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You do not apologize for no reason out of overwhelming politeness. Your desire is to please people. Even if you don't realize it, on a subconscious level, constant apologies are a sign of low self-esteem. After all, the word "I'm sorry" means that you have some kind of fault. Before you say it, think: what am I to blame?
What are you getting?
The funny thing is that by constantly apologizing, you not only do not make the impression that you expect to make, but also ... exacerbate the situation! Instead of sympathy for you, a person may feel annoyed: well, how tired he is with his apologies! Or even more contempt: if she is so cursing to me, then she really is nothing compared to me! Or, even worse, the person may suspect that you are really guilty of something. And if you say “I'm sorry” with a special intonation, as if you are offended or unhappy, your interlocutor may become confused or angry, suspecting you of manipulation.
How to stop apologizing all the time?
The habit of apologizing is very persistent, in order to get rid of it, for some time you will have to constantly monitor your words, catching the moment when “sorry” is about to break off your lips. Try to come up with a phrase that would replace the word "sorry." Most often, any other polite words will be appropriate:
"Excuse me, show me that handkerchief" - "Please show me that handkerchief."
"Sorry, move a little" - "Please, move."
Another good substitute is to express your intentions using an active self:
"Sorry, I should discuss" - "I wanted to discuss with you."
What are you getting?
The funny thing is that by constantly apologizing, you not only do not make the impression that you expect to make, but also ... exacerbate the situation! Instead of sympathy for you, a person may feel annoyed: well, how tired he is with his apologies! Or even more contempt: if she is so cursing to me, then she really is nothing compared to me! Or, even worse, the person may suspect that you are really guilty of something. And if you say “I'm sorry” with a special intonation, as if you are offended or unhappy, your interlocutor may become confused or angry, suspecting you of manipulation.
How to stop apologizing all the time?
The habit of apologizing is very persistent, in order to get rid of it, for some time you will have to constantly monitor your words, catching the moment when “sorry” is about to break off your lips. Try to come up with a phrase that would replace the word "sorry." Most often, any other polite words will be appropriate:
"Excuse me, show me that handkerchief" - "Please show me that handkerchief."
"Sorry, move a little" - "Please, move."
Another good substitute is to express your intentions using an active self:
"Sorry, I should discuss" - "I wanted to discuss with you."
