What controls our time and life

[Teacher]

For thousands of years, people have been drawing up horoscopes, guessing on coffee grounds, and coming up with ways to classify people. For what? In order to better understand both others and ourselves. What can this understanding give if used correctly? A powerful tool for working on yourself, allowing you to use your strengths and correct weaknesses.

In NLP, the filters through which people perceive the world around them and, accordingly, behave in this world, are called metaprograms. Despite this long and confusing word, metaprograms are very practical and easy to use. Mastering them is much easier than memorizing all 12 signs of the Zodiac with all the characteristics of people or mastering the Myers-Briggs method.

How do you put these metaprograms into practice? Let's take a look at them together using the example of time management and how people differ and how to learn to understand them better.

Some people will readily tell and show you what they did today with an interval of 5 minutes, some will be able to recall approximately 5-7 main events of the day, and for someone, one but significant event is important. This metaprogram is called Split Size. It can be small, medium and large, as in the example.

People with small breakdowns tend to get stuck on small things. For example, such a person's desktop may contain many small items that he considers an integral part of the work process. Choosing an organizer for him can be a long and difficult task, because he will go through various little things for a long time - sometimes it is not so, sometimes it could be different there.

The opposite is people with a large breakdown size. Such a person usually sets several big goals for himself and does not like to go into details. His office and desk will most likely look like a single unit, with big things going on, perhaps one or two of the most important of the day. People with average breakdown sizes fall somewhere in the middle.

Remember the saying "Don't see the trees behind the forest?" - this is about people with a large breakdown size. Give them a project, no less. People with a small size of the breakdown, on the contrary, "They do not notice the forest for the trees." For them, filling out a small piece of paper is as important as everything else. They are most often surprised to learn that things, it turns out, can be divided according to the principle of importance and urgency. They often have everything the same - and here we have a list of burning cases of 121 items.

If you suddenly at some point recognize yourself in one of the descriptions, do not be upset. The presence of any of the metaprograms in a person is not a sentence, but only a reason for action. If you set yourself the task of changing the metaprogram, this can be achieved, however, you have to "grab" your hands and remind yourself of your own desire to try to live differently.

The next 6 metaprograms are commonly referred to as sort gates. If we sift sand through a sieve, then everything that is larger than the mesh holes will remain on it, and everything smaller will pass through the mesh. Usually information comes to us from the outside world according to the same principle, we just do not pay attention to what we filter out. Usually metaprograms are grouped in 2, which are "opposite", so each of the two is usually more developed, and the other less.

A person with the "People" metaprogram, when talking about anything, will definitely pay attention to everything that is connected with people. Who was there, who was talked about, who needs it, who thinks what on this issue, etc. At the same time, a person with the "Things" metaprogram, telling you about the same event, will mention everything related to things - what people were wearing, how the room was furnished, what kind of organizers they use - electronic, wall- mounted or in paper form what adaptations can be made to help yourself keep the timekeeping, and so on.

The Metaprogram "Things" can cause its owner to have a strong desire to put everything on the shelves, and, as in the Japanese model 5C, draw a contour so that not a single thing is lost, because things are very important to them. While the happy owners of the "People" metaprogram will be more likely to focus on their favorite pastime - communicating with other people. Now do you understand how funny everything is arranged? If a person has a leading metaprogram - "People", then any person who comes or calls will automatically receive priority over any important and urgent paperwork, regardless of what is written there in the plan for the day.

The "Time" metaprogram causes its happy owner to be interested in everything related to time. It is these people who will always readily tell you what time it is, even without looking at the clock, and at the same time they will guess with an accuracy of 5 minutes. Lovers of timekeeping can also be safely attributed to this category. It is important for such people not only when this or that business began, but also how long it lasted, what was the day of the week, etc. They themselves are usually rarely late and are very sensitive to other people's lateness.

The metaprogram "Place" is the opposite of "Time". For these people, it is more important WHERE this or that event takes place than at what time. Talking, for example, about a business trip, such a person can accurately describe to you a complex system of turns in any building, never making a mistake. "For a mad dog, 7 miles is not a hook" - such people can live under such a motto.

If you have the opportunity to go to the city of N, it doesn't matter whether you need it or not, but you can't miss such a chance. Is it any wonder that these people know by heart what is on the third shelf on the right, and can happily tell you about it at any time of the day or night. What you should definitely not do with such people is to change any of their things in places without their knowledge.

For people with the Values metaprogram, the outcome is important. This can be the completion of a project, receiving money, etc. - the main thing is that there must be a result. The trouble is, if the case continues, but there is still no visible result. It's better for them to get 40 times a small result than one big result later - they just can't wait to get it finally. It was for them that the techniques “cut an elephant into small pieces and divide the pyramid into separate bricks” were invented.

Process-oriented people, on the other hand, have almost no need as a result. “Lieutenant Rzhevsky, do you love children? - No, but here's the process ... ". It has been said - dig from here until sunset - done. Therefore, such people may accumulate mountains of unfinished business, or it seems to them that the business is not completed, because the process is going on.

There are some more fun metaprograms from the same series, for example procedures. Such people enjoy the fact that the process takes place in a clearly established order and nothing else. Firstly, I woke up, secondly, I went to work, and thirdly, I had lunch. The disruption of the planned affairs plunges them into the abyss of despair.

For action-oriented people, everything is “simplified, formalized”: wake-up, jogging - they consider everything as separate operations, without delving deeply, it says charging is done, you can put a tick.

There are probably a few people who have not heard at least once that most of us perceive the world around us in one of three ways: with our eyes (visuals), ears (audials), or by touch (kinesthetics). They think and act accordingly at different speeds. Visuals react most quickly - they don't need to mentally imagine any picture, then audials come - they have to rewind the film mentally, even on fast forward, kinesthetics lag behind - but where should they hurry, because everything needs to be felt.

Don't expect the kinesthetic to think as quickly as the visual. It says nothing about his thinking strategies. And audials can "not open" their eyes to many things, if only it sounds good.

All of these small characteristics lead to the fact that these people live in different ways and manage time in different ways. It's funny to hear how at some trainings they try to "prescribe" the same organizer or the same time scheduling system for everyone. "It helps us." And it may not help others.

The best thing to do with this article is to analyze your habits and inclinations, and take into account not only for time management, but in life in general - in what things to buy, how to store them, etc. And then your efficiency will increase significantly.