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We know very well that negative emotions inhibit the will to live. We make a lot of efforts to improve our mood, sometimes by force. But it turns out that these repressed, difficult emotions banished from our lives carry important information about our needs. For example, it is bad when someone suffers. But suffering can mean learning receptivity, empathy and empathy.
We experience some negative emotions almost daily. And we consider their manifestation to be evidence of a low inner culture, a lack of character or a great sin. Here, a new approach is proposed in relation to emotions: not fighting, but deliberately working with them.
It is enough to change your point of view. We will replace the punitive and militant life position with the position of an attentive and respectful attitude towards ourselves. We will treat our emotions calmly and carefully, we will learn to recognize the reactions of our body. Then we will be able to understand what unresolved internal problems our emotions signal to us.
After all, each of them is associated with a specific deep need, which we may not be aware of.
Let's learn not to deal with emotions, but to determine their cause. Hence, it is better to understand yourself. When we determine the reason provoking the release of negative energy, we will be able to satisfy our true aspirations, which we often do not suspect. At the same time, the reason for the emergence of negative emotions will go away. And we will also be able to change our lives for the better.
So, determine what true desires are behind your emotions.
Anger. If you don't get what you want, unconsciously (instinctively) you can evoke a feeling of anger in yourself in order to force the other person to submit to you. So being angry helps you to take control of the situation. Anger helps to gain the upper hand in an argument, even out the score, and avenge your failures. Anger can also be used to defend your rights. With the help of anger, we make the enemy understand that he must retreat. Being angry with ourselves can be a way to force ourselves to do something, to take on a job, or to take on a job that we fear. Anger can also be a trigger for action (going on a diet, for example). Or a way to punish yourself for failure.
Sadness, longing. This is our way of expressing dissatisfaction with ourselves, with our achievements. And also a way to respond to your frustration with other people or situations. It can also be a form of compassion. You sympathize that something has happened to someone, and with sadness you express your attitude, your reaction.
Irritation. This is a mild form of anger. It appears when someone's behavior provokes and makes you nervous. Serves as a demonstration of dissatisfaction, stopping something that bothers us. Helps us end stagnation and motivate ourselves to take action. In all cases, the desire to take control of the situation lies behind the irritation. Those. we get annoyed when things are not done the way we said.
Guilt. This is a form of punishing yourself. Sometimes it helps us avoid responsibility for our mistakes. Yes, I feel guilty, I confess, and nothing else needs to be done. Sometimes the feeling of guilt is a form of superiority: I am so highly developed that I even suffer about my wrong actions. The feeling of guilt is a very destructive emotion, it signals that something needs to be changed in oneself. We need to figure out where it came from: it was imposed on us by upbringing and, therefore, for no reason, or we really did something unsightly. Then you need to analyze the reason for the act, sincerely forgive yourself and promise that this will not happen again. It will be good if we compensate for the damage or apologize to those we have offended.
Disappointment. Designed to show displeasure in situations where we don't get what we want.
Fear or anxiety. These emotions are associated with the instinct for self-preservation. Their task is to protect us, to prevent dangerous situations. Fear "paints" pictures of unpleasant surprises and obstacles, our failure, bankruptcy. But his task is not to interfere with you, but to help: to warn about the danger, to show the real situation, to point out where the pitfalls can lurk, so that we are ready for difficulties. Therefore, it is unwise to ignore fear and go ahead. And worry can be a premonition. It is worth finding a grain of reason in these emotions. Then they reverse polarity, energize us, and propel us to action.
Despair. It appears when repeated attempts and efforts to achieve something did not bring the desired results. Despair is deep discouragement that “gives us the right” to give up further attempts.
Apathy. This is a delicate, weak form of rebellion against something. As a rule, they are shown by those who do not have the strength or ability to rebel openly. Passive display of strength and disagreement.
Despondency. Indicates that you must allow yourself to take a break from activities. Or there is a persistent inner need to give up something. Perhaps you are just tired.
Let this be your first lesson when you don't explode instinctively. And let the information received serve as an occasion to look deep into oneself with curiosity and love.
Our emotions are closely related to our basic instincts. Therefore, by our reaction to a stimulus, we can easily determine which basic need is not satisfied. Our outbursts of anger or tears in every situation indicate our sore spot. By suppressing negative emotions, we drive the problem inward. This destroys our health, our relationships with others, and, ultimately, our lives. When we realize our deepest needs, we can realize them. And our life will be full, meaningful, bring us satisfaction and joy.
We experience some negative emotions almost daily. And we consider their manifestation to be evidence of a low inner culture, a lack of character or a great sin. Here, a new approach is proposed in relation to emotions: not fighting, but deliberately working with them.
It is enough to change your point of view. We will replace the punitive and militant life position with the position of an attentive and respectful attitude towards ourselves. We will treat our emotions calmly and carefully, we will learn to recognize the reactions of our body. Then we will be able to understand what unresolved internal problems our emotions signal to us.
After all, each of them is associated with a specific deep need, which we may not be aware of.
Let's learn not to deal with emotions, but to determine their cause. Hence, it is better to understand yourself. When we determine the reason provoking the release of negative energy, we will be able to satisfy our true aspirations, which we often do not suspect. At the same time, the reason for the emergence of negative emotions will go away. And we will also be able to change our lives for the better.
So, determine what true desires are behind your emotions.
Anger. If you don't get what you want, unconsciously (instinctively) you can evoke a feeling of anger in yourself in order to force the other person to submit to you. So being angry helps you to take control of the situation. Anger helps to gain the upper hand in an argument, even out the score, and avenge your failures. Anger can also be used to defend your rights. With the help of anger, we make the enemy understand that he must retreat. Being angry with ourselves can be a way to force ourselves to do something, to take on a job, or to take on a job that we fear. Anger can also be a trigger for action (going on a diet, for example). Or a way to punish yourself for failure.
Sadness, longing. This is our way of expressing dissatisfaction with ourselves, with our achievements. And also a way to respond to your frustration with other people or situations. It can also be a form of compassion. You sympathize that something has happened to someone, and with sadness you express your attitude, your reaction.
Irritation. This is a mild form of anger. It appears when someone's behavior provokes and makes you nervous. Serves as a demonstration of dissatisfaction, stopping something that bothers us. Helps us end stagnation and motivate ourselves to take action. In all cases, the desire to take control of the situation lies behind the irritation. Those. we get annoyed when things are not done the way we said.
Guilt. This is a form of punishing yourself. Sometimes it helps us avoid responsibility for our mistakes. Yes, I feel guilty, I confess, and nothing else needs to be done. Sometimes the feeling of guilt is a form of superiority: I am so highly developed that I even suffer about my wrong actions. The feeling of guilt is a very destructive emotion, it signals that something needs to be changed in oneself. We need to figure out where it came from: it was imposed on us by upbringing and, therefore, for no reason, or we really did something unsightly. Then you need to analyze the reason for the act, sincerely forgive yourself and promise that this will not happen again. It will be good if we compensate for the damage or apologize to those we have offended.
Disappointment. Designed to show displeasure in situations where we don't get what we want.
Fear or anxiety. These emotions are associated with the instinct for self-preservation. Their task is to protect us, to prevent dangerous situations. Fear "paints" pictures of unpleasant surprises and obstacles, our failure, bankruptcy. But his task is not to interfere with you, but to help: to warn about the danger, to show the real situation, to point out where the pitfalls can lurk, so that we are ready for difficulties. Therefore, it is unwise to ignore fear and go ahead. And worry can be a premonition. It is worth finding a grain of reason in these emotions. Then they reverse polarity, energize us, and propel us to action.
Despair. It appears when repeated attempts and efforts to achieve something did not bring the desired results. Despair is deep discouragement that “gives us the right” to give up further attempts.
Apathy. This is a delicate, weak form of rebellion against something. As a rule, they are shown by those who do not have the strength or ability to rebel openly. Passive display of strength and disagreement.
Despondency. Indicates that you must allow yourself to take a break from activities. Or there is a persistent inner need to give up something. Perhaps you are just tired.
Let this be your first lesson when you don't explode instinctively. And let the information received serve as an occasion to look deep into oneself with curiosity and love.
Our emotions are closely related to our basic instincts. Therefore, by our reaction to a stimulus, we can easily determine which basic need is not satisfied. Our outbursts of anger or tears in every situation indicate our sore spot. By suppressing negative emotions, we drive the problem inward. This destroys our health, our relationships with others, and, ultimately, our lives. When we realize our deepest needs, we can realize them. And our life will be full, meaningful, bring us satisfaction and joy.
