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This technique, it is called “Foot in the door”, is one of the most successful manipulators in the arsenal. He uses our truly valuable traits: kindness, willingness to help, and sometimes to give the last. Disgusting reception, in general. Let's figure out how to recognize it and not let yourself be used.
The essence of manipulation is this: one day you are asked for a favor. You respond and naturally feel yourself needed, significant, kind person. Ready! Can't you help the petitioner next time? Even if the request will be many times more burdensome for you (this is what it will be).
Getting off the needle of social responsibility and the need to maintain your self-esteem in a responsive person is difficult. But probably. For example, using the "spoiled plate" method:
- Only you, with your skills, can help now.
- Sorry, I'm busy today.
- I have no one else to count on ...
- Sorry, I'm busy today.
- What should I do? I was hoping for you!
- Sorry, I'm busy today.
Nuance: you need to pronounce this phrase in the tone of a worn-out record, without a hint of irritation. The manipulator immediately counts any emotion in your voice and begins to put pressure on the feeling of guilt.
The main thing here is not to forget that they are trying to use you. The good news: as soon as the manipulator realizes that there is nothing more to catch, he will leave to look for a victim less savvy in the art of dialogue.
The essence of manipulation is this: one day you are asked for a favor. You respond and naturally feel yourself needed, significant, kind person. Ready! Can't you help the petitioner next time? Even if the request will be many times more burdensome for you (this is what it will be).
Getting off the needle of social responsibility and the need to maintain your self-esteem in a responsive person is difficult. But probably. For example, using the "spoiled plate" method:
- Only you, with your skills, can help now.
- Sorry, I'm busy today.
- I have no one else to count on ...
- Sorry, I'm busy today.
- What should I do? I was hoping for you!
- Sorry, I'm busy today.
Nuance: you need to pronounce this phrase in the tone of a worn-out record, without a hint of irritation. The manipulator immediately counts any emotion in your voice and begins to put pressure on the feeling of guilt.
The main thing here is not to forget that they are trying to use you. The good news: as soon as the manipulator realizes that there is nothing more to catch, he will leave to look for a victim less savvy in the art of dialogue.