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One of the common mistakes people make is the tendency to make too many commitments, which leads to frustration over time. Life is a huge buffet of enticing options, but if you put too much on your plate, you will have indigestion. In life, just like at a buffet, you can try whatever you want, but don't do it at the same time.
Yes, prioritizing is not an easy task. But, as the saying goes, “if you don’t learn to find life priorities, someone else will do it for you”. Talking about Priorities with the book Why Didn't Nobody Tell Me This At 20? Intensive to find yourself in this world."
The Rule of Three
One approach comes down to choosing three priorities at any time, with the understanding that they will change when your life changes. This concept is not new. For example, the "Rule of Three" has long been considered a principle of the US Marine Corps. Through years of trial and error, the military has discovered that most people are capable of doing just three things at a time. As a result, the entire military system is built on this principle: a squad leader commands three fire group commanders, a platoon leader commands three squad leaders, and each company consists of three platoons. The military experimented with the Rule of Four, but it turned out to be less effective.
I need and don't want
Another way is to look at your to-do list, dividing it by what to do and what you want to do.
• It's easy to say yes to what you need and want to do, such as going to a close friend's wedding.
• It's easy to say no to things that you don't have to and don't want to do, such as going to a meeting that is not directly related to your work.
• It is necessary to say "yes" to those things that need to be done, although you do not want to, for example, fill bills or take out the trash.
• The most difficult decisions are about what you want but don't have to do. Sometimes the prospect is so tempting that you may end up saying yes, even if it takes a lot of time.
Lack of time ≠ lack of interest
It’s important to learn to say no when deep down you know you don’t have time, even if the opportunity is extremely attractive. The author of such a proposal can write a letter with the following content: “Thank you very much for the great opportunity. I would very much like to take part in this, but it does not work out. And please do not in any way interpret lack of time as lack of interest. "
This short message emphasizes how highly you value the invitation and opens the door to future collaboration, as well as helps you stay focused on the things that matter most without being distracted by the brilliant and engaging.
Limiting multiple priorities can be frustrating, but it avoids the tyranny of the word or (when you have to choose between different things). For example, when time is running out, say, the deadline for an important project comes, you put the rest aside.
Take Fern Mandelbaum, she is a venture capitalist. It is reasonable to assume that a business woman conducts all business meetings in the office. However, Fern is actually an avid athlete, so if anyone wants to discuss a new project with her, he must be ready to go to a strenuous workout. Each of her acquaintances knows that it is better to go to a meeting in sneakers and with a bottle of water. Fern said this negotiation method is a great way to identify potential funding targets and enjoy the fresh air and sports at the same time.
Prepared from the book “Why didn't anyone tell me this at 20? Intensive to find yourself in this world."
Yes, prioritizing is not an easy task. But, as the saying goes, “if you don’t learn to find life priorities, someone else will do it for you”. Talking about Priorities with the book Why Didn't Nobody Tell Me This At 20? Intensive to find yourself in this world."
The Rule of Three
One approach comes down to choosing three priorities at any time, with the understanding that they will change when your life changes. This concept is not new. For example, the "Rule of Three" has long been considered a principle of the US Marine Corps. Through years of trial and error, the military has discovered that most people are capable of doing just three things at a time. As a result, the entire military system is built on this principle: a squad leader commands three fire group commanders, a platoon leader commands three squad leaders, and each company consists of three platoons. The military experimented with the Rule of Four, but it turned out to be less effective.
I need and don't want
Another way is to look at your to-do list, dividing it by what to do and what you want to do.
• It's easy to say yes to what you need and want to do, such as going to a close friend's wedding.
• It's easy to say no to things that you don't have to and don't want to do, such as going to a meeting that is not directly related to your work.
• It is necessary to say "yes" to those things that need to be done, although you do not want to, for example, fill bills or take out the trash.
• The most difficult decisions are about what you want but don't have to do. Sometimes the prospect is so tempting that you may end up saying yes, even if it takes a lot of time.
Lack of time ≠ lack of interest
It’s important to learn to say no when deep down you know you don’t have time, even if the opportunity is extremely attractive. The author of such a proposal can write a letter with the following content: “Thank you very much for the great opportunity. I would very much like to take part in this, but it does not work out. And please do not in any way interpret lack of time as lack of interest. "
This short message emphasizes how highly you value the invitation and opens the door to future collaboration, as well as helps you stay focused on the things that matter most without being distracted by the brilliant and engaging.
Limiting multiple priorities can be frustrating, but it avoids the tyranny of the word or (when you have to choose between different things). For example, when time is running out, say, the deadline for an important project comes, you put the rest aside.
Take Fern Mandelbaum, she is a venture capitalist. It is reasonable to assume that a business woman conducts all business meetings in the office. However, Fern is actually an avid athlete, so if anyone wants to discuss a new project with her, he must be ready to go to a strenuous workout. Each of her acquaintances knows that it is better to go to a meeting in sneakers and with a bottle of water. Fern said this negotiation method is a great way to identify potential funding targets and enjoy the fresh air and sports at the same time.
Prepared from the book “Why didn't anyone tell me this at 20? Intensive to find yourself in this world."
