The world is full of manipulators. So many that one of them is yourself. Everyone in one way or another can be called a manipulator, because we want to achieve our goal and sometimes are ready to go to certain tricks for this. This article is intended to help you recognize the manipulation of not only others, but also your own.
The trick is that there is no clear definition system, otherwise we could instantly recognize the danger and avoid it. However, the more factors coincide, the more accurate the "diagnosis" will be.
We present to you ten tactics or models of behavior of manipulators, which are used both in conflicts and simply in ordinary life situations.
If you consider your kindness and sensuality to be strong traits, then the manipulator knows that he can use them for his own purposes.
And when they learn about your generosity, they will do everything possible to use you for their own purposes, not disdaining any means. Remember that the most generous resource is not money, but time.
Manipulators are often extremely irresponsible people who do not adhere to their duties. Therefore, in order to use others to solve their problems, they use their conscience.
From childhood, the manipulator notices one interesting feature in behavior: if you behave helplessly, look vulnerable and incapable, then close people will come to the rescue.
The manipulator throws in hints and covert insults, uses sarcasm and vulgarizes your values. Any information available to him is used in battle.
Their emotional immaturity leads to the fact that they desperately need people with the help of whom they will assert themselves.
Even when they are caught by the hand, he will still find a way to blame others for his actions.
Manipulators can take a large amount of your time, show up to a meeting uninvited, ask for money, create conflict situations on purpose, and disrespect your values. They do not care that they distracted you from important matters. Moreover, what important things can someone like you have?
Remember that the best way to counter a manipulator is to expose his manipulation and tell him about it directly. And then, without feeling guilty, refuse any request.
We wish you good luck!
The trick is that there is no clear definition system, otherwise we could instantly recognize the danger and avoid it. However, the more factors coincide, the more accurate the "diagnosis" will be.
We present to you ten tactics or models of behavior of manipulators, which are used both in conflicts and simply in ordinary life situations.
They hone their craft on your weaknesses
Manipulators are adept at finding the Achilles' heel and finding your weak, vulnerable spots. They will closely observe your behavior and will ask questions to discover any secrets or weaknesses.If you consider your kindness and sensuality to be strong traits, then the manipulator knows that he can use them for his own purposes.
They exploit your weaknesses and generosity.
Once the manipulator has found out everything about your weaknesses, he will be able to strike. He may secretly threaten or blackmail, implying that he has information that could humiliate you.And when they learn about your generosity, they will do everything possible to use you for their own purposes, not disdaining any means. Remember that the most generous resource is not money, but time.
They use guilt feelings
One of the most popular tactics:- "If you really care about me, you won't be leaving this weekend."
- "A real friend would come to me and help me clean my apartment."
Manipulators are often extremely irresponsible people who do not adhere to their duties. Therefore, in order to use others to solve their problems, they use their conscience.
They play the role of a victim
No matter what happens to you, you will never surpass the manipulator playing the role of the victim. Any problems you have are not comparable to his problems. In this case, the tactic of the victim is perfectly combined with the use of guilt. How dare you even think that your pain is even a little like his pain?From childhood, the manipulator notices one interesting feature in behavior: if you behave helplessly, look vulnerable and incapable, then close people will come to the rescue.
They distort the truth
Manipulators are masters of obfuscation and half-truths. They distort not only yours but also their own words in order to confuse and get things done. They deliberately omit important information or pretend to mean one thing when they actually mean something else:- "Oh, I didn't even know that you set a downright date for dinner."
- "You didn't say it was personal information."
They make tiny mines
It's amazing how skillfully they are able to piss off a person. The people around do not even notice it. If you get angry and start yelling at the manipulator, everyone takes his side, because he looks like a victim.The manipulator throws in hints and covert insults, uses sarcasm and vulgarizes your values. Any information available to him is used in battle.
They show childish reactions.
They become manipulators in childhood, so it is not surprising that their demeanor is childish. And in a bad way. They are more likely children-bullies with an admixture of narcissism.Their emotional immaturity leads to the fact that they desperately need people with the help of whom they will assert themselves.
They blame others
During the game of sacrifice, you cannot do without accusations. It is imperative to blame the person for their failures, failures and mistakes. The manipulator will point his finger at anyone, just not at himself.Even when they are caught by the hand, he will still find a way to blame others for his actions.
They do not understand and do not recognize boundaries.
Manipulators do not respect other people's boundaries. As long as they do not meet resistance, they will cross them and behave as they wish. Some people continue to do this even when they are told "Stop!"Manipulators can take a large amount of your time, show up to a meeting uninvited, ask for money, create conflict situations on purpose, and disrespect your values. They do not care that they distracted you from important matters. Moreover, what important things can someone like you have?
They are masters of triangulation
Manipulators love drama and often bring in friends, family, and work colleagues to contribute to it. They know how to intrigue, create rivalry, and make them jealous. Manipulators enjoy general chaos and awkwardness. They spread rumors and use other people to do it. In a word, they participate in many processes only indirectly.Remember that the best way to counter a manipulator is to expose his manipulation and tell him about it directly. And then, without feeling guilty, refuse any request.
We wish you good luck!
