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1) Often we do not want to accept some parts of our personality, and therefore we know our strengths only from the weak side.
Write down the qualities (weaknesses) of yours that you are trying to cope with. Take your time - take your time. And then to each point - the opposites of these qualities.
2) Next, I suggest that you rank this list of opposites in order of importance for you.
There is a simple way for this: write out each item from the list of opposites on a separate piece of paper. Then a little ritual - slowly tear each piece of paper, realizing - that by tearing it - you refuse to have this point in your life.
Track - which of the pieces of paper your hand does not rise to tear.
P / S - try to be honest with yourself - leave intact only those pieces of paper that will really be difficult to tear.
3) Track the sensations of your body during the exercise
4) A bit of theory: We spend a lot of energy on creating in ourselves what is socially inspired (alien at a particular stage of life for our personality, but at the same time widespread and cultivated in the society around us).
We are unique for our unique combination of the strengths and weaknesses of our personality, and - my observation, which has not yet been refuted, is the first thing from which the harmonization of a person and coping with difficult life situations begins: with self- acceptance. To put it in one phrase: "Our weaknesses are our strength." End of theory.
The next (penultimate) part of the exercise (according to the list on which the HAND DOESN'T RISE
5) A descriptive portrait of the girl who respectfully and lovingly accepted these needs of hers - opposites to which the hand did not rise - and does everything to satisfy them: a descriptive portrait is done from the third person (as if looking from the side )
P / S. I am giving the female version of the technique (using questions in the lexical form addressed to a woman, but everything written is true for men as well)
Before composing a descriptive portrait, a few important points:
- It is just for you (you don't need to share it, but you can - to enhance the effect of acceptance, and only when you are ready to share it and not earlier)
- Answer all questions honestly - from the position of the girl who has the opportunity to be herself and do what she wants, react the way she wants
- All questions are essential - answers to them are obligatory, the more complete the better. The required time is at least an hour. By and large, this will start the process, but I would recommend taking a whole day for reflection and an honest answer.
1) What is her name
2) What she likes to work with; does she like to work alone, in a team, from home, with or without a boss
3) What does she like to do in her free time, how she spends it
4) What places does she like to be
5) With people of what kind of character she likes to communicate
6) How much time does she devote to sleep, rest
7) What are her hobbies, hobbies
8) what clothes does she like to wear
9) What colors does she prefer
10) What kind of environment and interior does she like
11) How she likes to express her feelings and emotions
12) What prefers ways of learning new things, what does she want to learn, what does she like to learn
13) What kind of sex does she like and what kind of men
14) How does she feel about money; how much money does she need to feel good
15) Which she prefers: stability or change
16) Does she like to give or receive gifts; prefers to listen or give compliments
17) What occupations does he prefer: active or passive; contemplative or constructive. Does she like to combine.
18) What beauty and health treatments does she like
19) What kind of music does she like to listen to, what books to read, what films to watch
20) What does she allow herself not to do
21) What she will allow and allow herself to escape from
22) what her shortcomings she gives indulgence
23) How she reacts when she is given loneliness; how will it be used
24) How does she react when she is given complete freedom; how will she use it
25) How she allows herself to react to injustice
26) Whom she will allow herself not to trust, and to whom she will allow herself to be trusted
27) How she allows herself to endure pain, resentment, fear
28) What emotions does she allow herself
29) what is she afraid of
30) what is most important to her in people
31) what she believes
32) What supports and strengthens her
33) How old does she want to live
34) What awaits her after death
35) what is the meaning of life for her
36) what she really wants to believe
37) What would she ask the Higher powers
38) What would she throw out of her life: what people, what things, what events
39) What would she keep and cherish in her life: what people, what things, what events
40) Which character (movies, books) resembles her the most
I would like to add, if, when completing a task, you want to feel sad, cry or feel sorry for yourself - this is normal. You can safely afford it and not feel remorse at the same time. Accepting your emotions and allowing them to be is one of the very important moments of a healthy psyche. You have great potential, but it is very individual and will definitely not be similar to the potential of another person. And this applies to everyone.
You can take your time - take as much time as you need
6) So: the final part of the exercise.
It is called - a message to itself:
You have a description of the part of you that you could not refuse - to break. And this is very good !!!
In peace and quiet, find an opportunity for yourself to write a letter to this part of yourself. You can experience any emotions, including crying or, on the contrary, feel relief)))
The content can obey the impulse of the soul, but I will give for example:
My dear, / name /! Thank you for being with me and doing such an important job for me, which allows me to preserve my uniqueness and originality. I allow you to have your weaknesses and shortcomings and at the same time appreciate your strengths as you list what is most valuable in this part. I really want to make friends with you in order to allow all your best qualities to be revealed. I am ready to cooperate with you and accept you in all your diversity and allow myself and you to be imperfect, make mistakes, learn from them and get pleasure from this cooperation and see in it the potential for development and self-realization. I treat your name with love and respect, as you helped me overcome many life situations. I need those resources
It is very important to choose words that are sincere and resonant in you.
In order to thank this part of you, allow her and herself to be themselves, ask her for cooperation, assistance and resources. It contains hidden access to your most powerful resources, capabilities, to your uniqueness and identity. Create a dialogue situation with her, make her your assistant and guardian angel.
Save this message, firstly - it will be a resource for you, and secondly, the dialogue can be continued.
Afterword:
Through the steps of this technique, we gain access to the unconscious layer of our aspirations (steps 1-3). Further, we train our consciousness to establish contact with that part of our inner mind, which - regardless of your desire - seeks to realize these your needs, though often not in the best way. These needs contain a powerful supply of energy and motivation, which we turn to in step 6 of the technique.
Write down the qualities (weaknesses) of yours that you are trying to cope with. Take your time - take your time. And then to each point - the opposites of these qualities.
2) Next, I suggest that you rank this list of opposites in order of importance for you.
There is a simple way for this: write out each item from the list of opposites on a separate piece of paper. Then a little ritual - slowly tear each piece of paper, realizing - that by tearing it - you refuse to have this point in your life.
Track - which of the pieces of paper your hand does not rise to tear.
P / S - try to be honest with yourself - leave intact only those pieces of paper that will really be difficult to tear.
3) Track the sensations of your body during the exercise
4) A bit of theory: We spend a lot of energy on creating in ourselves what is socially inspired (alien at a particular stage of life for our personality, but at the same time widespread and cultivated in the society around us).
We are unique for our unique combination of the strengths and weaknesses of our personality, and - my observation, which has not yet been refuted, is the first thing from which the harmonization of a person and coping with difficult life situations begins: with self- acceptance. To put it in one phrase: "Our weaknesses are our strength." End of theory.
The next (penultimate) part of the exercise (according to the list on which the HAND DOESN'T RISE
5) A descriptive portrait of the girl who respectfully and lovingly accepted these needs of hers - opposites to which the hand did not rise - and does everything to satisfy them: a descriptive portrait is done from the third person (as if looking from the side )
P / S. I am giving the female version of the technique (using questions in the lexical form addressed to a woman, but everything written is true for men as well)
Before composing a descriptive portrait, a few important points:
- It is just for you (you don't need to share it, but you can - to enhance the effect of acceptance, and only when you are ready to share it and not earlier)
- Answer all questions honestly - from the position of the girl who has the opportunity to be herself and do what she wants, react the way she wants
- All questions are essential - answers to them are obligatory, the more complete the better. The required time is at least an hour. By and large, this will start the process, but I would recommend taking a whole day for reflection and an honest answer.
1) What is her name
2) What she likes to work with; does she like to work alone, in a team, from home, with or without a boss
3) What does she like to do in her free time, how she spends it
4) What places does she like to be
5) With people of what kind of character she likes to communicate
6) How much time does she devote to sleep, rest
7) What are her hobbies, hobbies
8) what clothes does she like to wear
9) What colors does she prefer
10) What kind of environment and interior does she like
11) How she likes to express her feelings and emotions
12) What prefers ways of learning new things, what does she want to learn, what does she like to learn
13) What kind of sex does she like and what kind of men
14) How does she feel about money; how much money does she need to feel good
15) Which she prefers: stability or change
16) Does she like to give or receive gifts; prefers to listen or give compliments
17) What occupations does he prefer: active or passive; contemplative or constructive. Does she like to combine.
18) What beauty and health treatments does she like
19) What kind of music does she like to listen to, what books to read, what films to watch
20) What does she allow herself not to do
21) What she will allow and allow herself to escape from
22) what her shortcomings she gives indulgence
23) How she reacts when she is given loneliness; how will it be used
24) How does she react when she is given complete freedom; how will she use it
25) How she allows herself to react to injustice
26) Whom she will allow herself not to trust, and to whom she will allow herself to be trusted
27) How she allows herself to endure pain, resentment, fear
28) What emotions does she allow herself
29) what is she afraid of
30) what is most important to her in people
31) what she believes
32) What supports and strengthens her
33) How old does she want to live
34) What awaits her after death
35) what is the meaning of life for her
36) what she really wants to believe
37) What would she ask the Higher powers
38) What would she throw out of her life: what people, what things, what events
39) What would she keep and cherish in her life: what people, what things, what events
40) Which character (movies, books) resembles her the most
I would like to add, if, when completing a task, you want to feel sad, cry or feel sorry for yourself - this is normal. You can safely afford it and not feel remorse at the same time. Accepting your emotions and allowing them to be is one of the very important moments of a healthy psyche. You have great potential, but it is very individual and will definitely not be similar to the potential of another person. And this applies to everyone.
You can take your time - take as much time as you need
6) So: the final part of the exercise.
It is called - a message to itself:
You have a description of the part of you that you could not refuse - to break. And this is very good !!!
In peace and quiet, find an opportunity for yourself to write a letter to this part of yourself. You can experience any emotions, including crying or, on the contrary, feel relief)))
The content can obey the impulse of the soul, but I will give for example:
My dear, / name /! Thank you for being with me and doing such an important job for me, which allows me to preserve my uniqueness and originality. I allow you to have your weaknesses and shortcomings and at the same time appreciate your strengths as you list what is most valuable in this part. I really want to make friends with you in order to allow all your best qualities to be revealed. I am ready to cooperate with you and accept you in all your diversity and allow myself and you to be imperfect, make mistakes, learn from them and get pleasure from this cooperation and see in it the potential for development and self-realization. I treat your name with love and respect, as you helped me overcome many life situations. I need those resources
It is very important to choose words that are sincere and resonant in you.
In order to thank this part of you, allow her and herself to be themselves, ask her for cooperation, assistance and resources. It contains hidden access to your most powerful resources, capabilities, to your uniqueness and identity. Create a dialogue situation with her, make her your assistant and guardian angel.
Save this message, firstly - it will be a resource for you, and secondly, the dialogue can be continued.
Afterword:
Through the steps of this technique, we gain access to the unconscious layer of our aspirations (steps 1-3). Further, we train our consciousness to establish contact with that part of our inner mind, which - regardless of your desire - seeks to realize these your needs, though often not in the best way. These needs contain a powerful supply of energy and motivation, which we turn to in step 6 of the technique.
