Lord777
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Always accept the other person's position, whatever it may be. This is the basic law of communication.
The difficulty is that any information that you perceive always collides with a belief system that has long been deeply rooted in you. So deep that it may seem that this system is you.
Your principles, views, your morality - all this actively prevents you from sincerely accepting a point of view that is different from yours, and makes you closed.
To be a better conversationalist, you need to stop being selfish, but become a vessel that is ready to be filled with new ideas.
We do not suggest giving up your principles, but try to abstract yourself from them in communication, forget about yourself for a while and take a neutral side.
Always remember that people are at different levels of awareness. What is in your value system is not necessarily in your interlocutor's value system. What is acceptable to you may not be acceptable to another person, or vice versa.
This does not mean that you agree that you will do the same, that you also think so. This means that you give the person the opportunity to articulate their position, and then give feedback as a result of what you heard.
Thus, you are not criticizing, evaluating, judging, or trying to overplay. If you pull over to your side, they say, only your opinion is correct, then only make the person adjust or defend himself.
The position of a person is equal to his inner world, and if they try to change him, the person will close from you and is unlikely to call him a pleasant interlocutor.
The difficulty is that any information that you perceive always collides with a belief system that has long been deeply rooted in you. So deep that it may seem that this system is you.
Your principles, views, your morality - all this actively prevents you from sincerely accepting a point of view that is different from yours, and makes you closed.
To be a better conversationalist, you need to stop being selfish, but become a vessel that is ready to be filled with new ideas.
We do not suggest giving up your principles, but try to abstract yourself from them in communication, forget about yourself for a while and take a neutral side.
Always remember that people are at different levels of awareness. What is in your value system is not necessarily in your interlocutor's value system. What is acceptable to you may not be acceptable to another person, or vice versa.
This does not mean that you agree that you will do the same, that you also think so. This means that you give the person the opportunity to articulate their position, and then give feedback as a result of what you heard.
Thus, you are not criticizing, evaluating, judging, or trying to overplay. If you pull over to your side, they say, only your opinion is correct, then only make the person adjust or defend himself.
The position of a person is equal to his inner world, and if they try to change him, the person will close from you and is unlikely to call him a pleasant interlocutor.
