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The fact is that we cannot control 10% of the events in our life. We cannot prevent damage to the device we are using, affect the delay of an aircraft flight or adjust the red light of a traffic light. But we can control our reaction to these events.
The remaining 90% of events are the result of our reaction. The result of how we behave in an uncontrolled and stressful situation.
Imagine this?
You are having breakfast with your family. Your daughter accidentally knocks over a cup of your coffee right onto your shirt, and you jump up and yell at your daughter, calling her a muddlehead. Rebuke your wife for placing the cup very close to the edge of the table. You rush to your bedroom to change, and upon returning you see your crying daughter, who has not finished her breakfast and packed her things for school.
As a result, she misses the school bus. Your wife is rushing to work and you are driving your daughter to school in your car. Since you are late, you will rush in violation of the traffic rules. Arriving late at work, you find that you have forgotten the necessary papers at home. Your day started off badly and continues like this, and you can't wait to see it end. When you come home, you see that your wife and daughter are in a bad mood. There is tension in your relationship.
Why are you having a bad day?
A) Because your daughter accidentally spilled coffee?
B) Because your daughter missed the bus and you had to drive her to school?
C) Because there was a traffic jam on the road and you were late for work?
D) Because you reacted wrongly to the situation?
The correct answer is D. You have ruined the whole day for yourself and your family by your reaction. You couldn't do anything about the spilled coffee, but you could control your reaction.
Coffee is spilled on your pants. The daughter is ready to cry. You say softly: “It's okay, just try to be neat next time.” You go into the bedroom, change your trousers, take everything you need for work. Return to the kitchen and see through the window your daughter waving at you as she gets on the school bus. After saying goodbye to your wife, leave the house. You arrive at work 5 minutes early and greet everyone energetically.
Two different scenarios. Both started out the same, but ended differently.
The remaining 90% of events are the result of our reaction. The result of how we behave in an uncontrolled and stressful situation.
Imagine this?
You are having breakfast with your family. Your daughter accidentally knocks over a cup of your coffee right onto your shirt, and you jump up and yell at your daughter, calling her a muddlehead. Rebuke your wife for placing the cup very close to the edge of the table. You rush to your bedroom to change, and upon returning you see your crying daughter, who has not finished her breakfast and packed her things for school.
As a result, she misses the school bus. Your wife is rushing to work and you are driving your daughter to school in your car. Since you are late, you will rush in violation of the traffic rules. Arriving late at work, you find that you have forgotten the necessary papers at home. Your day started off badly and continues like this, and you can't wait to see it end. When you come home, you see that your wife and daughter are in a bad mood. There is tension in your relationship.
Why are you having a bad day?
A) Because your daughter accidentally spilled coffee?
B) Because your daughter missed the bus and you had to drive her to school?
C) Because there was a traffic jam on the road and you were late for work?
D) Because you reacted wrongly to the situation?
The correct answer is D. You have ruined the whole day for yourself and your family by your reaction. You couldn't do anything about the spilled coffee, but you could control your reaction.
Coffee is spilled on your pants. The daughter is ready to cry. You say softly: “It's okay, just try to be neat next time.” You go into the bedroom, change your trousers, take everything you need for work. Return to the kitchen and see through the window your daughter waving at you as she gets on the school bus. After saying goodbye to your wife, leave the house. You arrive at work 5 minutes early and greet everyone energetically.
Two different scenarios. Both started out the same, but ended differently.
