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A person's value is not in his achievements
They say that life without a goal is meaningless. Without clear plans, time is wasted, and so days go by, and then years. But recently a movement has emerged whose members, on the contrary, are sure that planning their lives is harmful. Let's talk about this in more detail.
The banker playing the drum
Those who try not to look into the future usually cite the example of Stephen Shapiro's book, Life Without Goals. Their main argument: following the plan, a person may miss the most interesting, and the result will never bring the desired pleasure (this is what a third of the psychologist surveyed complained about).
In the long-standing Soviet film "The Scandalous Incident at Brickmill," a bank employee who lives strictly according to the schedule suddenly starts doing what he wants: buying toys for himself, playing the drum, does not go to work. For the first time, he feels joy and is charged with energy, but those around him consider him insane. Of course, those who do not want to live "according to calculation" do not call to abandon all affairs and sink to the bottom. Taking care of finances for them is the same "trifle of life" as brushing their teeth: they must be performed, but "on the machine." Also, we are not talking about endless parties and entertainment - they do not energize, but quite the opposite, lead to devastation.
It is believed that true joy comes from anything that seems exciting, passionately desired and necessary.
You do not plan in detail a date with your loved one if you burn out with a desire to see him?
Often what should bring success in the future is contrary to today's desires. For example, to build muscle, you need to regularly work out in the gym. And if you want to take a walk at this time? Take a walk! And go to the gym when you are sure that you will enjoy visiting it.
Compass or map?
Steven Shapiro compares the plans to a map, where the drawn straight paths are safe, but rather boring. And focus only on interests - with a compass that allows you to walk as you want, from time to time remembering the right direction.
So is it time to throw up the diaries? There are no winners in this dispute, since both styles of life are suitable only for a part of people. Most adherents of spontaneity have a right-brain type of thinking, that is, they are able to do several things at the same time, perceive information holistically and do not like to divide it into main and secondary. But for left-hemispheric people such "free swimming" brings only discomfort. For them, only a sense of perspective is important, their self-esteem increases self-discipline, overcoming difficulties. If such a person during the vacation is aimed at rest "on a whim", without clear plans, he will get bored. So decide for yourself what you are more comfortable thinking about - the present or the future. In the first case, a "compass" is enough; in the second, a "
Secrets of a life without goals from Stephen Shapiro
1. Don't be afraid to get lost.
There are no right and wrong decisions in life. To go somewhere to the side, to make a detour - there is nothing wrong with that. Even a seemingly wrong turn is your chance to gain new experience.
2. Look for good opportunities.
Always be prepared for new options for action that may arise where you do not expect them at all, and even more so you do not plan. A life without plans helps you not to miss the chance to achieve something.
3. Appreciate not what will be, but what you already have.
Enjoy the moment. Think of your tit in your hands, not a pie in the sky. Love yourself here and now, and not in fantasies, the way you want to see sometime. Understand that a person's worth is not in their accomplishments.
4. Look for adventure.
A life without a purpose is not a way to indulge in idleness, but a chance not to miss out on a rich and varied experience. Therefore, do not miss the opportunity to see and experience something new: cities, hobbies, positions, people. Every day gives you new opportunities to make small discoveries.
5. Don't think about the result.
The goal in the future is emotionally addictive, because you are constantly determined to achieve a result. Its absence can cause depression. But after all, a person is not always given to take many bars, although he can handle everything. Another thing is to do what you can quit as soon as you feel like it. Aimless actions are akin to the behavior of a child who constantly changes occupation, not thinking why he is doing it, and is usually cheerful. You are simply filled with energy for new things.
On my own behalf, I just want to add that both types of lifestyles have every right to exist, since in reality everything is relative, and what works for one will not necessarily be effective for the rest, due to personal preferences, individual awareness, touch, understanding, assigning to each aspect of being their personal shades / significance, and so on and so forth. Moreover, in my opinion, these two directions should even be combined, just focus on different levels. Planning and setting goals are very important, only they should be concerned mainly with career goals or some priority activity, what you strive to achieve in the first place. For example, you have a goal, but in order for it to be realized you need to work on this and that every day (week, every other day, on certain days, etc. ) in order to complete such and such a volume of purposeful work by the end of the week, and by the end of the month already such and such and, eventually, sooner or later, come to the "destination"; the primary task of planning is to schedule the priority tasks and their subsequent implementation on this list in a certain time frame.
But it is categorically undesirable to see your goal and aim at a certain scenario, according to which everything supposedly should happen, within some imaginary framework. You have a goal and a plan of action, so be guided by their implementation. For the rest, just give it a chance to happen. After all, you do not know exactly which turn you will be successful. Perhaps he is much closer or much more significant than you imagine him to be. Also, do not force yourself (unless it really gives you satisfaction) to plan every other aspect of your life. Know how to enjoy it and wait with anticipation for what will happen there in a new turn. Good luck!
P.S. Although, you know, we will die anyway)
They say that life without a goal is meaningless. Without clear plans, time is wasted, and so days go by, and then years. But recently a movement has emerged whose members, on the contrary, are sure that planning their lives is harmful. Let's talk about this in more detail.
The banker playing the drum
Those who try not to look into the future usually cite the example of Stephen Shapiro's book, Life Without Goals. Their main argument: following the plan, a person may miss the most interesting, and the result will never bring the desired pleasure (this is what a third of the psychologist surveyed complained about).
In the long-standing Soviet film "The Scandalous Incident at Brickmill," a bank employee who lives strictly according to the schedule suddenly starts doing what he wants: buying toys for himself, playing the drum, does not go to work. For the first time, he feels joy and is charged with energy, but those around him consider him insane. Of course, those who do not want to live "according to calculation" do not call to abandon all affairs and sink to the bottom. Taking care of finances for them is the same "trifle of life" as brushing their teeth: they must be performed, but "on the machine." Also, we are not talking about endless parties and entertainment - they do not energize, but quite the opposite, lead to devastation.
It is believed that true joy comes from anything that seems exciting, passionately desired and necessary.
You do not plan in detail a date with your loved one if you burn out with a desire to see him?
Often what should bring success in the future is contrary to today's desires. For example, to build muscle, you need to regularly work out in the gym. And if you want to take a walk at this time? Take a walk! And go to the gym when you are sure that you will enjoy visiting it.
Compass or map?
Steven Shapiro compares the plans to a map, where the drawn straight paths are safe, but rather boring. And focus only on interests - with a compass that allows you to walk as you want, from time to time remembering the right direction.
So is it time to throw up the diaries? There are no winners in this dispute, since both styles of life are suitable only for a part of people. Most adherents of spontaneity have a right-brain type of thinking, that is, they are able to do several things at the same time, perceive information holistically and do not like to divide it into main and secondary. But for left-hemispheric people such "free swimming" brings only discomfort. For them, only a sense of perspective is important, their self-esteem increases self-discipline, overcoming difficulties. If such a person during the vacation is aimed at rest "on a whim", without clear plans, he will get bored. So decide for yourself what you are more comfortable thinking about - the present or the future. In the first case, a "compass" is enough; in the second, a "
Secrets of a life without goals from Stephen Shapiro
1. Don't be afraid to get lost.
There are no right and wrong decisions in life. To go somewhere to the side, to make a detour - there is nothing wrong with that. Even a seemingly wrong turn is your chance to gain new experience.
2. Look for good opportunities.
Always be prepared for new options for action that may arise where you do not expect them at all, and even more so you do not plan. A life without plans helps you not to miss the chance to achieve something.
3. Appreciate not what will be, but what you already have.
Enjoy the moment. Think of your tit in your hands, not a pie in the sky. Love yourself here and now, and not in fantasies, the way you want to see sometime. Understand that a person's worth is not in their accomplishments.
4. Look for adventure.
A life without a purpose is not a way to indulge in idleness, but a chance not to miss out on a rich and varied experience. Therefore, do not miss the opportunity to see and experience something new: cities, hobbies, positions, people. Every day gives you new opportunities to make small discoveries.
5. Don't think about the result.
The goal in the future is emotionally addictive, because you are constantly determined to achieve a result. Its absence can cause depression. But after all, a person is not always given to take many bars, although he can handle everything. Another thing is to do what you can quit as soon as you feel like it. Aimless actions are akin to the behavior of a child who constantly changes occupation, not thinking why he is doing it, and is usually cheerful. You are simply filled with energy for new things.
On my own behalf, I just want to add that both types of lifestyles have every right to exist, since in reality everything is relative, and what works for one will not necessarily be effective for the rest, due to personal preferences, individual awareness, touch, understanding, assigning to each aspect of being their personal shades / significance, and so on and so forth. Moreover, in my opinion, these two directions should even be combined, just focus on different levels. Planning and setting goals are very important, only they should be concerned mainly with career goals or some priority activity, what you strive to achieve in the first place. For example, you have a goal, but in order for it to be realized you need to work on this and that every day (week, every other day, on certain days, etc. ) in order to complete such and such a volume of purposeful work by the end of the week, and by the end of the month already such and such and, eventually, sooner or later, come to the "destination"; the primary task of planning is to schedule the priority tasks and their subsequent implementation on this list in a certain time frame.
But it is categorically undesirable to see your goal and aim at a certain scenario, according to which everything supposedly should happen, within some imaginary framework. You have a goal and a plan of action, so be guided by their implementation. For the rest, just give it a chance to happen. After all, you do not know exactly which turn you will be successful. Perhaps he is much closer or much more significant than you imagine him to be. Also, do not force yourself (unless it really gives you satisfaction) to plan every other aspect of your life. Know how to enjoy it and wait with anticipation for what will happen there in a new turn. Good luck!
P.S. Although, you know, we will die anyway)
