Loop of consciousness

[Carding 4 Carders]

Imagine a situation: you meet your friend. He asks you, for example: "Have you seen the new film, what's on the poster?" You are going to answer that yes, I did. But you are in a great mood, so the short answer “Yes, I saw” is not implied.

You immediately remember the fascinating story of your trip to this film.

The story is as follows: you just wanted to watch a movie, then N's friend called, you met, and on the way she broke her heel, while a big dog chased you, and you heroically saved N all the way to the cinema. They got to the cinema, I liked the film, there were no dead or wounded.

Having formulated this model in your head, you begin to speak.

- Look, this is a funky story. I've wanted to see something new for a long time. But then work, then just laziness - well, like everyone else, you know. And then suddenly - a call: "We haven't seen each other for a long time, let's go to the cinema!" N. is calling. Well, N, you know her: her dad was also a police colonel. When you and I - do you remember - after Katka's birthday, the department accepted, he pulled us out. He was so tall, he still had gray hair not all over his head, but only on the right. They say that he did not pass the recertification - he did not want to give money to anyone. Now he is in charge of the private security. Like Sasha's dad. Have you seen him for a long time, by the way? ..

That's it, the loop has spun and you strangled your interlocutor with it. Even if you return to the initial conversation, your comrade will have to be reminded: "We were distracted: we were talking about cinema." But you have wasted time and energy wasted. In addition, they confused the interlocutor and confused themselves.

Now let's look at a picture of wondrous beauty. Point A is the beginning of your movie talk. Point Z is the ending that you originally planned to come to. Point B is the place where you lost your way and went to zigzag. And, probably, you will not reach point Z already.

Why is this happening?​

Speaking about something, we can recall either clarifying details or some parallels, and it seems important to us to mention them. (They are also known as "Shcha, shcha, or I'll forget"). And there is even this type of speaker - "Chatterbox". He knows a lot, and considers it necessary to tell a lot of nuances and details on the way to the goal. Such a person is Wikipedia: until you find the article you need there, read the history of the stool, the conquest of Latin America and the history of the island of Vanuatu. And here it is - alive ...

The problem is that very few people are ready to perceive such amount of information at any time. And the more the loop is twisted, the more difficult it is for the dialogue participants to keep the initial topic in their heads.

On the other hand, the Loop of Consciousness is not an abstract curved line that leads the conversation to nowhere, and still implies a return to the original point B. So you have to remember where you left off. And remind the interlocutor.

And if you didn't start the loop, then there is still a chance to hear the ending: remind your friend where you left off. At the same time, show yourself to be an attentive and interested listener - and this is worth a lot.

How to be?​

It is best, of course, not to allow any loops. Even the little ones.

1. Every utterance has a purpose. Until you reach it - do not dodges and do not make "lyrical digressions". If you already had to get away from the topic - apologize, explain the reason for leaving the path and come back as soon as possible before the tea has cooled down.

2. The main thing is to keep the main idea in your head so that you can deduce it. Have taken out - in a nutshell remind the interlocutor "a summary of the previous chapter."

3. Protection against loops is also in short. When you speak in succinct and simple sentences, you may not need any explanations or “going into the distance” at all.

Now the dark side of the Force​

The loop of consciousness is an excellent tool for diverting the topic. It can be used quite deliberately. Only the technique here is already different: you need to speak quickly enough, emotionally, brightly. It is advisable to simultaneously "load" as many channels of perception of the interlocutor as possible: they showed him something, touched him, and all this in the process of a speech attack.

Well, if someone uses such a tool against you deliberately, immediately stop contact with this person. If a break is impossible, try not to listen to the speech and react to everything a little slower than usual. So you protect the brain from stressful "overheating", maintain a certain clarity of consciousness, and therefore the ability not to give yourself offense.