Tomcat
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Such people turn any conversation into an argument in which they must certainly win. Why do they need it? And what if you notice this in yourself?
Low self-esteem
The need to prove your superiority usually hides the uncertainty that someone appreciates and loves you. It remains only to show off and prove to yourself and everyone around that you are smart, perceptive and generally know your own worth.
Fear of the unexpected
People who argue endlessly find it unbearable to let someone else speak. What if they hear something that will shake their picture of the world? The fear of being in limbo forces them to argue to the point of hoarseness, to seek support in their righteousness, albeit conditional.
The need to defend
If in childhood you were not given the opportunity to speak out, now the need to be right at all costs simply shows your need to avoid the feeling of that unpleasant childish subordination.
What to do?
- Learn to hear yourself at the moment when you are torn apart by the need to start proving your case. Stop, ask yourself, why do you need this? Is it really necessary?
- Learn to accept the opinion of another as it is. Realize this moment: “Yes, he has the right to think as he thinks. And I will remain unconvinced. Relax ".
- Work on your self-esteem. Independently or with a specialist.
Learning to communicate so that both you and the interlocutor are comfortable is really worth a lot of work on yourself.
Low self-esteem
The need to prove your superiority usually hides the uncertainty that someone appreciates and loves you. It remains only to show off and prove to yourself and everyone around that you are smart, perceptive and generally know your own worth.
Fear of the unexpected
People who argue endlessly find it unbearable to let someone else speak. What if they hear something that will shake their picture of the world? The fear of being in limbo forces them to argue to the point of hoarseness, to seek support in their righteousness, albeit conditional.
The need to defend
If in childhood you were not given the opportunity to speak out, now the need to be right at all costs simply shows your need to avoid the feeling of that unpleasant childish subordination.
What to do?
- Learn to hear yourself at the moment when you are torn apart by the need to start proving your case. Stop, ask yourself, why do you need this? Is it really necessary?
- Learn to accept the opinion of another as it is. Realize this moment: “Yes, he has the right to think as he thinks. And I will remain unconvinced. Relax ".
- Work on your self-esteem. Independently or with a specialist.
Learning to communicate so that both you and the interlocutor are comfortable is really worth a lot of work on yourself.
