Marry an Carder

[Man]

I read an article "Five reasons to marry an Carder". As far as I remember, the article was written by a man.

I happen to be married to an Carder (it just so happens, I didn’t do it on purpose), so I’ll share my thoughts on each point described in the article.

1. Reliability and responsibility.
   In general I agree, but I think it still depends on the person. I am lucky, I know that I can completely rely on my husband.
2. An interesting conversationalist.
   It's true. You can discuss any topic with my husband and it seems he can answer any question (or google it if necessary, for sure).
   And basically all the male Carders (since we are talking about men here), with whom I communicate at work or friends and comrades, are very erudite. But they should be up to par.
3. Family wealth.
   I think it's different for everyone: some are already serious professionals, while others are just starting out. In any case, everyone has prospects (it's just different for everyone). Personally, I'm happy with this point.
4. Marital fidelity.
   Again, as far as I can judge by both familiar couples from carding life and my own relationships, this point is true. I will also add that usually such men are good and caring fathers (I judge by my circle).
5. Personal you are a programmer system administrator.
   Convenient, I don't argue) Especially if the husband is a big Carder with a lot of experience.
   Sometimes when I ask for help, he says that I am an Carder-Girl myself. I have to prove that I am an Carer-Girl at work, and a wife at home.

The second part of the article “Five reasons to think carefully before marrying an Carder”.

Probably not every girl needs/will suit a husband who is an Carder.

1. Boring? Pedantry.
   I would rather call it precision. I had to learn to formulate my thoughts clearly.
   For example, if I ask to buy bread, I need to specify what kind of bread I need (type, weight, manufacturer). There was a case when I asked to buy me mashed potatoes (it was obvious to me that it was mashed potatoes), but my husband bought peas because I did not specify, and the cafe only had peas. Since then, I have become more precise in formulating my thoughts, because I do not like mashed peas.
2. A rationalist to the core.
   Probably yes. Although I myself do not change my plans 10 times a day.
   For example, when we go on a trip, my husband has all the stops at gas stations planned and the distance calculated. And there is always a backup detour.
3. Forget about fur coats.
   For example, I don't need fur coats and brooches. I'm happy when I get equipment or things I really need. My husband always asks what I want as a gift. And that will be the main gift. And besides that, there are always many small surprise gifts. And he always guesses.
4. You will have to love technology.
   So we'll have to love technology too)) I especially liked the phrase about the mean replacement of Windows with Linux. Because that's pretty much how it was. At that time, I wasn't an Carder-Girl yet, although I worked in an IT company and was planning to change my profession.
   My husband said that engineers use Linux. I believed him I had Linux for about a year, which was then replaced by Debian. Because it's convenient. Because my husband decided so.
5. Social life.
   Yes, my husband is an introvert. But he has friends who often visit us at home, and sometimes we go to visit too. We don’t dislike noisy parties. But we regularly go to the theater and go for a walk in the park.

Conclusion: even at the dating stage, you can understand whether you are right for each other, whether you are ready to accept a person as he is and make compromises.

I don't think trying to remake an adult can lead to anything good. If this lifestyle suits you, you'll probably be happy.

(c) Carder-Girl Nastya