Lord777
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Boasting
Some people are confident that by showing off a new car or a big salary, they will be able to impress those around them. This is partly true. They will impress others ... fools. Smart people will find them empty and uninteresting. When someone consciously tries to elevate himself, it immediately catches the eye and, as a rule, such efforts cause the exact opposite effect.
Too many tips
All people love to give advice. There is nothing surprising. When someone tells you about their problems, the first thing that comes to mind is to support, express their point of view, share their experience, but sometimes a person just needs to speak out. Learn to refrain from commenting in situations where you feel they might be overkill. Usually people themselves ask for advice if they really need it. In this case, try not to overdo it. An overly active advisor from the outside may seem like a self-absorbed smart guy who is sure that he knows the answers to all questions. Those who are faced with a real problem are annoyed by such know-it-alls.
"And I ... and for me ... and for me ..."
There are people who can discuss only one topic - their loved ones. They turn any dialogue into a monologue about themselves. This is annoying. Here are a couple of the most common ways to label yourself as a disgusting interlocutor:
a) Constantly interrupt your interlocutors in mid-sentence with the phrase: "This is what I have!" and start telling your story.
b) During a dialogue, instead of listening to the interlocutor, just wait for your turn to speak.
c) Try to translate any conversation to a topic that interests you and desperately continue to cling to it even after it dries up.
d) Chat too much.
Gossip
Have you decided to discuss with a new acquaintance the disgusting outfit of the lady opposite, the dirty hair of a mutual friend, or the last romance of your neighbor? Then don't be surprised if this is your last conversation with this person. Gossiping and discussing others is an amateur activity. Of course, such conversations give a feeling of superiority over others, but at the same time, they include a lot of negative moments. They are boring, useless and leave an unpleasant aftertaste behind. In addition, if you are happy to discuss others, your interlocutor may easily think that if he walks away and you take it up - this will kill any desire to communicate with you.
Fear of making a mistake
One of the biggest mistakes in conversation is the constant fear of making a mistake. When a person is too focused on making the impression of a pleasant interlocutor, it immediately catches the eye - he picks up every word, and his thoughts are concentrated somewhere deep inside, and not on the dialogue itself. It needs to be simpler. Think what you say and say what you think.
How can you avoid these mistakes? The answer is simple. Focus less on yourself. All of the above problems are rooted in too much attention to your own self. Don't let your ego go beyond and enjoy the conversation.
Some people are confident that by showing off a new car or a big salary, they will be able to impress those around them. This is partly true. They will impress others ... fools. Smart people will find them empty and uninteresting. When someone consciously tries to elevate himself, it immediately catches the eye and, as a rule, such efforts cause the exact opposite effect.
Too many tips
All people love to give advice. There is nothing surprising. When someone tells you about their problems, the first thing that comes to mind is to support, express their point of view, share their experience, but sometimes a person just needs to speak out. Learn to refrain from commenting in situations where you feel they might be overkill. Usually people themselves ask for advice if they really need it. In this case, try not to overdo it. An overly active advisor from the outside may seem like a self-absorbed smart guy who is sure that he knows the answers to all questions. Those who are faced with a real problem are annoyed by such know-it-alls.
"And I ... and for me ... and for me ..."
There are people who can discuss only one topic - their loved ones. They turn any dialogue into a monologue about themselves. This is annoying. Here are a couple of the most common ways to label yourself as a disgusting interlocutor:
a) Constantly interrupt your interlocutors in mid-sentence with the phrase: "This is what I have!" and start telling your story.
b) During a dialogue, instead of listening to the interlocutor, just wait for your turn to speak.
c) Try to translate any conversation to a topic that interests you and desperately continue to cling to it even after it dries up.
d) Chat too much.
Gossip
Have you decided to discuss with a new acquaintance the disgusting outfit of the lady opposite, the dirty hair of a mutual friend, or the last romance of your neighbor? Then don't be surprised if this is your last conversation with this person. Gossiping and discussing others is an amateur activity. Of course, such conversations give a feeling of superiority over others, but at the same time, they include a lot of negative moments. They are boring, useless and leave an unpleasant aftertaste behind. In addition, if you are happy to discuss others, your interlocutor may easily think that if he walks away and you take it up - this will kill any desire to communicate with you.
Fear of making a mistake
One of the biggest mistakes in conversation is the constant fear of making a mistake. When a person is too focused on making the impression of a pleasant interlocutor, it immediately catches the eye - he picks up every word, and his thoughts are concentrated somewhere deep inside, and not on the dialogue itself. It needs to be simpler. Think what you say and say what you think.
How can you avoid these mistakes? The answer is simple. Focus less on yourself. All of the above problems are rooted in too much attention to your own self. Don't let your ego go beyond and enjoy the conversation.
