Self-sabotage

[Teacher]

The comfort zone is a habitual situation of inner self-awareness that has developed over the years. This does not mean that everything is fine in this zone ... no, rather, it is familiar. Familiar and painfully familiar fears, problems, beliefs. With whom we feel quite calm and predictable.

But with active advancement in any area of life (in our case, this is active improvement and growth), uncertainty, instability and uncertainty inevitably arise. That is, you want to move, but it's scary. Here, at the junction of these "wants" and "scary", self-sabotage arises.

In fact, these are those fears, internal frameworks and limitations that we are not aware of, but at the same time have a strong impact on our life.

It is necessary to distinguish self-sabotage from:
- lack of energy (physical fatigue);
- lack of mental strength (emotional experiences).

In these cases, rejection of any activity is simply an objective reality, a consequence of overload.

Self-sabotage is different in that we can, but do not want to do certain actions. This is an unconscious and sometimes illogical behavior that moves us away from the result.

Self-sabotage can manifest itself:
- postponing "for later", lack of time;
- in search of the reasons why you “do not need” or you “cannot” do it;
- in the mass of "urgent matters";
- in the desire to be distracted by tea / internet / tv, etc.;
- in the desire to fall asleep right in the process);
- in the desire to sleep longer / more often / for no reason;
- in ailments, colds;
- in the "absence" of money for this;
- in self-pity;
- in a sharp loss of interest, etc.

As a result, the process does not move, and you become more and more disappointed in yourself and your self-discipline.

Why is it dangerous?

We cultivate dissatisfaction with ourselves, we spend our valuable energy on it. But more importantly, we are starting to lose integrity. An "I" appears that is lazy, and an "I" that observes this and calls for responsibility. And in such a confrontation there will be no winner - this is only a soil for complexes and experiences.

What to do?

First, understand that self-sabotage is not the enemy, it is part of us. And the fact that it manifests itself is good! This is another bell that signals an internal conflict. The mere fact that we discover this conflict and bring it to the surface is half the way to success!

See the fears

1. Without negativity, just accept this fact as it is. Accept the self-sabotage process.

2. Determine what exactly causes self-sabotage. Ask yourself the question: "What is the most important thing in my spiritual development for me now?" Most likely, this is the reason for self-sabotage.

3. Ask yourself the question: "What bad (terrible, terrible) can happen if I do this?" And write a list of all that will rise from within in response to this question. You don't have to think long. Usually the most important thing comes up immediately.

Pay attention here to the fears of being rejected, misunderstood, strange, unloved. Most often this is an echo of past incarnations, when for active spiritual and energetic development we were made outcasts or burned at the stake. An echo that raises many negative memories inside, but the main thing is the fear of death.

Look at this and tell me - are you still afraid to die for spiritual practices? How relevant is it in our time? Is this fear necessary (to ensure your survival) or is this attribute deprecated and can be removed?

4. Look at your fears - that's what you really need to work on. Perhaps some of them will seem ridiculous to us. One way or another, this is what hinders our further development. And this needs time!

5. Let's go back to the main process that we are sabotaging. We need to break it down into small steps and take the very first and smallest step immediately! We may need a lot of the first small steps while we work with the reasons for sabotage)

If we sabotaged our creativity, we need to take a step towards its development; if we sabotaged the practices - right now, do a pleasant meditation or just breathe out your fear. If we sabotaged life changes, staying at the unloved job - start taking steps towards the best for ourselves!

And constantly listen to yourself - what is there inside that prevents you from going forward?

- Before starting a business that triggers the process of self-sabotage, it is important to recall the reasons for this sabotage again. To realize that since it arises in this direction, then most likely - this is what we most need and need at this stage of our evolution. With these positive and inspiring thoughts, you can get down to business!

Just be

And here is an excerpt from a recent dialogue in contact with the beautiful Julia, which, in fact, inspired me to update this article:

“… I really have fears and doubts, but even more, it seems to me, I have misunderstandings in the spirit of“ who I am, what I am, why am I here ”. It seems to me that if I clearly knew what to do, what is truly "mine", everything would have developed easily and by itself by inspiration. I will try to listen to myself ... And I would also like to understand what threatens me with "going with the flow", what will happen if I do not make attempts to improve myself and my life? What happens if I never arrive at my destination? Will I "stay for the second year" and go through these lessons again?) "

The best answer to “why I am and what to do with it” is simply to be, just to shine, because you are shining. The very desire to know oneself says that on the planet we are a co-worker of Light. And it is well said in the Kryon messages that it doesn't really matter what we do. It is important how we do it, how we anchor our Light on the planet.

We can bake pies, or we can conquer Everest, but the important thing is that we are and we are the Light! When such an understanding comes, then everything calms down, the race for “I don't know what” is gone, since the essence is not in achievements, but in being. To be. Be not in doubt, but in a state of joy.

WE ARE, AND WE CAN CHOOSE ANYTHING, DO ANYTHING. WE ARE, AND THIS IS THE MOST IMPORTANT.

And the quality of our "is" - that's what depends on us and that's what is important. There is a force that understands and realizes the importance of its Light and presence on the planet as an old soul. Or there is one who is constantly engaged in self-flagellation and doubts. This is also well written by Cora Antarova in the book "Two Lives". Someone flutters in the wind and goes out constantly, while someone shines powerfully and evenly. What do you choose?

Let's return to the desire for feats, to this feeling that we owe something. To a large extent, this is the work of the mind, which starts from the inner urge to self-knowledge. But it is the mind that turns this beautiful, magical process of remembering yourself into a race for results.

If you calm down and find joy in the ability to just be, the heart, Anahata, appears! It is then that you begin to share the joy of being, smiles, light. Share through creativity, work, communication. And the beauty of this journey is that the destination is not tied to a specific type of activity. It is tied to the joy and happiness that you bring through whatever activity you choose today!

Sabotage is always a vacation from active action, whether it be spiritual practices or a decision to change your life. This is not condemned from above, it is just our choice for a certain period of time. And this process, no matter how it may seem, allows us to understand the value of a conscious choice - when we are finally ready to stand up and do something beautiful, valuable, really in joy and in love!