Many people think that personality is a combination of innate and unchanging character traits, and in order to achieve success, you need to accurately determine its type. In fact, the personality is constantly changing: today you are not the same as a year ago.
At the same time, the label that you hang on yourself limits your options. If not for him, you would be guided by specific circumstances and goals. We publish several quotes about personality from the book "Flexible Personality".
? Personality is the result
Your personality is the result, not the cause. First of all, you are shaped by your goals, as well as the self-perception and behavior that determine them. For most people, personality is the result of a reaction to events, circumstances, and social pressures. It is not intentionally created. It is not questioned. She is not chosen. When you plan where to go, you become who you want to be. You can get off the yellow brick road. Stop being who you were until now. Your past doesn't necessarily define who you are now. Your actions should not be consistent with who you were and how you are. You can change. Drastically.
? We are shaped by goals
Consciously or not, you always act for a reason, but for some purpose, and it defines your personality. Your goals - not a given set of specific traits - shape you. Over time, through repeated actions and actions, the one who you see yourself becomes your personality. The ancient philosophical concept of teleology (from the Greek "telos" - "result" or "end goal") will help us understand how it works. All human actions are determined by their ultimate goal, or result, and are aimed at achieving it.
? Every behavior has a reason
To become a conscious person, you need to understand why you are acting this way and not otherwise. Treating each action as a step towards a goal will make you much better at making decisions. But goals are not always clearly defined and articulated. When you are distracted by a YouTube video, this action also has some purpose, even if you are just shirking: pay bills, chat with friends, just watch or listen to something interesting. Even the most harmless and useless actions have a purpose.
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Those who succeed are constantly gaining new experiences. They travel, read books, meet new people. They value education and learn all the time. They are looking for something that will surprise them. They are happy to abandon their attitudes in favor of new and better ideas, while realizing that new information will help them make more meaningful decisions. They set themselves more appropriate goals and objectives. The reasons for their actions are more compelling.
? Knowledge
Knowledge is the basis for setting goals. You cannot want something that you do not know exists. So the first source of goals is experience, familiarity with the subject. Everything that you want to achieve now, you met earlier. To set more correct goals for yourself, and, consequently, to build a better life in the future, you need to learn more, change your views, open up to new experience.
? Self-confidence
You will not set yourself, let alone achieve, goals that you don’t believe in. The to-do list for the past day that you have compiled reflects your level of self-confidence. Take a look at it. How many points require courage from you? How much effort does not take? How much time did you spend reaching your goals beyond your capabilities? Your confidence manifests itself in where you work and how much you earn. And with whom you communicate. Even in the way you dress. Confidence also manifests itself in the work of imagination, which is necessary to see your future and determine what you want, even if it is beyond your existing capabilities and abilities. Confidence reflects personal beliefs about what you can do, what you can learn, and what you can achieve. And the higher your confidence, the more significant your future self.
Prepared according to the book "Flexible Personality".
At the same time, the label that you hang on yourself limits your options. If not for him, you would be guided by specific circumstances and goals. We publish several quotes about personality from the book "Flexible Personality".
? Personality is the result
Your personality is the result, not the cause. First of all, you are shaped by your goals, as well as the self-perception and behavior that determine them. For most people, personality is the result of a reaction to events, circumstances, and social pressures. It is not intentionally created. It is not questioned. She is not chosen. When you plan where to go, you become who you want to be. You can get off the yellow brick road. Stop being who you were until now. Your past doesn't necessarily define who you are now. Your actions should not be consistent with who you were and how you are. You can change. Drastically.
? We are shaped by goals
Consciously or not, you always act for a reason, but for some purpose, and it defines your personality. Your goals - not a given set of specific traits - shape you. Over time, through repeated actions and actions, the one who you see yourself becomes your personality. The ancient philosophical concept of teleology (from the Greek "telos" - "result" or "end goal") will help us understand how it works. All human actions are determined by their ultimate goal, or result, and are aimed at achieving it.
? Every behavior has a reason
To become a conscious person, you need to understand why you are acting this way and not otherwise. Treating each action as a step towards a goal will make you much better at making decisions. But goals are not always clearly defined and articulated. When you are distracted by a YouTube video, this action also has some purpose, even if you are just shirking: pay bills, chat with friends, just watch or listen to something interesting. Even the most harmless and useless actions have a purpose.
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New experienceThose who succeed are constantly gaining new experiences. They travel, read books, meet new people. They value education and learn all the time. They are looking for something that will surprise them. They are happy to abandon their attitudes in favor of new and better ideas, while realizing that new information will help them make more meaningful decisions. They set themselves more appropriate goals and objectives. The reasons for their actions are more compelling.
? Knowledge
Knowledge is the basis for setting goals. You cannot want something that you do not know exists. So the first source of goals is experience, familiarity with the subject. Everything that you want to achieve now, you met earlier. To set more correct goals for yourself, and, consequently, to build a better life in the future, you need to learn more, change your views, open up to new experience.
? Self-confidence
You will not set yourself, let alone achieve, goals that you don’t believe in. The to-do list for the past day that you have compiled reflects your level of self-confidence. Take a look at it. How many points require courage from you? How much effort does not take? How much time did you spend reaching your goals beyond your capabilities? Your confidence manifests itself in where you work and how much you earn. And with whom you communicate. Even in the way you dress. Confidence also manifests itself in the work of imagination, which is necessary to see your future and determine what you want, even if it is beyond your existing capabilities and abilities. Confidence reflects personal beliefs about what you can do, what you can learn, and what you can achieve. And the higher your confidence, the more significant your future self.
Prepared according to the book "Flexible Personality".
