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Have you ever sat at a meeting and mentally asked yourself the same question: "Why do I have a small intestine?" Maybe you are being careful not to voice your thoughts out loud, or are you missing out on the chance to take the initiative so as not to regret your actions in the future?
When something annoys us at work, we often tend to cling to the routine and avoid risks.
When it comes to a personal idea of how and what should be said and done at work, almost all of us would not refuse to become at times even a little bolder in order to be able to express our opinion.
Whether it's a difficult but inevitable conversation, a negotiation where we have to defend our position, or an opportunity that must never be missed, being courageous in such situations does not mean the absence of fear, but the ability to overcome it.
But how to cope with fear if your mouth is dry, your palms are sweating, and your heart is pounding as if it is ready to immediately jump out of your chest?
What does it mean to have courage?
“We often associate courage with heroic behavior on the battlefield,” explains Margie Worrell, personal growth and development coach and bestselling author of overcoming fear. “In reality, each of us often has to show courage in different areas of ordinary daily life.”
Courage exists in spite of fear, well-understood risks and unpredictable results in advance.
Fortunately, the presence or absence of courage depends not only on innate qualities and personality traits. Researchers have come to believe that in the case of courage, we are dealing with a skill that can be developed through constant practice, just like going to the gym every day strengthens our muscles. “The more often we allow ourselves to be bold, the bolder we become,” says Margie Worrell.
In fact, what exactly can you do to make yourself feel a little bolder at work?
How to get braver?
The five tips below can help you deal with your fear:
Overestimate the risks
Often we tend to exaggerate the likelihood of an unfavorable development of events, while underestimating our own qualities and abilities, as well as not giving due importance to our own passivity. Ultimately, if something upsets us at work, we are more likely to cling to a routine rather than dare to take risks, even though inaction can cost us dearly. People tend to create their own distorted social reality that determines their behavior in society, so it makes sense to correctly assess the destructive consequences of refusing to act bravely.
Concentrate on your goals
It will be easier for you to overcome your fear if you have a wide-ranging outlook on your work and your life in general. Ask yourself, "Why do I go to work every day?" What exactly excites and inspires you? What risk are you willing to take in order to achieve your life goal?
Do not attach too much importance to other people's opinions.
Of course, we are often dependent on the opinions of other members of society, we like it when we are loved and supported, and we do not like it when we are censured, condemned and criticized for what we do. But by allowing other people to control our actions and deeds, we are simply giving control over our lives to someone else's hands. If you find it difficult to show your best at work and achieve important achievements because of your sensitivity to the opinions of others, it's time to tell yourself honestly about it and start taking control of yourself again.
Tame your inner critic
This weak voice that whispers in your ear: "you are not good enough", "you will put yourself in a stupid position", "you always disappoint everyone," belongs to your fear, which tries to protect you from emotional losses. Listen to what he says to you, tell him that although you have taken note of his concerns, you will in no way give up your plans. Of course, you are afraid of failing or finding out that things did not turn out quite the way you would like, at least you found the courage to try, which means that fear will not haunt you, leaving behind a feeling of regret and disappointment ...
Use failure to succeed
Instead of attributing your failure to your stupidity, lack of talent and lack of popularity, try to see it as one of the stages on the path to your success. Think, “I was trying to do something. I didn't get the result I expected. What can I take away for myself from this situation? What should I pay attention to in the future? "Any successful entrepreneur will tell you that he has experienced similar setbacks a thousand times in his life. For example, American inventor and entrepreneur Thomas Edison admitted that it took him 1,200 attempts to create a light bulb. Now imagine that he abandoned his experiments on the 1198 attempt, just feeling like a failure!
When something annoys us at work, we often tend to cling to the routine and avoid risks.
When it comes to a personal idea of how and what should be said and done at work, almost all of us would not refuse to become at times even a little bolder in order to be able to express our opinion.
Whether it's a difficult but inevitable conversation, a negotiation where we have to defend our position, or an opportunity that must never be missed, being courageous in such situations does not mean the absence of fear, but the ability to overcome it.
But how to cope with fear if your mouth is dry, your palms are sweating, and your heart is pounding as if it is ready to immediately jump out of your chest?
What does it mean to have courage?
“We often associate courage with heroic behavior on the battlefield,” explains Margie Worrell, personal growth and development coach and bestselling author of overcoming fear. “In reality, each of us often has to show courage in different areas of ordinary daily life.”
Courage exists in spite of fear, well-understood risks and unpredictable results in advance.
Fortunately, the presence or absence of courage depends not only on innate qualities and personality traits. Researchers have come to believe that in the case of courage, we are dealing with a skill that can be developed through constant practice, just like going to the gym every day strengthens our muscles. “The more often we allow ourselves to be bold, the bolder we become,” says Margie Worrell.
In fact, what exactly can you do to make yourself feel a little bolder at work?
How to get braver?
The five tips below can help you deal with your fear:
Overestimate the risks
Often we tend to exaggerate the likelihood of an unfavorable development of events, while underestimating our own qualities and abilities, as well as not giving due importance to our own passivity. Ultimately, if something upsets us at work, we are more likely to cling to a routine rather than dare to take risks, even though inaction can cost us dearly. People tend to create their own distorted social reality that determines their behavior in society, so it makes sense to correctly assess the destructive consequences of refusing to act bravely.
Concentrate on your goals
It will be easier for you to overcome your fear if you have a wide-ranging outlook on your work and your life in general. Ask yourself, "Why do I go to work every day?" What exactly excites and inspires you? What risk are you willing to take in order to achieve your life goal?
Do not attach too much importance to other people's opinions.
Of course, we are often dependent on the opinions of other members of society, we like it when we are loved and supported, and we do not like it when we are censured, condemned and criticized for what we do. But by allowing other people to control our actions and deeds, we are simply giving control over our lives to someone else's hands. If you find it difficult to show your best at work and achieve important achievements because of your sensitivity to the opinions of others, it's time to tell yourself honestly about it and start taking control of yourself again.
Tame your inner critic
This weak voice that whispers in your ear: "you are not good enough", "you will put yourself in a stupid position", "you always disappoint everyone," belongs to your fear, which tries to protect you from emotional losses. Listen to what he says to you, tell him that although you have taken note of his concerns, you will in no way give up your plans. Of course, you are afraid of failing or finding out that things did not turn out quite the way you would like, at least you found the courage to try, which means that fear will not haunt you, leaving behind a feeling of regret and disappointment ...
Use failure to succeed
Instead of attributing your failure to your stupidity, lack of talent and lack of popularity, try to see it as one of the stages on the path to your success. Think, “I was trying to do something. I didn't get the result I expected. What can I take away for myself from this situation? What should I pay attention to in the future? "Any successful entrepreneur will tell you that he has experienced similar setbacks a thousand times in his life. For example, American inventor and entrepreneur Thomas Edison admitted that it took him 1,200 attempts to create a light bulb. Now imagine that he abandoned his experiments on the 1198 attempt, just feeling like a failure!
