Lord777
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Take it - useful as a cheat sheet.
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Take 10 minutes: for the procrastinator
It helps to quickly agree with yourself when you need to start doing something, but you don't want to. Tell yourself: “I’m 10 minutes ... (I’m reading an English textbook, it’s like a treadmill, I’ll work on a report, the deadline for which is tomorrow evening, etc.)”. Chances are, by the end of a given period, you will get involved, and things will go on easier.
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? Evaluating Gaze: Disarm the aggressor
If you feel the gaze of a negative person on you, try this technique: look into his eyes for a couple of seconds, then move your gaze to his legs, then back into his eyes. And then look away.
Nothing complicated, but the opponent considers it as a non-verbal response: I appreciated you and do not see you as a threat. The main thing is to keep your posture so that there is no dissonance between a confident look and a hunched back.
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? Passive voice: avoid conflict
If someone needs to point out a mistake, but you want to do it without an accusatory tone, so as not to run into protests, try using not an active verb, but its passive voice. For example: "You have not completed this task" replace with "This task has not been completed."
It sounds more neutral, and it is more likely that the opponent will not fall into guilt or aggressive protest, but will be able to calmly answer why he did not complete the task.
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Take 10 minutes: for the procrastinatorIt helps to quickly agree with yourself when you need to start doing something, but you don't want to. Tell yourself: “I’m 10 minutes ... (I’m reading an English textbook, it’s like a treadmill, I’ll work on a report, the deadline for which is tomorrow evening, etc.)”. Chances are, by the end of a given period, you will get involved, and things will go on easier.
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? Evaluating Gaze: Disarm the aggressor
If you feel the gaze of a negative person on you, try this technique: look into his eyes for a couple of seconds, then move your gaze to his legs, then back into his eyes. And then look away.
Nothing complicated, but the opponent considers it as a non-verbal response: I appreciated you and do not see you as a threat. The main thing is to keep your posture so that there is no dissonance between a confident look and a hunched back.
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? Passive voice: avoid conflict
If someone needs to point out a mistake, but you want to do it without an accusatory tone, so as not to run into protests, try using not an active verb, but its passive voice. For example: "You have not completed this task" replace with "This task has not been completed."
It sounds more neutral, and it is more likely that the opponent will not fall into guilt or aggressive protest, but will be able to calmly answer why he did not complete the task.
