NLP: Six-Step Reframing

[Teacher]

Problem type: Bad habits, self-sabotage, Bad habits

Six-Step Reframing is an NLP template that proceeds from the premise that all behavior is out of conscious control. You want to stop or change your behavior, but you are unable to do so. You can also use this pattern in a situation where you are trying to do something, but your actions are blocked. In both situations, your behavior is blocked at an unconscious level and cannot be deliberately changed, otherwise you would just do what you want without thinking about it. The fact that you cannot consciously change the behavior is a sign that it brings you a secondary benefit - this behavior gives you something important that you do not want to lose. However, positive intention and secondary benefits are unconscious.

Negative habits, consistent incongruence, physical symptoms, psychological blocks, and secondary benefits can be modified by applying six-step reframing and looking for positive intention, and then you can find another way to satisfy that intention, more congruent, more environmentally friendly, and more in line with your personality.

Six-step reframing leads to another major change - it takes you to a higher logical level and connects behavior with intent, rather than trying to change behavior by staying at the same level.

The beauty of six-step reframing is that it can be carried out on an absolutely unconscious level, the consciousness does not have to look for answers, and the standard will still be effective. Six-Stage Reframing uses metaphors for parts of your being - that is, a part of your personality is holding back the desired change. This part requires respect and reframing.

Six stages

1. Identification of the problem.

A problem - for example, smoking, nail biting, anxiety, pain and discomfort for no apparent physical reason - is usually expressed like this: “I want to do this, but something is stopping me ..,” or “I don't want to do this, but why I continue to do the same ... ".

2. Establishing a connection with that part of your personality that is responsible for such behavior.

Look deep into your own mind and try to make contact with this part of it using signals that you can understand on a conscious level. Say something like, "Is it the part of me that is responsible for the behavior that is signaling to me?" Listen, try to see or feel this signal. When you receive the signal, thank the part that answered you and ask if it is in the affirmative. You should receive the same signal. If it doesn't, keep asking until you get a signal that you can consciously evaluate. If you have not received any signal, continue anyway - assume that there was a signal, but you were not sensitive enough to recognize and evaluate it.

3. Identify the positive intent for the part and separate it from the unwanted behavior.

Ask a part of your personality if it is ready to express its own positive intention. If you receive an affirmative signal in return, allow the positive intention to manifest and become clear to you. A surprise may await you. What value is a part of yourself trying to give you through unwanted behavior? If you receive a negative intent, such as “I don't want you to feel fear,” start grouping the information in ascending order until the intent is positively expressed, such as “I want you to feel safe.” Separate positive intention from unwanted behavior. You may not like the behavior itself, but the intent behind it may be worthy of respect. Thank the part that responded to you for clarifying its positive intent. If you have not received a signal and are not sure of a positive intention, build your own guess and move on to the next step. A positive intention must be present - your unconscious is not stupid enough not to have it. Any behavior carries a positive intention.

4. Ask the creative part of yourself to generate new behaviors that can fulfill your positive intention.

Each of us has a creative and resourceful origin. This part, as a rule, is unconscious, because it is very difficult to create by order, almost impossible - it is like showing spontaneity by order. Go deeper into yourself and ask your creativity to come to the surface and offer you three behaviors that might otherwise satisfy your positive intention. Ask that these options are not worse, but only better than the original behavior (otherwise you will find yourself in a vicious circle from which there will be no way out). Ask the creative mind to let you know about their decision and thank them. Creativity can unconsciously communicate its plans to you, but for the process to be effective, you do not need to know them.

5. Reach agreement with the part of yourself that was responsible for the unwanted behavior. Suggest that she replace her behavior with one of the creative options.

This is a peculiar form of a step into the future. Ask directly if you really want to use the new choice. You should receive a positive signal. If it doesn't, you can either go back to Stage 4 and build new options, or assume that part of your personality agreed with the choice you made.

6. Environmental verification.

Once you become aware of new behaviors, imagine using them in the future. Imagine watching a movie in which you behave in a new way. What do you feel?

Do you understand the options or not, ask yourself: "Does another part of me object to the new behavior?" Be sensitive to any new signals that might indicate that the choices you make are not sustainable. If you get a signal like this, step back to step four and do additional consultation with the creative mind, asking them to come up with new options that would satisfy the part of your mind that is opposing you and at the same time correspond to a positive intention. Check the new options for any objections.

 

[CarderPlanet]

NLP: internal resource management​

Hello everyone!
Today we will discuss the topic of internal resources with you! I write in the hope that you understand in advance what internal resources are (confidence, resilience, calmness, anger, etc.)

NLP has this formula:
problem + resource = solution or problem is not a correctly formulated solution!

If there is a problem, then to solve it, all that remains is to gain access to internal resources. And now more about how to do it.

1) Visualize (identify) a situation in which you need resources and want to behave differently.
For example, you are embarrassed to approach and meet a person, or your knees tremble before a public speech, or you need to approach the authorities, or face off with a girl, or you want to tell a joke and suddenly realize that you have “Forgotten” all 300 anecdotes that you read last night ...

2) Then we enter the chosen situation, associate with it, as if it is happening now (imagine that you are merging with it) and take a “freeze frame”.
What you see, hear, what emotions you show, perhaps you smell ... And as soon as you have achieved the maximum possible re-experiencing of the event, find sensations in the body that correspond to this event. Usually these sensations, expressed in the form of tingling, constriction, etc., are located in the chest or abdomen, but can be in any area of the body.

In this case, these sensations do not need to "materialize", to determine their size, color ... It is also necessary to clearly understand that these sensations correspond to the situation being worked out. As soon as this awareness has arisen, observe for some time the sensations in the body, transfer your attention to them and ask yourself the question: “Where does the feeling of my“ I ”arise within me, or rather even the feeling of“ I am in this situation ”? The "I" image can be in any part of the body: abdomen, back of the head, heels ..., sometimes even outside the body. (If you have failed to define sensations in the body or the image of "I", or both, then use the principle "as if". If they were, then what, or where they would be).

3) Further, while performing the psychotechnique of access to internal resources, project this image onto the screen in front of you. That is, draw a screen in your imagination and transfer everything to it.
Let the image be what it will be. It can be both metaphorical and symbolic. Don't try to deliberately design it. Evaluate at what distance it is, what size, color, its proportions in relation to other people, objects. Feel whether you like it or not. Then move it at arm's length, make it the size of yourself. And transform it so that you like it. Give him the qualities that you would like him to have, even if you cannot afford these qualities in life. If necessary, change its color, pose, you can illuminate it from behind with the rising sun ... Give preference to "what you like", not "may it be or not."
And when this image will completely satisfy you, when you feel that it is "exactly that", let it in, or take a step forward and enter it. Merge with him in any convenient way and pay attention to your new feelings.
It is possible to determine where the new sensation of "I" now arises in the body. Now re-enter the original situation and allow it to unfold with a new image of you. For example, the primary scenario was as follows: you go to the boss's office to tell him everything you think about him and come back without finding the strength to do so. And what would you do then if you were with the newly created image of "I"?

 

[Brother]

NLP: contract of the parts of a person​

Hello villains! I will tell you that there are a lot of different personalities living in us and what to do about it !! Consider a “crowd of people” living inside us and everyone wants something. The result of the fact that they want something - may result in an internal contradiction, from this it is impossible to manipulate, it is impossible to professionally (specifically) lie and generally get what we want!
And in general, in order to manage people efficiently, you need to understand yourself very well! Otherwise they will rule you!

Examples of simple contradictions:
Something is needed from a person, but you think that he is an asshole
I have to do work, I want to rest.
I have to get up, I want to sleep some more.
I need to go in for sports, I want to lie on the couch.
The struggle of such opposites is often explained by laziness, and leads to procrastination.

To solve this problem, I give you the technique
Consider the example of the contradiction "I need to write an article, I want to watch a movie" (This is exactly what I am doing and I am in such a contradiction)
Even if you overpower yourself and go to the computer (open a text editor) and start working, you will constantly be tempted to the TV (window with a movie). And as you continue to watch the movie, you begin to struggle with the need to work. And so in a circle. And, in the absence of real effort, and even violence against yourself, most likely you will remain in front of a window with a movie.
The purpose of this technique is to remove contradictions and allow you to freely and naturally perform "must" and enjoy "I want".
For simplicity and clarity, we will introduce the concept of “Part of the Personality”. This is a purely conditional concept (although many will argue with this ... for example, Billy Miligan, whom D. Keys described so well).
And one part of the personality will be responsible for "I must", and the other for "I want." And since both of them exist only within us, then all processes with them, or over them, are within our competence.
We will also introduce the concept of "Intention" - a positive inner striving. In general, this positive intention is fundamental to NLP.
Now we will describe the interaction of the two parts. The first, "must", says: you need to write this article, it will allow you to raise your level of education, complete the task of leadership, achieve success in the project, receive additional payment, and so on.
The second, “I want,” answers: I'm tired, I have to switch, I have been waiting for this film for so long, I already wrote an article yesterday, if I watch the film, I will have nothing to discuss with my colleagues.
And whatever intention you would not begin to implement, the second will be against it, will start to “take offense”.

So, the technique itself.
1. Define a contradiction. We formulate it, find out who is interfering with whom. It should be noted that the technique only works if the two parts of the personality interfere with each other mutually.
Calibrate the physiology for each part.
2. Give names and find out the intentions of the intentions of the parts. Let in our case it will be "Work" (necessary) and "Leisure" (I want)
Imagine each part in a sensory system. It is most convenient to use your hands for this: place these parts in different hands. Feel which images, sounds, or kinesthetic sensations are associated with each part.
3. Ask each part to describe your opponent, pay attention to the physiology. We find out if the other part is interfering with her. Both answers must be positive for the technique to succeed.
4. Determine a positive intention for each part. And make sure that each part understands the positive intent of the other, and that their contradictions get in the way of achieving those goals.
In our case, for "Work" - the fastest completion of the task, for "Leisure" - getting new emotions from the film. And by realizing one goal, we undoubtedly postpone the fulfillment of another.
Determine the overall positive intent of these parts.
In this case, this is undoubtedly inner harmony, the fulfillment of both parts will lead to an awareness of the accomplished duty, relieve anxiety and the ability to move on to the following goals.
5. Perform these stages (search for common positive intentions) until the relationship of the parts ceases to be conflicting, and the submodalities of their representation become one pattern. For the case of "Work" and "Leisure" it is the fulfillment of a common positive intention. Sensory confirmation can be, for example, the possibility of a delicious dinner in a relaxed atmosphere.
6. Agreement. Offer the hands, and with them the conflicting parts, to agree and unite into one part of the personality. Rate if you like the new look. Integrate this new part into yourself. Realize that integration is not about compromise or denial.
7. Checking for future situations. Imagine a dissociated situation as you watch the next movie and write the next article (for example, after three days). Are you satisfied with the result. If you have any disagreements, go back to points 1-6.
8. Environmental verification. Determine if there are other parts that could be interfered with by the contract. For our case, this part may be, for example, the need to allocate time to communicate with the child or the need to walk the dog. Repeat the technique if necessary.
For all the seeming simplicity of the technique, it works. Behind an almost playful form, you analyze and work out internal factors leading to a problem situation, develop an acceptable strategy of behavior and remove internal contradictions.
I will also note, since the article has been written, and the film has not been watched (yet), the technique works