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The character of a person, his attitude towards himself, towards people and work is formed, first of all, under the influence of loved ones. And the genes in our children are from dad and mom. And we ourselves choose the father and mother for our child. Therefore, I always tell my patients: "If you want to see the cause of your unhappiness, go to the mirror." But it is difficult to honestly look and evaluate yourself. For example, one mother tells me: "I am raising my son so that he grows up happy, successful, hardworking, self-confident - in general, a real man!" "Are you happy yourself?" - "No". - “Successful? Are you confident? "-" No "To top it off, it turned out that she was living with an alcoholic. The woman, like a draft horse, is harnessed to the family" cart "
The woman does not understand that she will not get to any bright "paradise". If she gets sick, family members, instead of sympathy, figuratively speaking, will lash her with a whip - there is no need to stand idle, move on! The worst thing in this situation is that she is unhappy and does not want another life - after all, then she will lose the feeling of her importance. In her soul, just imagine, she is proud of her heroic suffering, her friends, driven by life, sympathize with her. And now, such a woman, who often suffers from depression, scandals, and even her husband's fists, is sure that she will teach children to be happy and successful.
But words are taught only when they have a worthy example before their eyes. An eternally irritated mother, in the role of a cook and a dishwasher, and a dad, lying with a beer on the couch or showering his wife with reproaches, cannot be authorities for the child. Where do such children find authorities for themselves? Outside. And these are not always the most worthy people.
The character is formed by the age of 5-7 years, then it is refined, sharpening of some qualities and dulling of others. After 5-7 years, you can change only one person in the world. Guess who? Myself. But our children are in no hurry to change themselves, the notations of parents and teachers fly into one ear and fly out of the other. After all, from a weak study of food on their plate does not become less, jeans or a dress, a computer, a cell phone, gold jewelry bought by their parents do not evaporate.
A person, as a rule, begins to think about his behavior only when he is punished by life, and not by mom and dad. We try to protect our kids from any difficulties, doing school assignments for them first, then “otmazyvayu” from the army or profitably attaching a marriage, we are looking for a prestigious job for them. But none of this makes them happy.
They teach not words, but an example. It's funny to talk to your son or daughter about the dangers of smoking with a cigarette in your mouth or about the benefits of exercising when your best friend is the TV. Start with yourself. Stop being a tyrant or a servant for children. Tyrants are hated, servants are despised. Stop whining, scolding fate and others. And your child will grow up to be cheerful. If you are more interested in chatting with your friends for hours than spending time with children, then do not be surprised that your children are more interested in being in the virtual world of the Internet than with you. Children should see how parents hug and kiss each other, rather than throwing plates, cursing the day they met. In general, if you want happiness for your child, become happy yourself, and he will copy you.
Author: Sergey Levity
The woman does not understand that she will not get to any bright "paradise". If she gets sick, family members, instead of sympathy, figuratively speaking, will lash her with a whip - there is no need to stand idle, move on! The worst thing in this situation is that she is unhappy and does not want another life - after all, then she will lose the feeling of her importance. In her soul, just imagine, she is proud of her heroic suffering, her friends, driven by life, sympathize with her. And now, such a woman, who often suffers from depression, scandals, and even her husband's fists, is sure that she will teach children to be happy and successful.
But words are taught only when they have a worthy example before their eyes. An eternally irritated mother, in the role of a cook and a dishwasher, and a dad, lying with a beer on the couch or showering his wife with reproaches, cannot be authorities for the child. Where do such children find authorities for themselves? Outside. And these are not always the most worthy people.
The character is formed by the age of 5-7 years, then it is refined, sharpening of some qualities and dulling of others. After 5-7 years, you can change only one person in the world. Guess who? Myself. But our children are in no hurry to change themselves, the notations of parents and teachers fly into one ear and fly out of the other. After all, from a weak study of food on their plate does not become less, jeans or a dress, a computer, a cell phone, gold jewelry bought by their parents do not evaporate.
A person, as a rule, begins to think about his behavior only when he is punished by life, and not by mom and dad. We try to protect our kids from any difficulties, doing school assignments for them first, then “otmazyvayu” from the army or profitably attaching a marriage, we are looking for a prestigious job for them. But none of this makes them happy.
They teach not words, but an example. It's funny to talk to your son or daughter about the dangers of smoking with a cigarette in your mouth or about the benefits of exercising when your best friend is the TV. Start with yourself. Stop being a tyrant or a servant for children. Tyrants are hated, servants are despised. Stop whining, scolding fate and others. And your child will grow up to be cheerful. If you are more interested in chatting with your friends for hours than spending time with children, then do not be surprised that your children are more interested in being in the virtual world of the Internet than with you. Children should see how parents hug and kiss each other, rather than throwing plates, cursing the day they met. In general, if you want happiness for your child, become happy yourself, and he will copy you.
Author: Sergey Levity
