CarderPlanet
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Devaluation is a form of psychological abuse. Therefore, if there is an opportunity, do not get involved, run, delete them from your life.
If this is a close person and cannot be crossed out, then you can talk about your feelings, reactions to his words and actions - that this is unpleasant, offensive, painful to you. Ask not to do this anymore, say what kind of attitude you expect and will demand.
If this does not work, but you want to continue your relationship with this person (think, why do you need this?), Clearly catch the moment of depreciation, recognize it and in no case "be led", not take it personally, but look deeper - what is behind it. And there is, as a rule, an unconscious, panic, fear hidden in a thick stone shell (closeness, absorption, rejection, pain).
If this is a close person and cannot be crossed out, then you can talk about your feelings, reactions to his words and actions - that this is unpleasant, offensive, painful to you. Ask not to do this anymore, say what kind of attitude you expect and will demand.
If this does not work, but you want to continue your relationship with this person (think, why do you need this?), Clearly catch the moment of depreciation, recognize it and in no case "be led", not take it personally, but look deeper - what is behind it. And there is, as a rule, an unconscious, panic, fear hidden in a thick stone shell (closeness, absorption, rejection, pain).
