Shyness is the internal digestion of future awkwardness. Shyness is the ego's response to being shy and uncomfortable in the near future. In contrast to shyness - a person's tendency to painfully scrupulous about negative assessments of others at his expense, to fear of social interaction, shyness hides the ego's freaks about the upcoming event. It flows inside and up to a situation that is dubious from the standpoint of a false ego. Shyness is an external reaction to an unexpectedly unfavorable event, from which one would like to hide, if one knew about it in advance.
? How to get out of the shadows?
Initially, what should be done is to accept your shadow, hug it and understand that, in fact, it protects you, yes clumsily, yes you are cramped, but safe. There is no point in fighting the shadow. There is a sense, to learn - to manage it and use it for your own good.
Awareness of the origins of the appearance of shyness or shyness, and more often both. How easily can you cope with them with a strong-willed effort on your own, or is it better for you to seek help from a specialist, because the reasons require professional study?
? What can you do yourself?
Is there a standard of confidence within you, comparing yourself to which you hide in the shadow of emotional stress? When and how did your reference image of confidence come about? Are you sure that it is yours and not imposed from outside by someone? Why are you trying to fit yourself to the virtual image? Maybe it would be much wiser to accept yourself as you are, with all your characteristics?
Fear of being rejected at the base of both shyness and shyness. Fear can become your true friend if you are aware of its signals - what are you afraid to learn?
Try to comprehend what exactly in yourself you do not accept or reject or want to hide from others? What happens if you let it be in you?
Imagine this in your thoughts first, then try to transfer your vision into the reality of communicating with people.
What should you learn? Comprehend your development zone.
Add a touch of detachment and gentle humor to yourself. Make fun of your shyness and shyness. Accept them easily, without stress, without condemning yourself for such qualities, but perceiving their presence as a springboard for further improvement.
Make a list of resources for yourself - your successful scenarios for interacting with people, confident behavior, relaxation in companies, business situations. Remember your sensations, emotions, feelings corresponding to your confidence, soak in, be filled with them.
Plan activities in which you can confidently behave, practice the image of your confident interaction in various situations.
The significant point is that you should not expect quick effects and results. Habitual response patterns don't break down as quickly as we would like.
Practice until you get a beautiful result that evokes the light of joy within you. Let the light of joy become your guide for getting out of the shadow of ego games - shyness.
? How to get out of the shadows?
Initially, what should be done is to accept your shadow, hug it and understand that, in fact, it protects you, yes clumsily, yes you are cramped, but safe. There is no point in fighting the shadow. There is a sense, to learn - to manage it and use it for your own good.
Awareness of the origins of the appearance of shyness or shyness, and more often both. How easily can you cope with them with a strong-willed effort on your own, or is it better for you to seek help from a specialist, because the reasons require professional study?
? What can you do yourself?
Is there a standard of confidence within you, comparing yourself to which you hide in the shadow of emotional stress? When and how did your reference image of confidence come about? Are you sure that it is yours and not imposed from outside by someone? Why are you trying to fit yourself to the virtual image? Maybe it would be much wiser to accept yourself as you are, with all your characteristics?
Fear of being rejected at the base of both shyness and shyness. Fear can become your true friend if you are aware of its signals - what are you afraid to learn?
Try to comprehend what exactly in yourself you do not accept or reject or want to hide from others? What happens if you let it be in you?
Imagine this in your thoughts first, then try to transfer your vision into the reality of communicating with people.
What should you learn? Comprehend your development zone.
Add a touch of detachment and gentle humor to yourself. Make fun of your shyness and shyness. Accept them easily, without stress, without condemning yourself for such qualities, but perceiving their presence as a springboard for further improvement.
Make a list of resources for yourself - your successful scenarios for interacting with people, confident behavior, relaxation in companies, business situations. Remember your sensations, emotions, feelings corresponding to your confidence, soak in, be filled with them.
Plan activities in which you can confidently behave, practice the image of your confident interaction in various situations.
The significant point is that you should not expect quick effects and results. Habitual response patterns don't break down as quickly as we would like.
Practice until you get a beautiful result that evokes the light of joy within you. Let the light of joy become your guide for getting out of the shadow of ego games - shyness.
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