How great it would be to live in a world where mutual understanding, harmony reign and everyone understands each other perfectly. Alas, life is arranged a little differently and some people annoy us very much - as we ourselves, perhaps, annoy someone.
1. They admit that they may not like everyone
Sooner or later, you will come across a person who will have a completely opposite point of view. Smart people understand this. They also acknowledge that conflicts or disagreements can even be helpful because they show differences of opinion.
If you don’t like someone, it doesn’t mean that he is a bad person. You disagree on some things, but in disputes sometimes new solutions come up. Once you admit that it is impossible to please everyone and please everyone, emotions will recede into the background and this will help you learn to listen to other people's opinions.
2. They are patient with someone they don't like
Of course, you can react sharply to any action of an unpleasant person, get annoyed because of any little thing, but still try to be a little more tolerant.
Chat with people who are not afraid to argue. It's not easy, but worth it. These people challenge or provoke us, which helps us achieve our goals and move forward. Remember that you are not
perfect, but still others still tolerate you.
3. They are polite
Regardless of your feelings for someone, the person is likely to be attuned to you in the same way you are to him. If you are rude, you will most likely get rude in return. Keep your brand and be polite, not letting your emotions take over.
4. They understand that everyone does their own thing
Sometimes we expect too much from others. For some reason, we selfishly assume that others will act in the same way as we would have done in a given situation, or they will say the same thing that we would say ourselves. However, this is not the case. Expecting others to behave yourself is tantamount to setting yourself up for frustration and despair in advance.
Tune in to each person doing the same things in their own way. Another time, you will be psychologically ready, and the habits of those around you will no longer be a surprise to you. Smart people do this all the time, and they are not surprised by the behavior of other people.
5. They are self-centered
Instead of getting angry with the person again, try focusing on why you are reacting this way. Sometimes what we don't like about someone we don't like about ourselves. These people simply touch our sore spots.
Try to find your pain points. At other times, you may be able to anticipate, soften, or even change your reaction. Remember, it's easier to change your perceptions, attitudes and behavior than it is to change someone.
6. They pause and take a deep breath
Some people's habits can just piss us off. Maybe your coworker regularly fails to complete tasks on time, or you have an acquaintance who annoys you with silly jokes.
Instead of wasting your own nerve cells again, slow down and take a deep breath. This will help calm you down and prevent overreacting, thereby allowing your head to turn on.
7. They talk about what they need
If some people constantly bully you, try talking to them calmly about it. Avoid accusatory phrases and use the phrase "When you ... I feel ..." For example, "When you interrupt me during meetings, I feel like you don't value my opinion." Then take a moment and wait for an answer.
And then you may be surprised to learn that the other person did not understand that you did not finish your speech, or your colleague was so excited about his new idea that he enthusiastically interrupted you.
8. They know how to keep their distance
If all methods fail, smart people skillfully keep their distance from those they dislike. Just go your own way. Perhaps in the future you will have the desire and the opportunity to improve relations with this person, so do not push too far.
1. They admit that they may not like everyone
Sooner or later, you will come across a person who will have a completely opposite point of view. Smart people understand this. They also acknowledge that conflicts or disagreements can even be helpful because they show differences of opinion.
If you don’t like someone, it doesn’t mean that he is a bad person. You disagree on some things, but in disputes sometimes new solutions come up. Once you admit that it is impossible to please everyone and please everyone, emotions will recede into the background and this will help you learn to listen to other people's opinions.
2. They are patient with someone they don't like
Of course, you can react sharply to any action of an unpleasant person, get annoyed because of any little thing, but still try to be a little more tolerant.
Chat with people who are not afraid to argue. It's not easy, but worth it. These people challenge or provoke us, which helps us achieve our goals and move forward. Remember that you are not
perfect, but still others still tolerate you.
3. They are polite
Regardless of your feelings for someone, the person is likely to be attuned to you in the same way you are to him. If you are rude, you will most likely get rude in return. Keep your brand and be polite, not letting your emotions take over.
4. They understand that everyone does their own thing
Sometimes we expect too much from others. For some reason, we selfishly assume that others will act in the same way as we would have done in a given situation, or they will say the same thing that we would say ourselves. However, this is not the case. Expecting others to behave yourself is tantamount to setting yourself up for frustration and despair in advance.
Tune in to each person doing the same things in their own way. Another time, you will be psychologically ready, and the habits of those around you will no longer be a surprise to you. Smart people do this all the time, and they are not surprised by the behavior of other people.
5. They are self-centered
Instead of getting angry with the person again, try focusing on why you are reacting this way. Sometimes what we don't like about someone we don't like about ourselves. These people simply touch our sore spots.
Try to find your pain points. At other times, you may be able to anticipate, soften, or even change your reaction. Remember, it's easier to change your perceptions, attitudes and behavior than it is to change someone.
6. They pause and take a deep breath
Some people's habits can just piss us off. Maybe your coworker regularly fails to complete tasks on time, or you have an acquaintance who annoys you with silly jokes.
Instead of wasting your own nerve cells again, slow down and take a deep breath. This will help calm you down and prevent overreacting, thereby allowing your head to turn on.
7. They talk about what they need
If some people constantly bully you, try talking to them calmly about it. Avoid accusatory phrases and use the phrase "When you ... I feel ..." For example, "When you interrupt me during meetings, I feel like you don't value my opinion." Then take a moment and wait for an answer.
And then you may be surprised to learn that the other person did not understand that you did not finish your speech, or your colleague was so excited about his new idea that he enthusiastically interrupted you.
8. They know how to keep their distance
If all methods fail, smart people skillfully keep their distance from those they dislike. Just go your own way. Perhaps in the future you will have the desire and the opportunity to improve relations with this person, so do not push too far.
