How to skillfully convince a person

[Lord777]

When you talk about matters of interest to you, people often suspect you of self-interest and doubt the veracity of your speeches. This is a normal manifestation of human instinct.

To avoid the interlocutor's mistrust of you, I suggest using the following technique: you do not prove anything directly, but instead refer to the words and assessments of other people. And let them not be around at this moment.

For example, you persuade a person to rent your apartment, but he is worried if the environment is calm. Then you can mention that the former tenant appreciated the quietness of this place.

If you are asked how durable this phone is, you can say, "My third grader son has been using this one for 3 years now and the phone is still in excellent condition."

Instead of actively proving, you tell about the experience of other, "disinterested" persons, bring stories, facts, statistics. And it increases the credibility of your words.

 

[CarderPlanet]

How to convince anyone

Use powerful words
Just imagine you need to sell someone an auto insurance service. You can of course say that there are thousands of accidents or accidents on the roads every day. But it is better to construct a phrase differently: "Every day thousands of people die on the roads" or "Every day thousands of accidents end in death."

Death is a stronger word than chance.

Try to look dignified, but not arrogant.

Nice appearance is good, but it can do a disservice. The danger is this: the person who is dressed better than the others feels strength and often begins to behave condescendingly. And this is repulsive.

Remember that the one you are trying to convince is a priori superior to you: he has the right to say no. So try to look good, but not look better than others.

Focus on the future
First, phrases like “We will” or “We will do this” entrenched in the mind of a person the idea that this will actually happen. Second, future tense constructs give him confidence that you will keep the promise and will not abandon it.

But here you need to know when to stop. Don't be too annoying and don't make a decision for someone else. Instead, focus on the possibilities and positive effects of this decision.

Choose a suitable communication channel
If you want to persuade someone, you need to make the conversation itself comfortable for the interlocutor. Therefore, find out exactly how he prefers to communicate: in person, by phone or email. This will increase his loyalty and your chances of success.

Speak the language of the other person
Simple truth: people are more willing to trust those who are like them, whom they understand. Therefore, your task is to adapt to the interlocutor. Doesn't he use jargon? Means, and you are not worth it. Are you kidding? You also need to show a sense of humor.

The method also works with a group of people. You just need to find out what manner of communication the audience responds to.

Don't clutter your speech
Every time you say "uh-uh" or "ah-ah", you lose the confidence of the interlocutor.

Remember: speech should be crisp and clear.
The best way to do it like this is to practice at home and think about your words a second before you say them.

Choose the right time
Another key to success in a conversation is the right moment. To do this, you will again have to study the person, analyze his life and schedule.

For example, many busy executives are overwhelmed with work at the beginning of the week, and on Friday they are already mentally retiring. So Thursday might be the best time to convince them.

Repeat thoughts after the interlocutor
By simple repetition, you show the person that you are listening and understanding. At the same time, you can express your own position, for example, by saying: "If I understand correctly, you think this is important because of A and B. I heard this and I think C and D." The phrase works fine without using the alphabet.

Directing your emotions
Enthusiasm and excitement should naturally develop as the conversation progresses. Having immediately pounced on a person, throwing out your emotions on him, you can suppress or push him away.

Better to start the dialogue on an optimistic but relaxed note, and only then, gradually going into details, demonstrate more and more excitement and enthusiasm for the idea. This will make you look natural and will be able to infect the interlocutor with your feelings.