time? Here it is, around us, it cannot be a line. "This is a very typical answer, and when we got it, we realized that we were faced with a" nugget "in terms of organizing its time. Usually, the absence of a calendar is a symbol of such non-linear time and means that there is no need to structure it. One of these patients came to our appointment and was unable to create his own timeline. Each time he was associated with any time that was offered to him, and in response to a direct question from the therapist: "What would be the time line if time could be turned into a line?", He answered with outstretched hands: " Time? Here it is, around us, it cannot be a line.