Lord777
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The desire to control the people around them, to manipulate them to their advantage attracts many people - from politicians to crooks. We see examples of this daily and hourly, as they say, "at every step."
In dealing with people, you need to accustom yourself to constantly monitor so as not to become an object of manipulation, try not to do anything against your will. With any contact with people, and especially at business meetings, negotiations, conversations related to matters or events that are important to you, remember your original, original plans or intentions:
As soon as they "floated", they began to blur, - imperceptibly "pressure" on you.
In order not to become a victim of manipulators, you need to learn a few simple rules:
The easiest prey for a manipulator is a person who is embarrassed to say no. Therefore, it is better to make a mistake once than to suffer later. After all, the mistake can be corrected!
Do not "open your soul" to strangers or unfamiliar people - this gives the manipulator valuable information for latent influence on you.
In the office or in someone else's apartment - no heart-to-heart conversations.
Your personal life and problems are of interest only to close people, and the rest can use the information to their advantage.
In unfamiliar surroundings, it is best to behave in such a way that you cannot be "miscalculated." Therefore, develop several different reactions to the same action of others. And you will become invulnerable to manipulation - after all, you cannot win in a game whose rules are constantly changing. Bragging is a weak point, a favorite hook for any manipulator.
An insecure, indecisive person is especially easy to manipulate and control. Therefore, certainty, decisiveness in manners and speeches (no "just", "a little", "as it were", "a little" and other softening expressions!) Is the best protection against a manipulator. You should never act as if you surrender in advance to the mercy of the winner.
To counteract manipulation and suggestion, the main thing is to realize their presence.
To do this, you need to learn to distinguish between the main signs of manipulation:
In the speech of the manipulator, the same details and motives are always present:
When opposing manipulation, you need to know when to stop, not to overwhelm. After all, "a bad world is better than a good quarrel." Try not to "attack" first.
Better to make it tactfully understand that the enemy will not achieve his goals, and he will certainly retreat.
After all, it is extremely unprofitable for him to reveal his true intentions. But if he persists, it will not be superfluous to move on to active actions, and above all - to be ashamed to say what you think.
In this case, the main thing is to try to make the secret intentions of the manipulator explicit and bring him, so to speak, "to clean water" by asking leading questions ("Well, where are you going? " ... You can also carry out counter manipulation ("counterattack").
As the British say, "the rescue of drowning people is the work of the drowning people themselves . "
In general, be always “on the alert”, defend yourself, and then no manipulation will be scary to you, and you will, as they say, be blessed and bless in heaven.
In dealing with people, you need to accustom yourself to constantly monitor so as not to become an object of manipulation, try not to do anything against your will. With any contact with people, and especially at business meetings, negotiations, conversations related to matters or events that are important to you, remember your original, original plans or intentions:
As soon as they "floated", they began to blur, - imperceptibly "pressure" on you.
In order not to become a victim of manipulators, you need to learn a few simple rules:
Keep your distance, do not give a reason to get too close to you. Be unpredictable. Never brag in an unfamiliar society. Do not show your weaknesses explicitly.
The easiest prey for a manipulator is a person who is embarrassed to say no. Therefore, it is better to make a mistake once than to suffer later. After all, the mistake can be corrected!
Do not "open your soul" to strangers or unfamiliar people - this gives the manipulator valuable information for latent influence on you.
("How to get through?", "What time is it?", Etc.). Better to buy a card, watch, call a friend, in general, turn to a safe or familiar source of information.
In the office or in someone else's apartment - no heart-to-heart conversations.
Your personal life and problems are of interest only to close people, and the rest can use the information to their advantage.
In unfamiliar surroundings, it is best to behave in such a way that you cannot be "miscalculated." Therefore, develop several different reactions to the same action of others. And you will become invulnerable to manipulation - after all, you cannot win in a game whose rules are constantly changing. Bragging is a weak point, a favorite hook for any manipulator.
In general, any manipulation of a person or a group of people is based, as a rule, on their weaknesses or passions. This is greed, the desire to get rich quickly, curiosity (including the desire to “know your destiny”), the thirst for thrills, the desire to “show off” (make a favorable impression on others) and especially indecision.
An insecure, indecisive person is especially easy to manipulate and control. Therefore, certainty, decisiveness in manners and speeches (no "just", "a little", "as it were", "a little" and other softening expressions!) Is the best protection against a manipulator. You should never act as if you surrender in advance to the mercy of the winner.
To counteract manipulation and suggestion, the main thing is to realize their presence.
To do this, you need to learn to distinguish between the main signs of manipulation:
- a feeling of inconvenience;
- violation by the interlocutor of the generally accepted rules of etiquette (interrupts the interlocutor, interferes with the conversation, etc.);
- "Running" eyes;
- excessive gesticulation of the interlocutor, especially with the left hand (which betrays the presence of "back thoughts");
- unnatural or unusual behavior, excessive fussiness, etc.
In the speech of the manipulator, the same details and motives are always present:
- shifting responsibility to the interlocutor;
- compulsion or coercion;
- reference to the lack of time (urgency) to make a decision;
- evoking feelings of guilt.
When opposing manipulation, you need to know when to stop, not to overwhelm. After all, "a bad world is better than a good quarrel." Try not to "attack" first.
Better to make it tactfully understand that the enemy will not achieve his goals, and he will certainly retreat.
After all, it is extremely unprofitable for him to reveal his true intentions. But if he persists, it will not be superfluous to move on to active actions, and above all - to be ashamed to say what you think.
In this case, the main thing is to try to make the secret intentions of the manipulator explicit and bring him, so to speak, "to clean water" by asking leading questions ("Well, where are you going? " ... You can also carry out counter manipulation ("counterattack").
As the British say, "the rescue of drowning people is the work of the drowning people themselves . "
She once in childhood was in each of us, but then was lost by the upbringing of the so-called "good manners".
In general, be always “on the alert”, defend yourself, and then no manipulation will be scary to you, and you will, as they say, be blessed and bless in heaven.
