The magic of the tongue

[Carding 4 Carders]

"... Any sufficiently advanced technology is indistinguishable from magic ..." A. Clarke

Focuses of language are a verbal representation of thought processes that manifest themselves in communication, by focusing attention on certain aspects of the problem space.

Beliefs are what we believe to be true about ourselves and our relationship with the world around us. Our beliefs determine what we consider possible, impossible, necessary, or inevitable.

Limiting beliefs are beliefs that create filters based on erroneous assumptions or outdated assessments that were once valuable, but no longer correspond to grown-up individuals.

Beliefs, expanding opportunities (Expanding beliefs) - beliefs that allow a person to quickly respond to what is happening in life, to act in accordance with their criteria and values, to learn from diversity.

Using this distinction, we introduce the concepts of language foci, expanding the possibilities ("expanding" language foci), and language foci, narrowing the possibilities ("limiting" language foci).

Expanding Sleight of Mouth are patterns of verbal reframing and changing the frame of an utterance, expanding the scope of a person's capabilities, allowing him to act in accordance with his criteria and values, to learn from diversity.

The purposes of using the "expanding" focuses of the language:
1. Switching attention from the framework of the problem to the framework of the result.
2. Switching attention from the error frame to the feedback frame.
3. Switching attention from the frame of impossibility to the frame “as if”.

Elements of the basic strategy for applying transformational focuses of the language:
1. Assuming a positive intention underlying statements and beliefs and the values and criteria that support them.
2. Search for alternative, more acceptable and useful ways to satisfy these positive intentions.

Limiting "focuses of the language (Limiting Sleight of mouth) - patterns of verbal reframing and changing the framework of the statement, narrowing the scope of a person's capabilities, based on erroneous assumptions or outdated assessments that prevent him from learning.

Purposes of using limiting language tricks:
1. Switching attention from the framework of the result to the framework of the problem.
2. Switching attention from the feedback frame to the error frame.
3. Switching attention from the frame “as if” to the frame of impossibility.

Elements of a basic strategy for applying limiting language tricks:
1. Assuming negative intention underlying beliefs and supporting values and criteria.
2. Search for alternative, less acceptable and less useful ways to satisfy these intentions.

" Widening" tricks of language (the Expanding Sleight of mouth) - refreĭminga patterns of verbal and change the scope of the statements that extend the scope of vozmozhnosteĭ man, allowing him to deĭstvovat in accordance with its criteria and values, to learn from diversity.

Limiting beliefs are beliefs that create filters that are not useful for a person, since they are based on erroneous assumptions or outdated estimates that were once valuable, but now no longer correspond to grown-up individuals.

Purposes of using "expanding" language tricks

• Switching attention from the frame of the problem to the frame of the result.
• Switching attention from the error frame to the feedback frame.
• Switching attention from the frame of impossibility to the frame “as if”.

Elements of a basic strategy for applying transformational focuses of the language

1. Assuming a positive intention underlying limiting beliefs and the values and criteria that support them.
2. Search for alternative, more acceptable and useful ways to satisfy these positive intentions.

Tasks of using language tricks:
1. Creation of new connections, uniting generalizations and mental models of the world, and aspects that make up the megastructure of beliefs.
2. Changing the focus of a person's attention and expanding the space of problems to the space of possibilities.
3. "Conscious" mistakes, allowing to collect information about the mental model that supports the formulation of the statement (belief).

LANGUAGE FOCUS - INTENTION​

Purpose of using focus of language: Switching attention to the task or intention hidden behind the belief

Definitions: What is the positive purpose or intent of this belief?

Example:
- I will not do it, it is pointless.
- What I especially appreciate in your work is your awareness of actions and pragmatism. That is why I ask you to pay attention to this problem ...

Interrogative version: What do you want?

Shortened version: You want ...

Non-verbal markers of using the focus of the tongue -
Intention: the head is tilted, the upper body is pulled forward, the movement of the arms or hands forward with the palms open is directed towards the middle of the chest of the person being addressed (metaphorically “playing tennis”).

LANGUAGE FOCUS - OVERRIDING​

Purpose of using language focus: Replacing one of the words used in the formulation of a belief with a new word that means something similar, but endowed with a different connotation

Definitions: What word can replace one of the words used in the formulation of this belief in order to preserve the meaning of the statement, but give it a new positive connotation?

Example:
- I will not do it, it is pointless.
- If it really isn't rational, then you shouldn't do it. But let's look at the benefits ...

Interrogative version: Let's reformulate it not so harshly?

Shortened version: In other words ...

Non-verbal markers of using the focus of the tongue -
Redefinition: twisting movements with the hands (metaphorically "twisting taps").

LANGUAGE FOCUS - CONSEQUENCES​

Purpose of using the focus of language: Attention is directed to those positive or negative consequences of a given belief or the generalization it defines that will change or strengthen this belief

Definitions: What positive result can this belief or the relationship it defines?

Example:
- I will not do it, it is pointless.
- You know, this is a good way to justify your idleness

Interrogative version: What do you think this will lead to?

Shorthand: And this will lead to ...

Non-verbal markers of using the focus of the tongue -
Consequences: marking with gestures, body, gaze of the time line in space in the direction of the future (metaphorically "speaker on the podium").

LANGUAGE FOCUS - SEPARATION​

Purpose of using the focus of language: Changing or strengthening the generalization defined by the belief by breaking up the elements of the belief into smaller parts

Definitions: What are the smaller elements or constituents of a given belief, the relationships within which would be richer or more positive than the one that is determined by the belief?

Example:
- I will not do it, it is pointless.
- But you can familiarize yourself with the task, there is a rational grain ...

Interrogative version: Let's break it down in detail?

Shortened version: If you pay attention to ...

Non-verbal markers of using the focus of the tongue -
Separation: discrete movements with a hand or hands, marking a point in space (metaphorically - "put a point").

LANGUAGE FOCUS - COMBINING​

Purpose of using the focus of language: Generalization of a part of a belief to a higher level that allows you to change or strengthen the relationships determined by this belief

Definitions: What larger elements or components are contained in a given belief, the relationships within which would be richer or more positive than that determined by the belief?

Example:
- I will not do it, it is pointless.
- Everything that humanity has been doing for the past thousand years, by and large, is meaningless, but it allows us to somehow entertain ourselves ...

Interrogative: What is this part of? Shortened version: Generally ...

Non-verbal markers of using the focus of the tongue -
Unification: Rounded, symmetrical, expanding arms movements, the body straightens and symmetrically rounds out from the chest (metaphorically - "qigong").

LANGUAGE FOCUS - ANALOGY​

Purpose of using the focus of language: Finding a relationship that would be similar to that determined by a given belief and would question (or reinforce) the corresponding generalization.

Definitions: What relationship is analogous to one defined by a belief, but with a different connotation?

Example:
- I will not do this, it is pointless.
- It makes no sense to save drunks from the house, which they themselves set on fire, but this is what we will be doing ...

Interrogative version: What does it look like?

Shorthand: It looks like ...

Non-verbal markers of using the focus of the tongue -
Analogy: hands are stretched out to the addressee of the message, palms up (metaphorically - "my hands are clean").

LANGUAGE FOCUS - FRAME SIZE​

The purpose of using the focus of language: Re-evaluating (or strengthening) the subtext of a belief in the context of a different time frame, from the point of view of a larger number of people (or an individual), in a wider or narrower perspective.

Definitions: What time frame (longer or shorter), what is the change in the number of people involved in the situation, what breadth of perspective can change the subtext of a belief to a more positive one?

Example:
- I will not do it, it is pointless.
- If you were younger, the romantic that you came into the profession ... Interrogative version: And then? And before? And from the point vision?

Shortened version: Let's look at this in a larger (smaller, long-term) perspective ...

Non-verbal markers of using the focus of the tongue -
Changing the size of the frame: the hands move either from a small frame to a larger one, or vice versa - from a larger frame to a smaller one (metaphorically - “playing the accordion”).

LANGUAGE FOCUS - ANOTHER RESULT (CRITERION)​

Purpose of using the focus of language: Switching to another goal (other than the stated one, in a belief), in order to question (or justify) the timeliness of a given belief.

Definitions: What other outcome (or problem) might be more significant than the one involved in a given belief?

Example:
- I will not do it, it is pointless.
- It makes no sense ... yes! But I wonder, damn it!

Interrogative: What criteria could you use?

Shortened version: Let's talk about ...

Non-verbal markers of using the focus of the tongue -
Another result (criterion): designation by the body of a displacement to another position by moving the center of gravity, displacement of the body to the side with a slight rotation, marking criteria in space (spatial synesthesia) with hand gestures, while the criteria can be at different heights, at different levels (metaphorically - "Wing Chun").

LANGUAGE FOCUS - A MODEL OF THE WORLD​

The purpose of using the focus of the language: Reevaluation (or strengthening) of beliefs from the perspective of another model of the world.

Definitions: What model of the world would present this belief in a different perspective?

Example:
- I will not do it, it is pointless.
- You and I are soldiers of our company, and the soldiers have a duty and an oath ...

Interrogative version: Who is important to you? Shortened version: In terms of ...

Non-verbal markers of using the focus of the tongue -
Model of the world: fixing the frame around the opponent with vertically oriented palms (metaphorically - “fitting the frame”).

FOCUS OF LANGUAGE - STRATEGY OF REALITY​

Purpose of using focus of language: Re-evaluating (or strengthening) a belief based on the fact that beliefs are created through the cognitive process of perceiving the world.

Definitions: What cognitive processes are involved in creating a given belief?

Example:
- I will not do it, it is pointless.
- Reasoned, without hysterics, can you prove it?

Interrogative version: How did you know about it? Shortened version: Actually ...

Non-verbal markers of using the focus of the tongue -
Reality strategy: hands are fixed with palms down below the chest (metaphorically - "and now seriously").

LANGUAGE FOCUS - A CONTRADICT EXAMPLE​

Purpose of using language focus: To find an exception to the rule that would challenge (or enrich) the generalization defined by a given belief.

Definitions: What example or experience is an exception to the rule of a given belief?

Example:
- I will not do it, it is pointless.
- By and large, you're right, but, you know, there are processes that make sense as they start ...

Interrogative version: Was it different?

Shortened version: It happens in different ways ...

Non-verbal markers of using the focus of the tongue -
Opposite example: moving the head forward, chin tilting forward and slightly up (nod of the dove), neck sinking down in the collarbone region, pretentious movement of the hand (usually left) towards the opponent (metaphorically - "have you seen this? ").

FOCUS OF LANGUAGE - HIERARCHY OF CRITERIA​

Purpose of using the focus of language: Reevaluation (or strengthening) of a belief according to a criterion that outstrips any of those on which this belief is based.

Definitions: Which criterion is potentially more significant than those with which this belief is associated?

Example:
- I will not do it, it is pointless.
- It is much more important that there is funding!

Interrogative version: What is really more important to you?

Shortened version: Much more important is that ...

Non-verbal markers of using the focus of the tongue -
The hierarchy of criteria: straightening the body, marking with the head, body, gaze, hands (hand) upward movement in the space of the proposed hierarchy (metaphorically - "yoga").

LANGUAGE FOCUS - APPLICATION TO YOURSELF​

Purpose of using the focus of language: To evaluate the very formulation of a belief according to the relationship or criteria by that belief.

Definitions: How can a formulation of a belief be judged by the relationship or criteria it defines?

Example:
- I will not do it, it is pointless.
- To be honest, you just said it without thinking. Take your time, you sit down, comprehend the task, and then ...

Interrogative version: Do you meet your criteria yourself?

Shortened version: Let's evaluate what you say and do, according to your own words ...

Non-verbal markers of using the focus of the tongue -
Application to oneself: two options are possible - touching oneself or pointing a finger towards the interlocutor's chest (metaphorically, "have you signed up as a volunteer?").

LANGUAGE FOCUS - METAFRAME​

Purpose of using focus of language: Assessing a belief from a frame of continuous, person-centered context - creating a belief about a belief.

Definitions: What belief about a given belief can change or expand its perception?

Example:
- I will not do it, it is pointless.
- Eh, if only our actions would depend on our desires. And reality is more complicated ...

Interrogative version: Do the times do not change?

Shorthand: Previously (in a different context) this would actually be true ...

Non-verbal markers of using the focus of the tongue -
Metaframe: alternate fixation with the hands of small frames along the timeline - the past and the future (metaphorically - "shifting the frame").