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The principle of mirroring in relationships with oneself. To briefly express the principle of mirroring in a relationship with oneself, it sounds like this:
Major distortions:
Emphasis on what you don't like, what there is a desire to change, what the person is dissatisfied with. This was the way it was before, adults focused their attention on what is bad, what is not, what should be avoided. And all would not be anything - if along with this they would also be praised, but this often did not happen. Consequently, everything that was good was taken for granted, but what was bad or a mistake that came out was quickly noticed, criticized, ridiculed. Under these conditions, the child's brain automatically sets up a fear program.
And now, in being already an adult and quite conscious state, a person continues to focus on his mistakes instead of his parents, constantly digging, blaming himself, criticizing and engaging in excessive self-digging and idealization. Just a habit of this attitude towards yourself.
What to do?
The first thing that should be done is to admit oneself in all its glory, without idealization, without embellishment - in fact. Recognize your pros and cons, strengths and weaknesses, and the strengths of your appearance and weaknesses. Recognize yourself completely and completely.
Second, to shift the focus of attention in everyday life to strengths, advantages, and pluses. Nuance: do not be proud of it, do not assert yourself at the expense of this, do not put yourself above others, namely, praise and thank yourself, develop in yourself what you yourself like. Do not boast, do not shout and do not prove, but first of all for yourself, in order to please yourself more.
Third, to analyze the shortcomings and weaknesses - is it really so, where it is appropriate in behavior, where it is not appropriate to change, with an awareness of the consequences. That is, treat yourself with understanding and kindness, without judgment and excessive criticism. Found a quality that you do not like - dismantled, changed, then you enjoy life. We looked in the mirror, the nose is too long, we looked into the eyes - but the eyes were somehow beautiful. And soon your nose will become invisible, but it will become more pleasant for you to look into your eyes both to you and to those around you.
The fourth is to go beyond all ideas about yourself and accept your difference, accept yourself in all the familiar and yet unfamiliar manifestations ... freedom for parrots.
The principle of mirroring in relationships with people, excluding (husband, wife).
Reactions of approval or criticism towards others are your hidden reflection.
That is why communication is important to us. In contact with others - we cognize our self-deceptions and idealizations, which we are not able to realize alone with ourselves. It is so good and calm within four walls, but as you leave society, so are fears, irritation, etc.
How does the mirroring principle work in this case?
With a negative (negative) reaction, the other person reveals what is hidden in ourselves (extremes).
For example, in Petya ignorance annoys you? - conclusion - either you yourself are inclined to this in behavior (inside you consider yourself a well-bred intellectual, but in reality everything is different), or you endow the external manifestation with significance (outwardly you are such a well-bred intellectual, but inside you are eternal discontent and hypocrisy). You continue to condemn Petya, thereby only developing this quality in yourself.
What to do?
The first is to track the reactions of judgment and denial.
The second thing is bad in one way or another.
Third, what alternative thinking and behavior can you use instead.
The principle of mirroring in the relationship between a man and a woman.
Here things are a little different, because the masculine and the feminine come into play. In nature, everything is harmonious, but in us it is not always, sometimes you have to work hard on it.
Each of us has both masculine and feminine principles, yin and yang energy, heaven, earth, light, dark, and so on. We are woven from contradictions, and they can interact amicably and harmoniously. When there is an imbalance, behavior may reflect not gender, but internal content, which may reflect the essence of the opposite sex.
How to interpret the principle of mirroring in this case?
Similarly, we observe our negative reactions, taking into account only the male and female nature.
For example, Petya annoys Masha with his passivity. He came, lay down on the sofa, stared at the TV and lay quietly resting. While Masha plows like a horse.
What does this annoyance indicate? The fact that Masha is dominated by male thinking, behavior and energy. You should develop your feminine nature, and leave Petya alone.
The opposite situation, Petya is annoyed by the Sawing Machine, while he does not want to change anything, it is better to trust Masha. On the face, the predominance of the feminine essence.
What to do?
Explore yourself and your reactions through a partner, for your own development.
Talk to each other, explaining feelings and thoughts.
Be able to ask, not just order, demand and run away.
Either you will walk this path together and become closer, while each will show himself in his own role; or you will take the same lessons with someone else. In this case, the lesson is not canceled from changing the places of the terms.
That is, you should not run away from the relationship yourself while there are feelings. And you should also not keep the relationship if the other decided to leave or you two feel bad in them and did everything possible to understand and feel each other.
Your life begins with you and ends with you.
The principle of mirroring in relationships with the Universe, with God.
What's small is big. Micro world and macro world. That is, the relationship with the Universe is similar to the relationship with oneself.
You see the Universe according to your feelings and thoughts, which you take for reality.
The universe is a large mirror. Everything that you sent there (feelings, thoughts and emotions - all this is energy) - the Universe through some time buffer showed you your conditionally "yesterday" thoughts and feelings. In the Universe there is everything and there is nothing, therefore reality can be something pleasing and be nothing, it all depends on the perception and significance that we endow different aspects of life.
Remember what I said earlier, what I am trying to fix in myself is only developing.
We transfer to the relationship with the Universe, what I am afraid of, what I struggle with, what I avoid, what I do not want to see and acknowledge - all this is reflected as really existing.
What to do?
Live and rejoice, accepting the whole world as a reality, which you do not have the opportunity to influence explicitly. At the same time, deliberately directing attention to what you encourage, what makes you happy, what gives you pleasure. Requiring no guarantees of implementation. You just notice what you like, radiate desire (desire as a source of energy, not as a program of the Mind "I want"), thank you for the opportunity of this experience. Perhaps, at first, doubts prevent you from experiencing this experience, be committed to the path and you will eliminate doubts (this is a test for the truth of desire), and after that only trust will remain - and then the desired experience.
Love yourself, as a part of the universe, the Universe does not care what you send there, but you are pleased)))! It's a joke, of course, and the Universe wins due to your joy and goodness, and the general state of the Universal energy changes. Therefore, love yourself, thereby contributing to the development of paradise on Earth))).
I would be grateful for your questions and proposed topics, with respect, Alena Ryabchenko.
Major distortions:
Emphasis on what you don't like, what there is a desire to change, what the person is dissatisfied with. This was the way it was before, adults focused their attention on what is bad, what is not, what should be avoided. And all would not be anything - if along with this they would also be praised, but this often did not happen. Consequently, everything that was good was taken for granted, but what was bad or a mistake that came out was quickly noticed, criticized, ridiculed. Under these conditions, the child's brain automatically sets up a fear program.
And now, in being already an adult and quite conscious state, a person continues to focus on his mistakes instead of his parents, constantly digging, blaming himself, criticizing and engaging in excessive self-digging and idealization. Just a habit of this attitude towards yourself.
What to do?
The first thing that should be done is to admit oneself in all its glory, without idealization, without embellishment - in fact. Recognize your pros and cons, strengths and weaknesses, and the strengths of your appearance and weaknesses. Recognize yourself completely and completely.
Second, to shift the focus of attention in everyday life to strengths, advantages, and pluses. Nuance: do not be proud of it, do not assert yourself at the expense of this, do not put yourself above others, namely, praise and thank yourself, develop in yourself what you yourself like. Do not boast, do not shout and do not prove, but first of all for yourself, in order to please yourself more.
Third, to analyze the shortcomings and weaknesses - is it really so, where it is appropriate in behavior, where it is not appropriate to change, with an awareness of the consequences. That is, treat yourself with understanding and kindness, without judgment and excessive criticism. Found a quality that you do not like - dismantled, changed, then you enjoy life. We looked in the mirror, the nose is too long, we looked into the eyes - but the eyes were somehow beautiful. And soon your nose will become invisible, but it will become more pleasant for you to look into your eyes both to you and to those around you.
The fourth is to go beyond all ideas about yourself and accept your difference, accept yourself in all the familiar and yet unfamiliar manifestations ... freedom for parrots.
The principle of mirroring in relationships with people, excluding (husband, wife).
Reactions of approval or criticism towards others are your hidden reflection.
That is why communication is important to us. In contact with others - we cognize our self-deceptions and idealizations, which we are not able to realize alone with ourselves. It is so good and calm within four walls, but as you leave society, so are fears, irritation, etc.
How does the mirroring principle work in this case?
With a negative (negative) reaction, the other person reveals what is hidden in ourselves (extremes).
For example, in Petya ignorance annoys you? - conclusion - either you yourself are inclined to this in behavior (inside you consider yourself a well-bred intellectual, but in reality everything is different), or you endow the external manifestation with significance (outwardly you are such a well-bred intellectual, but inside you are eternal discontent and hypocrisy). You continue to condemn Petya, thereby only developing this quality in yourself.
What to do?
The first is to track the reactions of judgment and denial.
The second thing is bad in one way or another.
Third, what alternative thinking and behavior can you use instead.
The principle of mirroring in the relationship between a man and a woman.
Here things are a little different, because the masculine and the feminine come into play. In nature, everything is harmonious, but in us it is not always, sometimes you have to work hard on it.
Each of us has both masculine and feminine principles, yin and yang energy, heaven, earth, light, dark, and so on. We are woven from contradictions, and they can interact amicably and harmoniously. When there is an imbalance, behavior may reflect not gender, but internal content, which may reflect the essence of the opposite sex.
How to interpret the principle of mirroring in this case?
Similarly, we observe our negative reactions, taking into account only the male and female nature.
For example, Petya annoys Masha with his passivity. He came, lay down on the sofa, stared at the TV and lay quietly resting. While Masha plows like a horse.
What does this annoyance indicate? The fact that Masha is dominated by male thinking, behavior and energy. You should develop your feminine nature, and leave Petya alone.
The opposite situation, Petya is annoyed by the Sawing Machine, while he does not want to change anything, it is better to trust Masha. On the face, the predominance of the feminine essence.
What to do?
Explore yourself and your reactions through a partner, for your own development.
Talk to each other, explaining feelings and thoughts.
Be able to ask, not just order, demand and run away.
Either you will walk this path together and become closer, while each will show himself in his own role; or you will take the same lessons with someone else. In this case, the lesson is not canceled from changing the places of the terms.
That is, you should not run away from the relationship yourself while there are feelings. And you should also not keep the relationship if the other decided to leave or you two feel bad in them and did everything possible to understand and feel each other.
Your life begins with you and ends with you.
The principle of mirroring in relationships with the Universe, with God.
What's small is big. Micro world and macro world. That is, the relationship with the Universe is similar to the relationship with oneself.
You see the Universe according to your feelings and thoughts, which you take for reality.
The universe is a large mirror. Everything that you sent there (feelings, thoughts and emotions - all this is energy) - the Universe through some time buffer showed you your conditionally "yesterday" thoughts and feelings. In the Universe there is everything and there is nothing, therefore reality can be something pleasing and be nothing, it all depends on the perception and significance that we endow different aspects of life.
Remember what I said earlier, what I am trying to fix in myself is only developing.
We transfer to the relationship with the Universe, what I am afraid of, what I struggle with, what I avoid, what I do not want to see and acknowledge - all this is reflected as really existing.
What to do?
Live and rejoice, accepting the whole world as a reality, which you do not have the opportunity to influence explicitly. At the same time, deliberately directing attention to what you encourage, what makes you happy, what gives you pleasure. Requiring no guarantees of implementation. You just notice what you like, radiate desire (desire as a source of energy, not as a program of the Mind "I want"), thank you for the opportunity of this experience. Perhaps, at first, doubts prevent you from experiencing this experience, be committed to the path and you will eliminate doubts (this is a test for the truth of desire), and after that only trust will remain - and then the desired experience.
Love yourself, as a part of the universe, the Universe does not care what you send there, but you are pleased)))! It's a joke, of course, and the Universe wins due to your joy and goodness, and the general state of the Universal energy changes. Therefore, love yourself, thereby contributing to the development of paradise on Earth))).
I would be grateful for your questions and proposed topics, with respect, Alena Ryabchenko.
